Can I perform my religious obligations while married to non-Muslim man to avoid punishement after death?
Is my marriage permissible?
Hi brothers / sisters
I am a working woman who lives in Bangalore. I am a woman who strongly believes in oneness of Allah. But i was so obsessed about my colleague who is a non Muslim and who cares for me a lot.
We both couldn't resist our feelings for each other. So we both had decided to marry and live together without convincing my parents as they wont agree with this decision.
But here, my question is totally different. I very badly wanted be in touch with Allah to lessen the punishment which i am gonna get after my death as i do strongly believe in life after death. For that i know i have to perform all religious rituals... As i got married to this non Muslim guy I'm too scared to offer namaz, do fast, to read Qur'an so and so thinking that i would be punished more severely by Allah.
Please guide me brothers/ sisters to come up with a strong answer. Will i be punished if i perform all these rituals. If not so could i do all these?
- Nishfida
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Sister Nishfida, your marriage is invalid. From an Islamic perspective, you are living in sin. There is no such thing as "we could not resist". You are a human being with free will. You have the ability to choose. Either your "husband" should accept Islam, or you must divorce him.
You can see immediately the wisdom of Islam's teachings in this regard:- since your marriage, you have abandoned your religion. You have chosen your own personal desires over Allah.
Nevertheless, you should continue your prayers, fast in Ramadan, read Quran, and do your religious obligations. Just because a person commits one sin (even if it's a major one), that does not mean they should abandon their religious obligations altogether.
Wael
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Dear sister, I was once in a situation like u are now. But at the end, I found out there's lot to lose and no benefit. First of all, as a girl, marrying a non muslim brother is HARAM.y? Bcox we women are very softhearted that we easily change our minds..... So staying around a non muslin suitor ought to change your perspective toward your religion sooner than you can imagine.another thing... You are trying to make a lifetime decision without your parents consent.. Ofcourse your parents will go against it bcox they both know the side effect. But remember following your parents order and preferring their happiness never get someone disappointed.and finally my dear sister, I will like to advice you to wake up and don't do something you will regret later on. Something that might jeorpadise your children future as muslims( I hope you get what I mean)
ASSALA,ALAIKUM
1ST AND FOREMOST YO HAVE GIVEN IN FOR INFATUATION LIKE A YOUNG COLLEGE GIRL AND THROWN BEHIND YOUR BACK ALLAH HIS DEEN HIS MARRIAGE SYSTEM AND RULES AND INVITED THE CURSE OF ALLAH AND YOUR LOVING PARENTS ALIKE......
FOR THISINLY ALLAH AHS GIVEN ORDERS FOR HIJAB AND TO BE AWAY FROM NON-MOHRIM MALES AND NON-MUSLIM OUT OF QUESTION.....
AND SEE THE SEVERITY OF YOUR ACT- YOU ARE DOING ADULTRY WITHOUT CONSENT OF PARENTS-AND ISLAMIC NIKAH-LANDING YOUR SELF IN THIS TYPE OF SITUATION PURPOSELY- JUST FOR PLEASURE AND EVIL ATTRACTION OF THAT GUY WHOM YOU HAVE TAKEN HIHGER THAN ALLAH YOUR PARENTS YOUR PRESENT AND YOUR FUTURE-
IT IS BETTER FOR YOU TO BREAK UP THIS MOMENT AND 1ST STEP IS LEAVE YOUR JOB TAKE BREAK DO REGULAR PRAYER SERVES YOUR PARENTS AND START LOOKING FOR PROPOSALS AND GET MARRIED AND SETTLE DOWN..IF YOU DONT TAKE THIS STEP THEN ALLAH KNOWS WHEN THE CURSE OF ALLAH WILL BEFALL AND THE CURSE CURSE CURSE CURSE CURSE CURSE CURSE ONLY CURSE OF PARENTS WILL START ITS EFFECT AND IT WILL BE VERY LATE THEN AND THIS GUY WILL RUN AWAY FROM YOU AND YOU WILL HAVE NO ONE TO HELP AND THIS I HAVE SEEN HAPPEN WITH SO MANY YOUNGSTERS WHO HAVE DEFIED ALLAH AND DECIEVED THEIR PARENTS....
