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Respecting Parents

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Even though my dad hasn't done much for me in life ever since he divorced my mum i still love and respect him, but ive always disrespected my mum who's here for me, no matter how many times she's though bad of me, when she got married again it's made me hate her more but i should think that my dad also got married again, i want to listen yo my mum but i just don't know what to do, i need help.

Zakhia Amir

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  1. Assalam-o-aliakum
    Sister,As you know parents are the one of greatest blessing from Allah.
    According to Hadith,
    Abdullah ibn Amr related that the Messenger of Allah said: The major sins are to believe that Allah has partners, to disobey one's parents, to commit murder, and to bear false witness (Bukhari, Muslim).
    . A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your father. (Bukhari, Muslim)
    Listen,i know the seperation of parent hurts but it doesn't meant that you disrespect them,especially your mother.you know that your mother get divorce but you don't know the original circumstances,at least once talk to your mother and try to know what she feels toward you(Iam sure much love for you),i know today women become independent,but somehow needs a husband to survive in a society.Try to understand her feelings.at the end i must say that Respect & love your mother,your heaven lie under the feet of your mother!
    Hope that helped,
    May Allah reduce your worries
    Allah(S.W.T)knows best and guide us best.

  2. Just think of your parents as being the doors to Jannah in this world for you.
    and like all Creation of ALLAH, they will die. cherish them while they are alive, receive dua from them by being kind and loving to them. Pray for their maghfirah when you are in Sajdah and at other times.

    Once they are gone, you will regret these moods of anger that you have against your parents. you are amongst the lucky few who has both parents alive, if not for them, be kind and loving to them for the sake of ALLAH.

    this should be enough motivation for you to make a 180 turn in your treatment of them by your actions, words and how you feel for them in your heart.

    May ALLAH guide us all, for HE Knows BEST.

  3. This is not our business. .Adults parents that is there buissness we will all face some marriage problems let's say tests......Remember half of Iman is marriage....Something the devil hates yes he is the 3rd person who whispers his poison into the weak hearts......but as daughter or son we should be loving and concerned of there Iman. ....think they are going die soon or later.......Did they pray 5 times a day read quran daily fast in Ramadan and work hard to go hajj....this is important........ You need to bring the love and be positive ...Know this that whatever Allah has destined was known already......we must learn Islam correctly being a sunni Muslim is the greatest gift...in this universe........life is to short so learn and Develope a bond with Allah...Allah help those who obey the commandments and follow the teachings of prophet Muhammad PBUH. ..this is the ultimate success in both of the worlds

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