How can i get rid of masturbation and from shaitaan and how can I control my nafs?
Asalamoalaikum! Im 21 years old! I'm ashamed of sharing my addiction of masturbating that is from CLASS 8 wid me but you guys are doing great job! I love to offer prayers but again on the next day I masturbate and this mostly happen when I go for sleep in night!
Shaitan is dominating me and he has full command on me plz brother n sisters plz help me! 🙁 plz tell me any ways to overcome my Nafs plz I feel that now im going away from Allah.
I'm very sad and I want to mention that I had never did any wrong thing or zina. And on this stage i can't marry i'm just a student and studying and not enough established to support my wife... any cure plz tell me!
and i can feel all drawbacks I'm weak with short height my mind is too weak my body usually pains.
- khan
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Walaikum Salam brother Khan,
I am pasting a few links to similar posts where some brothers and sisters have rendered some really beneficial advice which I am sure will be of great help to you iA.
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/addicted-to-masturbation/
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/my-past-is-haunting-me/
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/husband-masturbates-should-i-divorce/
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/masturbation-is-my-only-option/
I hope this will help you iA, may Allah (swt) protect out youth from such evils. Amin
Muhammad1982,
Editor, IslamicAnswers.com
Asalaam alaikum,
To add to the posts that are given above, what's most important is you acknowledge that Allah (swt) is All-Wise when He says that Shaytan is your open enemy. Knowing this, you must begin to examine which habits of yours' are leading you towards the actions you must refrain from. So if you are fantasizing about women, is it one particular woman, classmates, neighbor, movie star or a woman of porn depictions? Whichever it is, you must avoid looking at these movies, pictures and limit interactions with women. If it's music that is causing your mind to go astray, then limit what you are listening to.
For example, one brother that I was talking to who was suffering heartache over a failed relationship said that he realized that every time he listened to a song about the same subject, this made him desperate and hopeless. So right now, he is refusing to listen to any music that reminds him of the situation. This has kept him from lamenting it, but also has him going towards Allah (swt) with purer prayers and intentions of seeking deliverance from his issues. The same could be said of your situation if you find that outside influences are wrecking havoc upon you. Though ultimately you are responsible for what is going on, you must be able to recognize the situation that you must avoid.
While Shaytan does tempt you, you must realize that you do have the power of overcome him if you rely on Allah (swt) as your greatest Helper. This will be like turning a giant ship in the sea around. It doesn't happen instantaneously if you are adrift with no fuel in your engine, but it can happen if you call on Allah (swt) to put you back on the right course.
Use the advice in the links given above, but remember that no matter who weak you are, Allah (swt) can make you strong enough to overcome this problem. Turn to Him constantly and persistently. Thisis the key to success.
Get married, you don't have to build a family instantly. You could have the Nikkah performed
with a girl who is pious and you don't have to move together instantly. I think even for Sunni
that's possible. So u can spend time with her and are halal for each other. Look at the heart
as well and her soul. But unless Mut'ah is not allowed in your school, I would definitely
advise you to get married instantly, even if you can't provide for her. Try to find a compromise,
as long as the marriage is consummated it doesn't play a role if you still live with your parents
or not.
Sister jannah I will advise u to stop deviating the ummah from the straight path with the fabricated knowledge that u r forwarding. Sister mutah is not allowed in
islam at all Allah says in the quraan he has put love and mercy between the two so why would he do that if marriages where done only for sex?
The prophet said a man who cannot find the means to marry should fast .... I dislike ur comment totally its very bad advice.
Sahih muslim : Book 008, Number 3251:
Iyas b. Salama reported on the authority of his father that Allah's Messenger (may
peace be upon him) gave sanction for contracting temporary marriage for three nights in the year of Autas 1847 and then forbade it.... Allah’s Messenger
(s.a.w) said:
“The lawful thing which Allah hates most is divorce.”
Misyar is allowed in sunni school of thought. So please, don't say a word about mut'a when misyar is allowed in sunni school of thought.
salam aleykom
Misyar is a debatable issue. Not all scholars allow it. Personally I think it is destructive, anti-women, and anti-family. Married men marry a second woman misyar, use her only for sex without supporting her financially, then when she gets pregnant they divorce her with no obligation toward her. How is that Islamic?
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
That's not even humane. I totally reject this.
Asalam o Alykum
Dear Mutah isn't haram, if a person doesn't find any other way under the Ahkaam of Allah swt then he can perform Muttah. Now the question is what are the Ahkaam of Allah swt. If a person is married and has one wife so under the Ahkaam he has a way to contract a second marriage then third and fourth. At the time when there was tendency to do Muttah there were many circumstances in which a man had no other option e.g. a person usually used to take 4 or 5 years to come back from any other country where he happened to be in connection with a trade business and he was having four wives already. Now in this materialistic world you can get back to your home in hours even if you are in USA. Or you can take your wife along. So Muttah isn't practicaple technically.