HOPE YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT WAEL HAS SAID ....Nevertheless, you should continue your prayers, fast in Ramadan, read Quran, and do your religious obligations. Just because a person commits one sin (even if it's a major one), that does not mean they should abandon their religious obligations altogether.
COMING TO YOUR STATEMENT ....As i got married to this non Muslim guy PL REPLY WHAT TYPE OF MARRIAGE YOU DID SO THAT THE FORUM UNDERSTANDS YOUR STATUS ON THIS POINT-
REGARDS
I agree sister please re think about this again I know your in love with your non Muslim husband but a Muslim brother is always better to marry because one day he will take care of you so much better then a non Muslim. That is what I think. I had cousins friends that run away with non musl guys, they thought they were in love ontill they use them dump them with 2 kids now they have no where to go and of course there parents don't want them back because they didn't listen to them.No matter how mean a muslim brother is trust me in the long run he will take care of you and be there for you, because both of you believe the same thing . Insallah you open your eyes soon sister. And please don't take my comment the wrong way.
Assalamualaikum,
Sister, it surprizes me that you want to lessen the Punishment and not be totally saved from it. Are you ready for facing the Hell Fire? This is what your statements may mean, sister.
Hell Fire is the worst possible destination. The person who will be among those given the least punishment is the uncle of Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam - Abu Talib. He will abide in Hell forever because he died on Shirk.
He will be in fire, where, only his feet will be in it, burning his ankles. But this will be enough to boil his brain. The proof is this Hadith from Sahih al Bukhari:
Narrated Abu Sa`id Al- Kh udri ﺭَﺿِﻲَ اﻟﻠﻪُ ﻋَﻨْﻪُ : I heard Allâh's Messenger ﺻﻠﻰ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ when his uncle, Abu Talib had been mentioned in his presence, saying, ``May be my intercession will help him (Abu Tâlib) on the Day of Resurrection so that he may be put in a shallow place in the Fire (Hell), with fire reaching his ankles and causing his brain to boil.''
Would you still want to "lessen" the punishment? Or would you ask Allah to admit you into the Jannah without having to be exposed to the Hell?
The Fire of Hell is so intence. Read this Hadith from Sahih al Bukhari:
Narrated Abu Hurairah ﺭَﺿِﻲَ اﻟﻠﻪُ ﻋَﻨْﻪُ : Allâh's Messenger ﺻﻠﻰ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said, ``Your (ordinary) fire is one of 70 parts of the Hell-fire.'' Someone asked, ``O Allâh's Messenger! This (ordinary) fire would have been sufficient (to torture the disbelievers).'' Allâh's Messenger ﺻﻠﻰ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said, ``The (Hell) Fire has 69 parts more than the ordinary (worldly) fire, each part is as hot as this (worldly) fire.''
How intense the fire and how painful the torment!
Allah Says in Surah ad Dukhaan:
44:43
إِنَّ شَجَرَتَ الزَّقُّومِ
Indeed, the tree of zaqqum
44:44
طَعَامُ الْأَثِيمِ
Is food for the sinful.
44:45
كَالْمُهْلِ يَغْلِي فِي الْبُطُونِ
Like murky oil, it boils within bellies
44:46
كَغَلْيِ الْحَمِيمِ
Like the boiling of scalding water.
44:47
خُذُوهُ فَاعْتِلُوهُ إِلَىٰ سَوَاءِ الْجَحِيمِ
[It will be commanded], "Seize him and drag him into the midst of the Hellfire,
44:48
ثُمَّ صُبُّوا فَوْقَ رَأْسِهِ مِنْ عَذَابِ الْحَمِيمِ
Then pour over his head from the torment of scalding water."
