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Concert: To go or not to go? That is the question

Beatles concert

Is it a bird, is it a plane, no - its the Beatles, ahhh! 'Well, she was just 17, you know what I mean..'

So I'm 16 and I'm going to a concert with a friend in a years time. I asked both of my parents for permission and they both said yes. If one of them said no, I wouldn't buy the tickets in the first place.

Now my dad is going on about how there will be alcohol, drugs and boys to interact with which probably wont happen since most of the crowd will be teenage girls under the age of 20. So I informed him I don't have any plans to do those sins at all during the concert.

Afterwards he said that it's better to give zakat instead of going to the concert and how there are a lot of hungry kids out there. I told him that I know there are hungry kids out there since I always try to give money to charities when I have the money and I did a whole speech about poverty for school.

Then he went on how it's better to sell the tickets (the concerts are all sold out) and keep the money. I told him if I don't want to go to the concert anymore I'll sell them and give it all or most of it as zakat, like how he said before. Afterwards he said that it wasn't a good idea. I asked him if he trusted me and he said yes.

So at first I was allowed to go, now I can't according to my dad. I always listen to what my parents say about not being allowed staying at my friends house or going on camps. But the concert will be for a couple of hours and my parents will be dropping us off and picking us up. What should I do?

~Nur1234


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  1. Observing the Customs of Non-Muslims (I)

    The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Are you observing a pagan custom! I was thinking of invoking such a curse upon you that your appearances might be deformed.” [Ibn Majah]

    PROHIBITE EVEN TO COPY THEIR TRADITIONS ATTENDING IS HARAM-
    The prophet Muhammad (sallah Allahu alayhi Wasalam) ran a pattern of trying to be different from the Kuffar and we see those ignorant heads with spoiled followers who attempt to run a contradicting pattern of imitating and enjoining them!
    However, there are issues of tradition we are similar in, but we do not derive it from them, so there is a difference between innovating practices, traditions, saying and greetings to become similar to the infidels and those traditions that just coincidently continued on.
    From showing you some examples of proof, we see clearly that celebrating the holidays of the infidels in any manner is prohibited because it is not from Islam.

    IF U NEED TO TO KNOW THE COSQUENCES OF THEIR PARTIES PL SEE IN GOOGLE 100 GONE WILD
    THEY TARGET NEW AND AND PARTICULARLY MUSLIMS GIRLS IT TAKE 2 MINUTES FOR THEM TO MIX SOME THIN IN ACOOL DRINK THATS ALL THEM U WONT KNOW WHERE U ARE HOW MANY RAPED AND SPOILT THE SANCTITY OF A GIRL WHICH IS TRUST FORM ALLAH FOR A MARRIAGE ARRANGED BY ALLAH FOR COMPANION OF YOUR LIFE-TO COME......

  2. I can understand ur father's concern, even if u dnt plan on doing something haram. Ur father probably trusts u, otherwise he woudnt agree in the first place. But there will alot of other ppl there as well which can cause harm to u etc. Thats y he is worried. He is worried about ur safety.

    It would have been better if u had a parent, brother or some other adult person to go with u

  3. THIS IS DEFYING THE HADEES VERY OPENLY
    It would have been better if u had a parent, brother or some other adult person to go with u....

    It is not befitting for a believer, man or woman, when a matter has been decided by Allah and
    His Apostle, to have any option about their decision: if anyone disobeys Allah and His Apostle,
    he is indeed on a clearly wrong path. (Surah Al-Ahzab, 33:36)

    1430 YEARS BACK ALLAH HAS DECLARED THE SYSTEM FOR YOUR SAFETY - YOUR FATHER IS THINKING NOW ON THAT LINES ONLY-

    BE IT FATHER OR SON OR DAUGHTER WE DONT HAVE ANY CHOICE BUT TO FOLLOW ISLAMIC WAY OF LIFE THAT IS GO NOT TO THE PLACES OR FUNCTIONS OF KUFFAR CURSED BY ALLAH WHICH START WITH DRINKS AND LEAD TO ADULTERY RAPES AND ACTS OF SATAN....

