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He has made my life impossible difficult to live by performing the blackmagic. Please help me out.

black magic sorcerer

Assalam O Alaikum,

I am 21 year old girl who is suffering too much from sihr. I am a very good Muslim. The biggest problem I am suffering with is my face, which has been for more than 4years. I am in constant pain with my eyes as they always feel like their being stabbed, burnt and as if there are pins stuck in my eyes. This is so painful that at times when I feel the stabbing my face turns away. Also, my face feels like as if your scratching it; burning it constantly. I am so sick of feeling likes this that I have tried to commit suicide and most of the time I feel like I wish I could get rid of this burning feeling. I know who is doing this to me as they have hinted it out on me.

This person (male) is very jealous of the way I look and his DREAM is for me to look ugly. I have been away from this person for a year and still has not given up on me. I was never with this person. I know he is a very bad person he has said some really bad stuff about Islam that I do not want to say. I don’t want to be with bad people. At times I feel so attracted to him then I go back to myself and then think alhamdlilah I never done anything stupid. At my most depressing times I feel that he has won and that I should be with this person because all the sihr he does to me works, but deep down I don’t want to.

Also it is not just my face it is everything to do with my life. Job, marriage, friends. I am invisible this makes me hate myself. I also feel like I am being strangled. I am constantly dreaming about him he always appears as a snake or a lion.

I have not gone out for more than a month because I am scared of something happening to me as when I do leave the house my eyes hurt more. Also, when I do leave the house I feel like someone is whispering to me “don’t look up look down, you look ugly”, this happens all the time. It hurts me so much. I am in constant pain; sometimes I feel like I cant breathe. I have been to doctors, they said there was nothing wrong with me. I feel like I am nothing, I just want to lock myself away from everyone and be on my own in the dark. I have not stopped crying I just feel there is no help. I am so sick of feeling like this. I hate that someone can do this to me take EVERYTHING away from me. I feel I have no life and what hurts and scars me is the fact that he doesn’t give up on me and the way I look. I am so scared that he can change me.

There is so much to say as I am wrting this I feel so dizzy and feel like someone is strangling me this is all I can write now, but there is much more.

Please give me some advice. Inshallah you will try and help me.

silver_9


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  1. I typed an answer out but closed the window by accident. I'll give you the coal's notes versions:

    The brain is a very powerful thing. If it thinks there's something wrong with it, then it will make you sick, regardless of whether or not there truly is something going wrong. In your case, I doubt anything is severely wrong with you. Why? Simple. BLACK MAGIC DOES NOT EXIST. Unfortunately for you, this person has somehow managed to get into your mind and make you think it does. You may have a relative which swears that black magic is real. I assure you, it is not. Now, on with your problems. Your face burns. Guess what? You're not alone. There are millions of people in the world who feel exactly the same way you do, and more often than not, it is an allergic reaction to something they are eating and/or drinking. Look at your diet. Has anything changed? If not, then I advise you go to the hospital and get yourself checked out. Sometimes, dietary changes may not be able to address the root of the problem, which, I assure you, is NOT black magic, but most likely a medical illness. Your problem may be temporary. It may not be. But it most certainly is medical. Go see a doctor, okay sweetie?

    There's a reason your professional, social and intimate lives are all suffering: You are depressed, and by the sound of it, severely lacking in self confidence. Go get yourself a cold glass of water and drink it. Calm your mind. Now think. Why is this happening to you? The answer is that nobody wants to work with/hire someone who is depressed. Employers and employees are just not going to want to be around you. No body wants to spend their free time hanging out with a person lacking in self confidence. It's no fun. You're a buzz kill. That's why you're having problems with your friends. No husband wants to be with a depressed wife. They just don't. That's why your marriage is suffering.

    Go get checked out at a hospital. See a psychologist if you need to. In the meantime, do this: When you stand, stand with your back straight. Keep your head held high. Tell yourself that YOU ARE THE BEST IN THE WORLD, NOBODY CAN TOUCH YOU! You're beautiful. If that asshole is going to such great lengths to be with you, then the writing on the wall is staring straight at you. You rock.

    I assure you this is not magic. He got into your head, maybe with the help of a relative (although most of the time the relative doesn't mean it, they just try to convince you that whatever is wrong is a result of black magic). Because of this, you feel trapped and unable to help yourself, which leads to you feeling depressed and killing your self confidence, which translates into professional, social and marital problems. You are the absolute best. Nobody can tell you otherwise.

    Watch the following videos:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yX39J_YyKbs

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WibmcsEGLKo

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U6ppMmCewmI&feature=related

    • @ Akmahd:

      Refer: Surah Baqara verse102. Black magic does exist.