Nora islam is not as cruel as you think it to be misyar is a innovation its bid'ah where in the quraan did our creator mention misyar where in hadith did our messanger mention misyar? This is what our beloved prophet s.a.w said:
11. The Prophet sallallahu alaihe wasallam has stated, "The greatest sin amongst all sins in the eyes of Allah, is of a person, who marries a woman and divorces her once his needs have been fulfilled and also usurps her dowry in the
process. Secondly, is a person who after having employed somebody usurps their pay. Thirdly, is a person who kills animals for no apparent reason."
(Al-Hakim and Al-Bayhaqi: Ibn Umar)
Dear brothers and sisters i am very ashamed to post this but i
Cant control my habbit of masturbation.
Hasnain, please read the answers already given on this post and other similar posts we have published.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
I have read all the reply above and i have also attempted it but
Could'nt get hold of it please help me!!
Brother my father want's me to join pak army and i
Also want to join it but i am afraid that when i will have
A complete medical check up they won't select me due
to masturbation please reply soon.
Brother , If you want to join army then masturbation is not a problem . In complete medical test they wont be asking about size of your penis or its erection etc, because they don't really care about it. You just need to built stamina by eating good appetite and healthy food in excess along with exercise. In CMB the only person who will be concerned about this will be the surgeon, but he will not examine your penis bur will examine your testicles for HERNIA or Veroneca . In short , just quit masturbation for some time , eat good , exercise regularly , avoid haram things like music , porn , movies etc... spend most of the time outside and most importantly consult some herbal hakeem , he can easily get you rid of the deficiency being created due to masturbation and the overnight dreaming problems while asleep.
Read and listen to Surah Al-Tariq and Al-Rehman before going to bed and Ayat ul Kursi. I hope you will be better and 70% satisfied with trying these things. Also create some will power to get out of this problem. Allah will help you InshaAllah...
*I had same problem and I have been recomended in PMA L/C PAk army and CMB cleared twice*
Brother controlling masturbation is in your own hands but 1 tip from me is that never think or try of thinking any bad thing which u get thought of masturbation... And never be alone.
Asalam o Alakum To All, Sorry My English is poor.
I read all these type of posts and i get encouraged when i read it, i get control for 10 days then suddenly don't know what happened with my mind i do the masturbate, then i feel ashamed 😐 i want to stop this, i know am destroying my life, some times am crying bcz of this, but am not getting control on it, now i am 23 year old, and i am doing this for last 6 years, plz help me, any dua for reciting 😐 ??
waqar, if it's only masturbation (and not pornography) and you do it so infrequently, then I would say don't worry about it. I hardly think it's destroying your life. Insha'Allah once you get married you will have a lawful outlet for your desires.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
plz help me from masturbation.................i can t control.......
Assalam O Alaikum wrwb Asif,
Follow the advice already given under this and other similar posts (search the database) or else please write your question as a separate post which will then be answered on it's turn.
Muhammad1982,
IslamicAnswers.com, Editor.
I prayed in Ramadan as best as I could. I asked for forgiveness time again and again . I told god with sincerity that I will not go back to my old habbits . I asked him to purify my heart. I asked him to help me out when I being dominated by my desires. Desires that occupy my head 24/7. I told him yo help me out cuz I easily get dominated by desires. I asked him to free from these 24/7 evil thoughts and so I can serve you with pure heart to my best. But after ramadan nothing changed. Nothing at all. Does it mean it was a time waste? He didn't forgive me? Why didn't he help when I asked for it when I needed it why why why
What are you doing for Allah so that He will help you in return? "In tansur-ullaha yansurkum wa yuthabbit aqdaamakum." If you help Allah, He will help you and make your feet firm. Allah does not need our assistance. "Helping" Allah means obeying Him, struggling against our desires, trying to do better every day... taking concrete action to make our situation better. If you do that, then Allah will help you.
And don't expect instant results. Significant change takes time and effort. It takes work.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Assalam alaikum,
Please do not give up and the way that you feel is exactly how shaitaan wants you to feel especially right after Ramadhan. he, shaitaan, wants you to feel hopeless, defeated and as your nick suggests, dead.
You must see that Allah's forgiveness cannot even be surpassed by the evilness of our true and open enemy shaitaan. Iblis, is lower than the depths of despair, do not fall there.
