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Seventeen, pregnant and suicidal… Considering abortion

I'm seventeen and pregnant. I don't know how to raise a kid and I have no home, money, job and trying to finish high school. My boyfriend is very verbally abusive and we're a very toxic relationship that might start to turn physically abusive. I don't want to have this baby. I hate the fact that I'm pregnant and I can't keep carrying it. I told my mom and she's against abortion. I'm against abortion too but I can't have this baby. I just can't. I really want to abort but I'm so scared of God. I know if I abort I'm going to regret it  but I'm very suicidal and carrying someone's baby I hate is pushing me over the edge.

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  1. DO NOT ABORT THE CHILD TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS. I know it is hard but pull yourself together.

    If you feel so strongly about not keeping this baby maybe you could have it adopted at least it would be loved by someone who cares. THEN PART OF ME SAYS YOU WILL REGRET THIS. Your mum is right and only wants the best for you, maybe you should listen.

    I STRONGLY RECOMMEND YOU NEVER HAVE KIDS OR BABIES in the near future until you are mentally, physically and socially well. This what happens when having sex before marriage it has consequences.

    I strongly feel in FUTURE you should avoid such sins for your own safety and THE future. Strongly avoid ALL MEN AND GOING COUNSELLING.

  2. Assalaamualaikam

    Sister, I can only imagine how scared and alone you feel right now, but please remember that you are not alone - your mother will do her best to support you inshaAllah, and you can always rely on Allah - He is the best of planners and loves all of us. He has created this life inside you for a reason, even if you cannot see the reason just yet.

    If you do not want to raise the child, then you do have options. Perhaps your mother or another family member would be willing to take on the role. Or, there are many sisters who for whatever reason are unable to have children of their own - adoption could be an option to consider?

    You've already said that you are against abortion, that you know you would regret it... Don't allow shaitan's whispers to push you down a path you already know to be wrong.

    I think it's important for you to talk with your doctor about how you feel. You might find that counselling and professional support can inshaAllah help you feel more positive about your situation, and help stop these suicidal thoughts.

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  3. allah pak loves his every servent. U did wrong but allah loves you. Ask for your forgivness like a beggar ask for help. Dont abort your child its not his/her fault. Raise your child well so he would not repeat d same mistake. Insha allah thngs wl get fine.

  4. Why don't u have it ....and then decide if u dnt want give him up for adoption this will be better...but I'm sure after its born u wouldn't wanna give him up.

  5. Why don't u try solving this toxicness.if its NT find a husband with whom u cn build a good relationship.

  6. I don't mean to sound harsh but Don't punish a life because of your mistakes this is sort of why we as Muslims don't have sex before marriage. If you really can't raise it then put the soul up for adoption.

  7. Dont' abort, I was forced into abortion and i feel the guilt and pain of it everyday. You will regret it, and when people say the pain goes away with doesnt , it brings many more consequences. It also makes u feel like you wont ever have a child again, because you made that mistakes ones.

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