44:49
ذُقْ إِنَّكَ أَنْتَ الْعَزِيزُ الْكَرِيمُ
[It will be said], "Taste! Indeed, you are the honored, the noble!
44:50
إِنَّ هَٰذَا مَا كُنْتُمْ بِهِ تَمْتَرُونَ
Indeed, this is what you used to dispute."
44:51
إِنَّ الْمُتَّقِينَ فِي مَقَامٍ أَمِينٍ
Indeed, the righteous will be in a secure place;
44:52
فِي جَنَّاتٍ وَعُيُونٍ
Within gardens and springs,
44:53
يَلْبَسُونَ مِنْ سُنْدُسٍ وَإِسْتَبْرَقٍ مُتَقَابِلِينَ
Wearing [garments of] fine silk and brocade, facing each other.
44:54
كَذَٰلِكَ وَزَوَّجْنَاهُمْ بِحُورٍ عِينٍ
Thus. And We will marry them to fair women with large, [beautiful] eyes.
44:55
يَدْعُونَ فِيهَا بِكُلِّ فَاكِهَةٍ آمِنِينَ
They will call therein for every [kind of] fruit - safe and secure.
44:56
لَا يَذُوقُونَ فِيهَا الْمَوْتَ إِلَّا الْمَوْتَةَ الْأُولَىٰ ۖ وَوَقَاهُمْ عَذَابَ الْجَحِيمِ
They will not taste death therein except the first death, and He will have protected them from the punishment of Hellfire
44:57
فَضْلًا مِنْ رَبِّكَ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ هُوَ الْفَوْزُ الْعَظِيمُ
As bounty from your Lord. That is what is the great attainment.
So, my sister, save yourself from the Punishment of Allah. And follow His Advise in Surah at Tahrim:
66:6
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ عَلَيْهَا مَلَائِكَةٌ غِلَاظٌ شِدَادٌ لَا يَعْصُونَ اللَّهَ مَا أَمَرَهُمْ وَيَفْعَلُونَ مَا يُؤْمَرُونَ
O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.
Return to your family and leave this man. He is no good for you. Allah Says in Surah al Baqarah:
2:221
وَلَا تَنْكِحُوا الْمُشْرِكَاتِ حَتَّىٰ يُؤْمِنَّ ۚ وَلَأَمَةٌ مُؤْمِنَةٌ خَيْرٌ مِنْ مُشْرِكَةٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَتْكُمْ ۗ وَلَا تُنْكِحُوا الْمُشْرِكِينَ حَتَّىٰ يُؤْمِنُوا ۚ وَلَعَبْدٌ مُؤْمِنٌ خَيْرٌ مِنْ مُشْرِكٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَكُمْ ۗ أُولَٰئِكَ يَدْعُونَ إِلَى النَّارِ ۖ وَاللَّهُ يَدْعُو إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ وَالْمَغْفِرَةِ بِإِذْنِهِ ۖ وَيُبَيِّنُ آيَاتِهِ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَذَكَّرُونَ
And do not marry polytheistic women until they believe. And a believing slave woman is better than a polytheist, even though she might please you. And do not marry polytheistic men [to your women] until they believe. And a believing slave is better than a polytheist, even though he might please you. Those invite [you] to the Fire, but Allah invites to Paradise and to forgiveness, by His permission. And He makes clear His verses to the people that perhaps they may remember.
So it is clear that he is inviting you to Hell Fire. And Allah Is Calling you to His Paradise.
Any physical you had was Zina, so turn to Allah and beg of Him to Forgive you.