Two things I learnt today:
Falling in water does not make us drown, but staying in the water without swimming or trying most definitely will.
Not one of us knows Allah swt or the angels in the way shaitaan did and does, and we cannot even compare our worship to him, but remember, shaitaan never loved Allah and eventually disobeyed Allah and openly rejected and never sought His Forgiveness--do not repeat this horrific error.
May Allah help you and may you help yourself, Ameen.
Thank u every body for commenting above and trying to solve each others problems and helping out get rid of this disease. Now I want to tell every body a simplest cure for this bad habit that is NAMAZ.if u pray even at least 3-4 ttimes a day i guarantee u 100% that u will leave this shit forever but remember when u will miss NAMAZ u will masturbate again.just try not to miss a single prayer. Thanks..
walikum salam my dear. first of all you realise that your doing bad habit then ready your mind set to help you thinking positive .from now stop watching porn it my be the case. and take exercise 30 minuts a day even more take long walk. spend ur time sports. before you go to sleep take a long exercise .dont let bad thoughts on your mind.
zub, jazak Allah khayr for your comment. Please do not include your email address in your comments.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
I feel really good to see muslim brothers helping each other in order to get rid off sins;
and want to say thanks to the creator of this plateform who does their best effort to solve teenage problem,
now i wll share my bad habbit that is i masturbate from laast ten years.i m lucky that it does'nt seems that i masturbate,but i know that it creates problems,it's root of problems.!
Plz guide me other than given above posts if any!
i m 21 years old
A.O.A ....... My all dear brothers and Sisters 🙂 , it's immense pleasure for me to see that all of you show resistence against this abortive activity . Unfortunately everyone discuss remedies about that virulent and sinful disease but nobody concentrate on it's cause . We all know that in this modern world how easily we get access to any vulger and noxious media or broadcoast . We can't imagine that how our minds are giong to be offensive and X-rated by this sordid western media . We're giong to be hypnotize .Forinstance if any one watch any type of porngarphy so it's not big deal for us to abstain or stop him from this because today we consider it so light , it's just like as we drink water everyday . Miserably these type of dirty and crude material is avaible everywhere and no1 care about it . Today we watch this nonsense by diong this repeatdly and from this it's prediction nd brothers one day will come when we become stolid nd there is no difference between the thinking of europeins and ours in this regard . It's our responsibility that we should aware all our teenagers to these facts that we are giong to be hypnotized by western culture, we're all shortsighted we don't see their conspricies and objectives these bullshit and nonsense anti Muslim want to make us like them , they want to make ourself stolid ...... Anyhow by the grace of Allah Subhana Wa Tal'ah i'm muslim and i don't let him to spiol our young generation in this crude ...... Anyhow let's come to our previos topic .... There is famous quote's ;
strenght doesn't come from physical excercise , it's come from your will power .
As mentioned above Namaz is powerfull remedy for all immoral actions . Afterward , im my opionion Will power is greatest weapon for this shamefull urge ...... We should do Mediation in this matter , because when we will do it then we're giong to controll on our concious ...... Brother's if any1 of you practise this excercise , for that person i don't need to mention it benefits ..... To sumup , just take five time pray and do mediaition upto 30 minutes daily then see how your life will change ..... May Allah Subhana Wa Tal'ah bless you and abstain you from all sins in this World ... Regards
Jalal
Salam,
I'm 16 years old and i'm a student. I have this same problem of masturbation I've tried to stop it for 3 to 4 months but after then i start it again. I don't why but it's really destroying me and i think if i kept on doing this then my life will come to an end. Nowadays i'm having my summer vacations and i have nothing to do. I go for study but you know it's for some hours. At night I'm suffering from this addiction too much. I don't know why do i get so much seduction of doing it even i'm too much weak. My every part of body is being weak. My all family members and my cousins are healthy and they have very good body & health when i see them and see myself i feel very pity on myself 🙁 please someone help me.
change your routine try gym or running activities
for the most of all your belief towards God is the main shield. pray to achieve the complete faith all the time specially whenever you have distorted ideas.
Lower your gaze.
I've known many Muslim guys who've suffered from the same thing. I know one that couldn't control his urges no longer and ended up giving his purity to a prostitute.
When he told me I was devistated. 1. Because his purity should have been a gift to his wife after marriage. 2. Because their are so many Muslims (refugees) that live in horrible living conditions, and instead of paying a demon of shaytan to relive him he should have given it for charity.
I advise you to seek a solution to this soon before it leads to something you'll regret.
A friend told me his way of stopping was to think of Allah watching you, and his throne shaking violently at what he is witenessed.
Inshallah you will overcome these urges. Good on you for having the courage to seek a solution.