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Seeking forgiveness

Salam alikum ,

i have 4 things to ask,

1, when I was little I was used sexually I remember when I was 4-5 my cousin was kissing me all our my body but I am pretty sure he never did intercourse and thanks to Allah for that ,

2,when I got in age 15-16 i met a guy online I didn't want to talk about sex to him at all I didn't even know what does sex mean ,he forced me to talk to him and he told me he likes to enter his private to mine and I was just listening to him and Shaytan was letting me to do as he was saying he asked for my private parts picture and I did sent he sent me his I felt bad and I deleted it quickly , I had no intention of doing that but does it consider zina am I still a Virgin?

3, I used to watched porn videos a lot but I stopped and I regretted and I ask for forgiveness till now I never went back to the porn ,

4, I am 20 and engaged to the love of my life I love him like hell he is my cousin and I cnt tell him my past at any cost I don't wanna lose him even if  by chance we couldn't get married in this world I don't mind but in next life I want him badly I can't live without him , am I still Virgin for him after doing all the grave sin ? I feel bad for him but I can't lose him , will Allah forgive my sin and place me in jannah with him , please answer me asap , jazakh Allah


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  1. Allah will forgive if you never did it again. May Allah guide us and make us hold on tooour deen

  2. When you are little like 4-5 you don't know what is what.
    You were a little kid

    God's not going to hold that against you.

    I think you should have complained to your parents about that.

    Expecially if your cousin was much older.

    You didn't know what was going on
    But he sure did.

    A cousin of mine attempted the same
    I told my entire family
    And it was a shame 4 him

    When you were 15, And we're talking to a guy online

    I seriously doubt he forced you into sex talk
    You could easily shut the computer down

    I seriously wish you did not show your private pics
    Not only is it a sin
    But once something goes on the net
    It never comes down
    Someone can find the pics and blackmail you
    By sending them to your family and friends
    Leading to more issues

    You need to spend a lot of time in prayer and good deeds to get forgiveness

    A lot of people watch porn.
    It's something that just goes on
    Is it right?
    But just don't do it again

    Feeling bad for your mistakes is a good sign that you want to change
    God knows that

    You are admitting you have an issue.

    There is NOTHING bad about Sex.
    Sex is what keeps us alive
    Sex is what continue generations
    We are humans and Sex is a must
    It's our natural right to have it.

    The only thing is that we must be married for obvious reasons

    When it comes to your cousin
    Expecially if he is Indian pakistani .

    They have this ridiculous idea that women must be perfect and not have sex urges.

    I don't care how many times your fiancée acts buddy buddy and says
    "Tell me the truth, did someone kiss you or did you have a bf?"


    You won't go to hell
    God does not hate you
    Just try to be the best version of yourself
    Congratulations on your engagement
    Good luck

  3. Walykum assalam wr wb.

    You are definitely virgin. Get married soon

  4. 1 and 2: A person is not held accountable for what he does while he or she has not yet reached the age of puberty. A person is not punished for anything he/she does during this period.
    The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) has stated this, “The pen has been raised for three persons (meaning they are not held accountable for what they do): one who is sleeping until he gets up, a child until he reaches the age of puberty, and an insane person until he becomes sane.” (Ahmad, Abu Dawud, At-Tirmidhi, An-Nasa’i, Ibn Majah, and Al-Hakim)

    3: Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
    Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."

    4: “(there will be) therein all that the ones inner-selves could desire, all that the eyes could delight in, and you will abide therein forever”

    [az-Zukhruf 43:71].

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