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Regretting Past

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Assalamaulaikumwarehmatullah. I am very new here so I will need some good companions for helping me out. In case nobody's able to understand me then my only hope will be from Allah as it has always been.  I hope for everyone's contentment.

I fell in love with a guy who was not actually into me. He fancied my friend of which when I came to know, I was hurt but I had handled myself. When we came to know each other through my friend, we became friends too but we were just friends that time. As time passed by, I began to express him what I feel for him. Everyone used to say many bad things about him but just because I was blind in his love I didn't think of that way. That was time, when I couldn't even believe him nor those people. I loved him from the bottom of my heart, I did even propose him with emotions, butterflies running in my stomach. We used to meet each other, during which one day I lost control and hugged him. I didn't know that he was just flirting and having a time pass with me.

A day came, when I told him that I got posted, he showed as if he was sad but actually he didn't really care. He used to say that, time left must be enjoyed perfectly. I suspected and discussed with my best friend about this. She told me that means he does flirt. I was confused. I did, I still do really love him that's why I never pulled myself away from him anytime. After all romantic times, when I shifted, there was not even a single text I received from him. He blamed me that I told and exposed everything about our relationship to his parents, however I didn't. Cuz I knew Allah is watching me and He witnesses me. I stood brave and told him the truth. Which was that I only shared everything with my best friend. He was still blaming me and left me. He never did propose me, never did anything except romancing, didn't even ask how was I...He has a friend who liked me but I had ignored him that time. I did tell him my feelings but he didn't listen and left me too. I am then alone from that time.

But it was very great lesson to teach me. I don't now forget Allah Almighty because He knows better of me. I asked and repented forgiveness from Allah swt because I know that He is the all MERCIFUL. I still pray that both of those guy-friends stay happy and blessed with their new gorgeous soulmates. But my problem is that I am too much alone. I want to share it with someone but I couldnt. Sometimes we regret for the right things we did for the wrong people. My dear muslim brothers and sisters, I hope you'll give a hand on my shoulder.

MAY ALLAH SHOW US THE RIGHT PATH AND FORGIVE US ALL. AMEEN

JazakAllahekhair

Eeman


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  1. Dear sister Eeman walakumasalam ,
    I'm happy for you that you found a right path with help and grace of Allah on your own and are no more astray .
    All you need is to keep on strengthening your eman further so to avoid fall backs.

    You don't have to be alone. Ask your parents or family to help you with finding a suitable partner for marriage.
    In meantime make friendships and hang around only with good females.

    Along with this cleansing of heart u definitely need cleansing of your company. You were in very wrong crowd .
    Good wishes.

  2. OP: I fell in love with a guy who was not actually into me. He fancied my friend of which when I came to know, I was hurt but I had handled myself. ....... Everyone used to say many bad things about him but just because I was blind in his love I didn't think of that way. That was time, when I couldn't even believe him nor those people. I loved him from the bottom of my heart, I did even propose him with emotions, butterflies running in my stomach. We used to meet each other, during which one day I lost control and hugged him. I didn't know that he was just flirting and having a time pass with me.

    It seems like you were attracted to this guy physically and you started a physical relation with this guy by hugging him. Did this guy ever promise you any thing? Physical attraction is lust and not love.

  3. He is not worth it forget him CUT ALL CONTACT WITH THIS GUY. Get your family to look for a man for you and do not be alone with a guy not EVER. I am sorry for the pain you went through BUT islamically this is why haraam relationships are forbidden. May this be a lesson to you and whatever you do please do not lose your respect before marriage your worth more than this.

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