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Should a sexually unfit person marry?

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I am a 20 years old muslim boy. I love a girl (she also loves me), she forces me to tell my parents about us and send proposal... But I think I am not sexually good, I haven't done sex that's why I can't tell anything in detail. I feel I ejaculate prematurely (during masturbation) etc...

In short, I am not sexually fit. Should I go for marriage. I don't want to ruin any girl's life, plz help me in taking decision...

~ irfankhan


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  1. ASSALAMALAIKUM
    PL DONT MAKE YR SELF A BLUNDER PRE MATURE EJACULATION HAPPENS WITH EVERY ONE AND THAT DOES NOT MAKE OY UNFIT////
    IT IS DUE TO OVER HEAT IN THE BODY AND EXCITEMENT THAT HAPPENS - GO AHEAD AND GET MARRIED AND WHEN YOU HAVE SEX DAILY OR ALTERNATELY THAT OVER OAD WILL REDUCE AND ALL WILL BE FINE
    PL TAKE OUT FROM YR MIND THAT YOU ARE ANY WHERE LESS THAN OTHERS

    IT IS JUST YOUR IMMATURE THINKING GET IT OUT FROM YR MIND IMMIDIATELY THINK POSTIVE AND TAKE THE NAME OF ALLAH AND MOVE FURTHER......

    REGARDS

  2. First of all, boyfriend and girlfriend  are not allowed in Islam.

    Second of all, Masturbation (for both men and women) is haraam (forbidden) in Islam. 

    Third of all, if you feel that you are not physically well talk to her tell her before you proceed.

    Lastly, Allah is the Most Merciful and He always responds to whoever calls on Him. So, asking for Allah’s forgiveness make tawba and do your Islamic duty, and inshallah Allah will help you by His will.

  3. Salaams,

    Being "sexually unfit" is not a permanent condition. Honestly, I don't think you would be able to accurately judge such things just based off of what you've observed yourself with masturbation only. Sexual intercourse may go a whole different way for you- but you won't know that until you actually do marry.

    Even if you did have a problem with premature ejaculation, there are a lot of treatments for it through therapy because it is rather common. I don't think it would be adviseable to forego such an important sunnah for that alone. There are men who are paralyzed and cannot even enjoy sex, but this doesn't keep them from enjoying the other aspects of marriage or finding ways to keep their wives satisfied.

    On a more important note, you need to stop keeping this relationship a secret and follow the sister's suggestion of getting your parents involved. If you want to see a doctor on the side to address your fears then do so, but don't use that as an excuse to entertain a haraam relationship.

    -Amy
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  4. so what if this does continue into marriage, does it mean he can't fulfil a key obligation in marriage?

  5. Thank you every one for the responses...
    @ALI YOUSUFF
    Thanks friend for your motivation...

    @Nadia
    Yes sister, u r saying right... But our relation is very limited, means we are relatives but don't even meet separately... Don't talk on calls etc... She is very religious and forces me to offer namaz, read Quran etc... I can't talk to her about this topic... May be she don't have that much knowledge to understand what I intend to say...
    And yes I am trying to leave this bad habit.. But it is very difficult. But I will... Insha Allah.
    Thanks.

    @ AMY
    Thanks for the reply.

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