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Is it right to take off hijab after marriage?

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I am not married but engaged. He is in UK, and I am in Pakistan. Now I wear hijab, but after marriage I wanted to take off hijab. He did not say he would mind, because the ladies in his family do not wear hijab. I don't understand what I should do. Please help me and tell me if it's right that now I wear hijab, and after marriage I do not wear it?


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  1. assalamalailkum-1st NOTE-
    Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin (Radhiallaahu Ánha) "Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) said "Allah does not accept the prayer of a woman who has reached puberty unless she wears a veil."
    Sahih Al-Bukhari Volume 9, Book 89, Hadith # 293
    Because the ladies in his family do not wear hijab.-
    from where did u get the idea thatthe Hijab is a choice not farz-? next where in the world is there any home where hijab is optional
    Now in your house what niyah did u start hijab is it for the people or for the sake of Allah-

    The Noble Qur'an - Al-Ahzab 33:59
    O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils)* all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Mercifu
    Hadith - Bukhari 6:282
    'Aisha used to say: "When (the Verse): 'They should draw their veils over their necks and bosoms,' was revealed, (the ladies) cut their waist sheets at the edges and covered their faces with the cut pieces."
    Hadith - Abu Dawud, Narrated Umm Salamah, Ummul Mu'minin
    When the verse "That they should cast their outer garments over their persons" was revealed, the women of Ansar came out as if they had crows over their heads by wearing outer garments.

    • the hijjab is to protect you from the bad looks from men and when you have a husband by your side to stand up for you and symbolize your togetherness then is hijab still necessary afterwards?

      • Hijab is not worn only for safety from men. It is first of all an act of obedience to Allah, since He commands it in the Quran. Secondly, it is a matter of modesty, since Islam considers the woman's hair to be part of her 'awrah. You have to think of hijab as a blessing and simply a part of a decent woman's dress, rather than a burden. So the answer is yes, a married woman must still wear hijab in front of non-mahrems.

        Wael Editor

  2. Assalamu'alaikum,

    Sister, if his family does not observe hijab, it is not for you to take it off, but try and change them instead. Hijab is your royal robe, the adornment of a queen. Why on Earth do you intend to take it off?

    If they do not offer Salah, will you do likewise? Like prayer is for the sake of Allah and is Wajib, hijaab is, too. So the answer to your question is: you can not. Take it as a new challenge and face it. I say challenge because I know this is what you are feeling now. You think you will look woman wearing hijaab while others disobeying Allah.

    During my college a few years ago, I was the ONLY man with beard and one who wore short trousers to avoid isbaal. I did feel odd in the beginning but later I felt satisfied and delighted for being able to obey Allah and His Rasool while there were innumerable others who were openly disobeying. So, thank Allah and shoo Shaitan away.

    Abu Abdul Bari Editor

  3. Dear Sister,

    Please know that this response is coming from a girl who belong to non hijabi family and has not been covering her head this long but now is struggling to wear hijab out of love for it and to please Allah (Swt). i am on my way to start wearing it.

    i couldn't understand why you wish to take off hijab after marriage? Allah (Swt) has asked us to cover ourselves and prophet (pbuh) has instructed us to cover our entire body except hands and face. Then why do you want to disobey their command?

    HiIjab is our identity as Muslimah, it makes a woman look much more beautiful & safe. women with hijab are more respected in the world than non hijabi. I have seen this around. if you take off hijab out of your choice then i think you will be punished for this as your husband is neutral about it, i think he does not understand its meaning and importance.

    i would strongly recommend that instead of giving up hijab, you should try to invite your future family members towards wearing it. They might be ignorant of its meaning and importance being living in an Non Islamic country. if you do so, you will earn reward for this. But if you leave hijab just because they do not, then you will earn punishment for yourself. Remember my sister, on day of judgement, we all will be an individual, we wont have the excuse of putting blame on anyone else as such.

    so my strong recommendation to you would be that do not give up your hijab.

    i wish you good luck for it and for your marriage.

    your sister.

  4. I am not married but I do where the hijab . It's not permissible to quit your hijab that you have been wearing for lifetime just for your husband . If you truly are committed to pleasing Allah then take it for granted that you might stand out but you're going to get everlasting reward in the hereafter....I know it's a lot to take in but stay true to your religion and you will be in good hands

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