      @silver_9:

      People who have had experience with such situations have related that the following are among the signs of a person who is possessed by jinn (or Satan):

      Strong repulsion when hearing Qur’aan or Aathaan (call for prayers).

      Episodes of losing consciousness and/or epileptic attacks, especially when Qur’aan is recited for the possessed person.

      Frequent nightmares during sleep.

      Tendency to avoid people accompanied by out-of-the-norm behavior.

      The jinn who possesses him might speak when Qur’aan is recited for the possessed person.

      Madness, as stated in the Qur’aan (interpretation of the meaning): "Those who devour usury will not stand except as stands one whom Satan by his touch hath driven to [epileptic] madness…"2:275

      As for a person struck by magic he might experience the following:

      Dislike of one’s spouse, as indicated in the Qur’aan by the following verse (interpretation of the meaning): "And from these (angels) people learn that by which they cause separation between a man and his wife..." (Al-Baqarah, 2:102).

      Different attitude in the house from that which is outside the house. For example, a person will feel that he is missing his family when is outside the house but when he goes home, love changes quickly to extreme hatred.

      Inability to have sexual intercourse with one’s spouse.

      Frequent miscarriage for pregnant women.

      Sudden change in behavior without obvious reason.

      Complete loss of appetite for food.

      Thinking or imagining one has done something when in reality one has not.

      Sudden obedience and/or love for a particular person.

      It should be noted that if a person experiences some of the above symptoms this does not necessarily mean that he is either possessed by a jinn or struck by black magic. It might be due to physiological or psychological reasons.

      As for curing this condition the following steps are recommended:

      Putting one’s trust in Allah with sincere belief that He is the only cure for everything.

      Reading Qur’aan and known supplications expressing seeking refuge, the most important and effective of which is sura 113 and 114, Al-Falaq and Al-Naas, which were used to cure the Prophet himself. Surah 112, Al-Ikhlaas, is recommended along with them, as well as the opening chapter of the Qur’aan, Al-Fatihah. To cure black magic some have successfully used seven lotus-tree leaves. The leaves should be crushed, then mixed them with water enough for taking a bath. The following verses from the Qur’aan are then recited: verse Al-Kursi (2:255), surah Al-Kafiroon (109), surah 112, 113, 114; the verses which mention magic, which are: in surah Al-Baqarah (2:102), Al-A’raaf (3:117-119), Yunus (10:79-82), and Taha (20:65-69). The possessed person drinks some of the water, and the rest is used to give him a bath.

      Removing the elements of magic as was done by the Prophet when he was struck by black magic by a Jewish man called Lubaid Ben Al-‘Aasim.

      Eating seven Ajwa dates (among the dates of Al-Madinah) first thing in the morning; if not possible, any dates will suffice, by the will of Allaah.

      Cupping--removing excess blood.

      Supplications and Du'aas

      I urge you to see a psychytrist while you are at it. Remember,its not right that any aamil tell you who the one was who made jaadoo. A sahih one will not do that. Take a second opinion from an aamil and go and see a doctor aswell.

  2. Sister,

    You are beauitful regardless of those horror msgs and pain that u r experiencing.
    I do not know about black magic but I do believe it exists.
    Read the Quran-Ayat ul kursi shareef constantly and always peform namaaz and make lots of dua. And always be state of wudu.

    If your GP/doctor did not help, please see a specialist.
    Always be amongst ppl (family/friends). Try not to be alone so much by urself.
    You have to do all you can to help yourself! You are very important. Please look after yourself. Dont ever let the thought of ugliness come to you!- u r a muslimah and by u not listenting to that guy, clearly shows you put ur love towards Allah (swt) first!- That is very unique, sweet and beautiful act to do. You should be happy and thank Allah (swt) for guiding you.

    Please sis, do whatever you can within Islamic boundries to find urself back- be happy and smile again. And dont think u r alone, there is me here and many more caring muslims who wants a sweet sister like you to be always happy. I care about you- sister you are in my duas and you are beauitful both from inside and outside. heads up and stay strong.

    Luv,
    Ur older sister Parveen 🙂

  3. I think you are suffering from a mild form of schizophrenia. You may be suffering if you belive that something or someone is out to get you, and are completly convinced of this. A portion of people who have this disorder have eyes that have a an increased sensitivity to light, which may explain why your eyes feel like they are burning. If you physically hear someone whispering to you, this is another symptom, and lastly the anxiety, and thoughts of taking your life are very common in this disorder.

    BUT!!

    Please know that there is a lot of help for people who have this disorder. The first thing you need to do is go to someone you trust and have them take you to a specialist. This is especially important. There are many medications, and theraphies available which can help you feel better.

    Please know that this should not be stigma! 1 in 100 people suffer from this, and it is no one's fault, its just something that happens to people sometimes, my grandfather had this. Please know that there are people who love you and want to help you.

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