Abu Abdul Bari
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
You havent mentioned if his family knows about it coz sister i have lived in the same country all my life and i have interacted with these polythiests on every level on daily basis and i have noticed how communal they r and how much they hate islam. They dont like to mix with practicing muslims and intimate relations like friendship and marriage only comes into picture after u have convinced them that u dont practice islam. As friends they purposely bringup topics that would make u uncomfortable and then expect u to agree with their prejudice against islam
1 relative of mine just married a hindu girl and to do so he had to convince her father that he wasnt a practicing muslim. It was easy for him coz he is an atheist anyway. Ppl who attended his wedding told me that the wedding rituals involved major shirk..but sister u r not a hopeless case like him. U believe in akhirah. Sooner or later ur husband will expect u to accompany him to his temples or even worse bring the idol home. His family will never accept u no matter how much u tried to win them. Ur children will never learn to read the quran and when ull die sister they wont even give u a dignified islamic burial. They will burn u on sticks and that way u will ruin ur life and ur akhirah both miserably. These hypocrits indulge in every vice without guilt coz their religion allows them. They have little sense of morality. There r no rules. U must b aware of their mythology. Their gods indulged in rape and incest of every kind, stole stuff from the poor and what not. Its ridiculous.
talk to him. Tell him that he needs to convert if he wants this marriage or just part ways as soon as u can.
Dear Sister,
Our final destination is not this world. This world infact is merely an exam. Please do not fail in this exam. Allah sometimes expose us to the difficult situations just to test our belief in him and we have to act strongly. I understand your feelings of love but again this is your exam, do you want to fail in it?????? you can ask your husband to convert to Islam and if he disagrees leave him as soon as possible and save yourself and your future. I also agree with apple green. i do not live in India but here in Europe i also have sensed out that some how Hindus have hatred for Muslims.
May Allah help you.
Very good. You r strong minded person, sister. Well done
Dear Sister,
Did you know that Allah swt punishment for committing zina with your so called husband is equivalent to idol worshipping punishment? Just read chapter 25 verses 68-69. Your punishment will not be reduced, infact it will be doubled. However if repent and cut ties with that man then your sins will be forgiven inshallah.
Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
Well, if you've abandoned prayers, prepare to neither have the punishment lightened, nor ever come out of the fire unless you repent.
As for zina, that is a severe crime and it shows that you truly do not know how severe the punishment of Allah is....
Abandoning Prayer (Salaat)
A Major sin in Islam
Allaah Most High says (which means): Then there has succeeded them a generation which has given up prayers (i.e, made their praycrs to be lost, either by not offering them at all or by not offering them perfectly or by not offering them in their proper fixed times, etc.) and have followed lusts. So they will be thrown in Hell. Except those who repent and believe in the Oneness of Allaah and His Messenger (), and act righteously. [Maryam, 19:59-60]
And He (T) said (which means): Woe unto those performers of prayers (hypocrites) who are unmindful of their prayers (i.e., delay their prayer from its stated fixed time). [Al-Maa'oon, 107:4-5]
And He (T) said (which means): O you who believe! Let not your properties or your children divert you from the remembrance of Allaah. And whosoever does that, then they are the losers. [Al-Munaafiqoon, 63:9]
The commentators of the Qur’aan say: “The ‘remembrance of Allaah’ mentioned in these Aayaat means the five daily prayers. If anyone is so busy in buying and selling, or with his daily work of earning a livelihood, or with his children, that he cannot perform prayers on time, he will be among the losers.”
