Is there a halal relationship without a wedding?
If there is an Islamic Woman and an Islamic Man that have both been previously married and are now divorced and have fallen in love, and the man is not ready for marriage but wants to be with her...
is there a way that they can make it halal being together just between the both of them and Allah as their witness in their own privacy?
The woman wants to be with him but is also scared of comitting a sin.
Please help!
- Lara
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Assalamu'alaikum wa rahamtullah
No there is no such relationship in Islam. If the man is not a your mahram (ie your father, uncle, son, nephew, grandfather) then he is not lawful for you to be around. You need to have an actual Islamic marriage for you to be alone together. The concept of 'dating' does not exist in Islam, for that very reason of falling into sin.
"A man is not secluded with a woman, but that the Satan is the third party to them."
[Tirmidhi #1171 and verified]
Umm Abdullah
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Lara, if the man wants to be with you then he should marry you. Any Muslim man understands that the only acceptable and halal relationship with a woman is marriage. So if he is not willing to marry you then he is not honorable, honest, or serious. Perhaps he's just playing games or looking to use you in some way. Be very careful with this guy.
Wael
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As salamu alaykum Lara,
I agree with Wael and Umm Abdullah, if this man is not ready for marriage, is not ready to be close to a woman, this doesn´t sound fare for the woman at all, and doesn´t sound good at all.
The one that will be present witnessing your privacy won´t be Allah(swt) as Umm Abdullah mentioned.
This may hurt now, but nothing compare to the pain to go through a haram relationship (guilt, secrecy, change of character, shame, desperation, lack of hope. ....) you can read many posts and comments here and you will get an idea of how damaging it is that.
I do believe that none deserves to go through that pain knowingly, you have the choice to avoid it, insha´Allah.
All my Unconditional Love and Respect,
María
Assalamu'alaikum wa rahamtullah
Sister!
There is no such relationship in Islam. But this doubt raised because of some incidents happened in Arab worlds like Egypt in the name of "Urfi Nikah".
The 'Urfi marriage is a marriage without an official contract. Couples repeat the words, "We got married" and pledge commitment before God. Usually a paper, stating that the two are married, is written and two witnesses sign it. Urfi marriages are unregistered/undocumented marriages.
Reasons for Urfi Popularity: Sex before marriage is forbidden in conservative society. Couples view an urfi marriage as a way to legitimize their sexual relationship. A husband is not financially responsible for his wife.
Most of Islamic scholars condemn this use of zawag al-'urfi.
w/salam
Kaukab
Assalamu'alaikum wa rahamtullah
it is a huge sin to commit to a realtionship without a nikah. It goes against Islam and strongly unfavored by Allah. We are Muslims and we need to follow our religion. Either do it the halal way or not at all.