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Is it haram to egg donor/surrogate mother between wives of a husband?

artificial insemination, fertilization

Artificial insemination

I've read some posts that catalogue as haram egg donor and surrogate mothers, but almost any reasons it's given for that are about about the haram of including another woman (because not married and because the right of the child to know his lineage).

What happens if my first wife has valid eggs but cannot get pregnant and give birth the baby? Can I ask my other wife to carry our baby?

And if the problem is the inverse and my first wife doesn't have valid eggs, can I ask for them to my second wife?

Thank you for your help!

- Scarnia

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  1. Salaams,

    Brother, if you have more than one wife, then simply impregnate them directly so they can carry their own child with you. That's their right as your wife as much as yours. It would be haraam to use one wife for eggs and another as an incubator. Besides that, it would cause a lot of emotional tension between your wives to do such a thing.

    I don't understand why you would want to do it the way you mentioned- it seems to imply you favor your first wife over the others. If that's the case, you should take care to fear Allah because in polygamy there is supposed to be equal treatment with no favoritism. The Quran tells us that if we cannot follow that, we should only be married to one woman and treat her fairly.

    -Amy Editor

    • I think sister, that hé want to impregnant his fist wife but seems she cant conceive naturally i think this is why he is asking to find a halal way and wondering if his proposed above solutions would be ok.

      • Salaams,

        Yes, I understood what he was asking. If the first wife has "bad eggs" and the second wife had "good" eggs, can he put the good eggs in the uterus of the wife with the bad eggs. The answer remains the same, because he can have sex with the wife who has good eggs and she would become pregnant naturally, and carry that baby in her own womb. No need to complicate things and take something from one to put in the other.

        -Amy Editor

  2. If your first wife cannot have baby and your second wife can, it is forbidden in Islam for her to carry a baby on behalf of you and your first wife and vice versa. As Allah said, "None can be their mothers except those who gave them birth" and " And Allah has brought you out from the wombs of your mothers while you know nothing …" . From these verse, we can conclude that if your second wife carries a child on you and your first wife's behalf, then the child born will have two mothers. One who gave birth to the child (second wife) and other who will ' keep the child ' (first wife). Thus mixing lineages and lost of motherhood. As a result it is forbidden.
    If your second wife can have baby then go ahead and have one or few with her. If your first wife can't, then adoption is another option. Or since she have valid eggs, I heard that IVF may be acceptable in dire need. Let her have patience first and pray to Allah to have mercy on her. As being barren is a test from Allah.

  3. here is a link to a fatwa brother ... ... hope things better for u and ur wife

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