The first thing which will be judged among a man’s deeds on the Day of Resurrection is the Prayer. If this is in good order then he will succeed and prosper but if it is defective then he will fail and will be a loser. [Nasaa'ee, Tirmidhee, Ibn Maajah]
Informing us about the inhabitants of Hell, Allaah Most High says (which means): (The people in Hell will be asked:) What has caused you to enter Hell? They will say: We were not among those who used to pray. Nor did we feed the poor. And we used to talk falsehood (all that which Allaah hated) with vain-talkers. And we used to belie thc Day of Recompense. Until there came to us that which is certain (i.e., death). So no Intercession of intercessors will benefit them [Al-Muddaththir, 74:42-48]
The Prophet said (which means): The covenant between us and them is prayer, so if anyone abandons it he has become a disbeliever. [Ahmad, Tirmidhee, Nasaa'ee]
And he also said (which means): What lies between a man and disbelief is the abandonment of prayer. [Muslim, Aboo Dawood, Nasaa'ee]
And he said (which means): If anyone abandons prayer deliberately then he has no claim upon Allaah. [Ibn Maajah, ADAB-AL-MUFRAD of Bukhaari, Tabaraani]
And he said (which means): I have been ordered to fight against the people until they testify that there is no one worthy of worship but Allaah and that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allaah and until they perform the Prayers and pay the Zakaah, and if they do so they will have gained protection from me for their lives and property, unless [they do acts that are punishable] in accordance with Islaam, and their reckoning will be with Allaah Most High. [Bukhaari, Muslim]
And he , mentioning the prayer, said (which means): If anyone keeps to it, it will be light, evidence and salvation for him on the Day of Resurrection. But if anyone does not keep to it, it will not be light, evidence and salvation for him on the Day of Resurrection, and on that Day he will be associated with Qaroon, Pharaoh, Namaan and Ubayy bin Khalaf (an enemy of Islaam from among the Quraysh). [Ahmad, Tabaraanee, Ibn Hibbaan]
Ibn Al-Qayyim explained: The person who abandons prayer will be raised with such a foursome because his neglect of player may be due to his involvement with his property, his country, his administrative work or his trade. Therefore, if he was involved with his property he will be ressurected with Qaroon; if with his country, then with Pharaoh; if with his administrative work, then with Hamaan; and if with his trade then with Ubayy bin Khalaf, the trader among the disbelievers of Makkah.
`Abdullaah bin Shaqeeq Al-`Aqeelee Tabi`ee (Tabi`ee: a successor to the companions of the Prophet ] said: “The Companions of the Prophet did not consider the abandonment of any good deed to be disbelief except the abandonment of the Prayer.” [Tirmidhee, Haakim]
When `Alee was asked about a women who did not pray, he said: “The one who does not pray is a disbeliever.” [Tirmidhee, Haakim]
Ibn Mas`ood (R) said: “The one who abandons the prayer has no religion.” [Muhammad bin Nasr Al Mirwazee]
Ibn `Abbaas (R) said: “The one who leaves off a single prayer deliberately will find, when he meets Allaah Most High, that He (T) is angry with him.” [Muhammad bin Nasr Al-Mirwazee, Ibn Abdul-Barr]
Ibn Hazm said: “There is no greater sin after polytheism than delaying a prayer until its time has passed and killing a believer without a just cause.”
Ibraheem Al-Nakha`ee said: “The one who has abandoned the prayer has become a disbeliever.” Aboo Ayyoob Al-Sakhtiyanee said something similar to this.
Ibn Hazm writes conclusively: “It has come from `Umar, `Abdur-Rahmaan bin `Awf, Mu`aadh bin Jabal, Aboo Hurayrah and other companions that anyone who skips one obligatory prayer until its time has finished becomes an apostate. We find no difference of opinion among them on this point.”
This was mentioned by Al Mundhiree in AT-TARGHEEB WA AT-TARHEEB. Then he comments: A group of Companions and those who came after them believed that an intentional decision to skip one prayer until its time is completely finished makes one an unbeliever. The people of this opinion include `Umar bin Al-Khattaab, `Abdullaah bin Mas`ood, `Abdullaah bin `Abbaas, Mu`aadh bin Jabal, Jaabir bin `Abdullaah and Aboo Ad-Dardaa’. Among the non-companions who shared this view were: Ibn Hanbal, Ishaaq bin Rahwayh, `Abdullaah bin Mubaarak, An-Nakha`ee, Al-Hakam bin `Utaibah, Aboo Ayyoob As-Sakhtiyaanee, Aboo Dawood At-Tiyaalisee, Aboo Bakr bin Aboo Shaybah, Zuhayr in Harb, and others.
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Al-Haythamee, Ibn Hajr, AZ-ZAWAAJIR `AN IQTIRAAF AL KABAA’IR, Vol. I, (corrected by) Ahmad Abdush-Shaafee, Daar Al-Kutub Al-`Ilmiyyah, Beirut, Lebanon, 1987
Dhahabee, Imaam Muhammad bin `Uthmaan, KITAAB AL-KABAA’IR, (Engl. tr.) Mohammed Moinuddin Siddiqui, Dar El-Fiker, Beirut, Lebanon, 1993.