  4. Nur1234, Asalaamualaykum,

    I cannot reply in length at the moment as I must rush to work.

    But my brief reply is this: I am assuming you want to go to a Music concert with unislamic entertainment. If you were my daughter, I would not allow you to go at all. Your father has given you permission to go in a moment or weakness or perhaps confusion but has now realised that he made the wrong decision. The mistake that he is making is that he is giving you every 'excuse under the sun' not to go, instead of telling you the real reason that you should not be going. And that is this: It is not right for any muslim girl/boy or adult to be attending concerts where there will be unislamic environments such as music, dance, drinking, free mixing etc. It goes completely against the teachings of Islam - period.

    Furthermore, that you think you are strong enough to refain from indulging in the 'sins' that will be going on around you, does not make it 'ok' for you to go. You don't know how you will react till you are tempted. And if your point was valid, then who's to stop you or anyone from going pubbing and clubbing etc?

    I would like to write more and add hadiths and ayahs to help you understand, but duty calls. Insha'Allah someone else will elaborate on my points, otherwise I shall do so later this evening insha'Allah.

    SisterZ
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • I couldn't have put it better myself. JazakhAllah sister, you have made me feel a lot better for not attending Drake's concert yesterday for those very reasons you have mentioned.

  5. Sister Nur1234,

    My response is no different to others above. Though, I just want to say that two that I know, one Muslim and the other NonMuslim, they went to concerts and one just went with group of girls for studying purposes aboard, these particular girls lost it without their will, i.e. they got raped.

    The non-Muslim one is under GREAT DEPRESSION, always feels suciadle. She has been in thraphy for good 6years and it is not helping her at all.

    Whilst the Muslim girl, (who can't remember the actual incident in full as she was made drunk along with some other girls), her family gave her their support and somehow she regained a bit of confidence/ self-esteem and got married. Unfortunatly her marriage did not last long when the truth was released to her husband. She is now living with her parents.

    Sister Nur1234, I am not saying these are the kind of things always happening in concerts but yes, chances of happening are much higher in such places than anywhere else. Generally, bad things happens to girls and only very few reports to the police.

    That is why Islam put in place Hijab and full modesty as hijab does reduces horror incidents like above significantly.

    My suggestion to you is listen to your respected father, and then spend quality time to learn and try to practise Allah (swt) commands in every step of your life, inshaAllah.

    Love,
    Your sister, Parveen
    -x-

    • Ooo the comments are abit harsh. The sister merely asked an advice but all I hear is harsh words like chill. BTW those of you say"rape"? Seriously? ?? Like if I go to a kpop concert right now okay? All concert tickets are expensive so why would anyone go there for that purpose of mind anyhoo yall didn't even help the sisters. The prophet (pbuh) said there will be 3 people that will go to he'll even though they seek knowledge 1) a person who seeks knowledge to show off 2)a person who seek knowledge just to put other people down and 3)-- sorry not sure the third point

      • Just go with a very responsible adult like your uncle or something,you'll probably be safe inshallah.

      • I want to go to a kpop concert, but my parents are strict. (Kpop concert doesnt have alcohal and whatso ever) i just want to know, it is haram or no?

        • Listen to your parents. They are trying to protect you from things that could lead to major sins.

          Wael
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

        • Aamina...i was considering going to a kpop concert because they are much safe and most of the time there are kids...but i was not sure if it was haram or not??

        • Same for me, that's why I'm here. I want to go to a BTS concert or just a kpop concert in general but my parents are religious so I trust and believe them. I won't be going. My faith is too much to risk some concert anyway. Allah is much more important and so is Islam.

        • Same!!! Me and my sister are saving up to go to a BTS concert but they are so expensive (£300 for front row!!!) but are parents are a little unsure about if we can and we want to know if it is haram or halal as we are not drinking or free mixing. Please reply if you have got an answer

  6. i want to go to a bts concert but i am to scared to ask because what if my parents say know all the kpop fans in my school are going making me feel bad i really badly want to go but cant because its to expensive is going to concerts like these haram

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