Sabiq, As-Sayyid, FIQH-US SUNNAH, Vol. I, (Engl. tr.) Muhammad Sa`eed Dabas and Jamal al-Din Zarabozo, Maktabat al-Khadamat-e Al-Hadithah, Jeddah, Saudi Arabia, 1987.
sister Nishfida kindly reply to this..
are you a revert ?
Do you know that ?
It is not permissible for a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim man..
The evidence for that is the verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al‑Mushrikoon till they believe (in Allaah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolater), even though he pleases you. Those (Al-Mushrikoon) invite you to the Fire, but Allaah invites (you) to Paradise and forgiveness by His Leave, and makes His Ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember”
[al-Baqarah 2:221]
Islam forbids a woman to get married without a wali (guardian), and it regards a marriage contract done without a wali as invalid.
Prophet Muhammed(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Any woman who gets married without the permission of her guardian, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1102), classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Irwa’ al-Ghaleel (1840).
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What is going on in your life right now ?
reply.. please do not spoil your life.
May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.
Dear brothers and sisters
Can you pls advice me also. Am a non Muslim but I love Allah and Islam , so I converted to Muslim and I am offering namaz as well. But around my everything is totally opposite. I am 23 years now . My family forcing me to marry, my mother crying every day, it's so painful to me , am in too tension bcz my parents always loves me lots. They done so much of things to me, each tears which falling down from my mother eyes it's like fire and like am already in hell of the earth it's that's much painful to me, they all don't know I have converted. I don't have any choices now. I have decided to marry what they found . That I convert It's only know me and allah and my Islamic center knows. What should I do . I wish Allah take me up asap. Then he will keep open door for heaven. But now I don't know what will I do . Pls help me with ur advice
Ur sister
Aisha Herath
As-salamu alaykum sister Aisha. Now that you are a Muslim, you must abide by a different side of guidelines for your life. You cannot marry a non-Muslim. It is not allowed in Islam.
I suggest that you tell your parents the truth about your conversion to Islam. But if you fear that they may commit violence against you, then keep it to yourself.
You need to seek out a Muslim husband on your own, as it is unlikely your parents will do it for you. Normally a Muslim woman must be represented by a wali (guardian) when she is married, but a non-Muslim cannot act as a wali, so in your case you must represent yourself. Find someone good and get married, Insha'Allah.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Well what religion is your husband? Does he practice it faithfully or is was he just born into a ......family? Can u practice your religion or does it cause conflict?...there are many questions u must exam...This should havet taken place before marriage.....im concerened that this has been brought up now...
Dear visitors,
I read all conversation about the marriage of Muslim with non Muslim,i notice that such type of incidences are occurring in India mostly in show biz ,it is great sin whether it is done by Muslim man or woman both do adultery(zinah) and marriage is null and vied ,so a Muslim society in countries like India would come forward and would give punishment itself because the Non-Muslim countries do not take care of teaching or law of Islam which are crystal and clear in such type of cases so punishment would be given by Muslim individual if state does not come forward for safety of Muslim faith.norms and kinds.
Hi,
I'm in a similar predicament. Im a Muslim girl and in love with a Hindu man and we want to be together and be married. He will not ever consider Islam as his religion and I will never change my religion either. He is adamant that the children are raised as Hindus.
I don't know what to do as every time i imagine my life without him, I feel like I can't breathe. I love this man to bits and he is the absolute perfect man for me. The only and the major issue is religion.
What can I do?
You cant marry him .cut all contacts with him
Why now a days muslim girls are falling in love with hindu boys .......whats going on ???
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ayesha, we cannot advise you based on a three-word comment. I'm sorry you're going through difficulties. Please register and submit your question as a separate post, or read already published posts that deal with the same issue as yours. May Allah ease your pain.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor