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I swore on the Quran and then broke my promise

Actually I have put my hand on Quran and sworn to my friend that I will not discuss any thing about him to anyone in future, but I have forgot this qasam and again I have discussed him.

Please tell him what should I have to do I am quite upset...please tell me the right path I will be really thankful to you.
regards
faraz


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  1. Salaam please read sister Amy's response to the same question:

    We should not take lightly making an oath to Allah. It doesn't matter if we swear on Holy Qu'ran or just make a solemn oath to Allah. We are accountable to our promises, so it's vitally important that we only make such promises when we know we can keep them.

    That being said, feeling like you can keep an oath should never be a basis for which to make one. Feelings are unreliable and transient, and a majority of choices we make in them will cause us regret. You made an oath the first time, then broke it. At that point, you should've thought more than twice before making the same oath again. Yet you did, and you broke it again. When it comes to such a serious thing as making an oath to Allah, you have to take feelings out of the equation. You have to ask yourself, "What are the chances I will break this oath?" If your past experience shows that you have already broken an oath or crossed bounds in this area, then the chances are already too high that it could happen again. Good intentions for being obedient will suffice without making another broken oath.

    Yet what's done is done, and now you have to work through the consequences. In the Qu'ran it states:

    Allah does not take you to task for your inadvertent oaths, but He will take you to task for oaths you make intentionally. The expiation in that case is to feed ten poor people with the average amount you feed your family, or clothe them, or free a slave. Anyone without the means to do so should fast three days. That is the expiation for breaking oaths when you have sworn them. Keep your oaths. In this way Allah makes His Signs clear to you, so that hopefully you will be thankful. (Surat al-Ma'ida, 89)

    If you want to reconnect your relationship with Allah, make tawbah and complete the outlined expiation. Resolve yourself that you will go forward in obedience and not engage in the acts which you swore you wouldn't. Not only that, resolve that you will never again take such oaths. There is no penalty in living your life without making any formal oaths to Allah; in fact it's better than living a life of taking many oaths that end up broken.

    -Amy
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    So Brother make sincere tawbah turn to Allah and as shown in the Ayah, complete the expiation. And as sister Amy has said, do not take oaths at all anymore. If you want to do something good or stop doing something bad ask Allah swt to help you and try your best to attain the good - dont make oaths. It is not necessary.

    Also if you have talked about this friend (gheeba) without his consent and backbited about him also make tawbah for that. You will need to also seek your friends forgiveness but only in a particular way. Do not tell him "I told so and so this about you," or "I broke the promise." That will only hurt him. When speaking to him in a general conversation just say brother please forgive me for any wrong I've done you in the past or anything I've done to hurt you. You can do this generally with anyone. We hurt an wrong people a lot, we are human so it;s a good habit to get into, even if you are not aware that you've wronged someone.

    Say this casually dont sound too serious - InshaAllah he will say he forgives you. If he doesnt, dont worry. Instead pray for your friend and InshaAllah he is more likely to forgive you on the day of judgement.

    Sara
    IslamicAnswers.com Edittor

  2. I made promises touching the holy quran that I won't let my husband touch me again, sleep with him and stay in the same room again. But now it has become difficult for me to keep this promises due to social and family pressure. please guide me what to do?

    • Lia, an oath to do something haram is invalid, and it is haram for you to separate yourself from your husband in this way. So you should disregard your oath. However, you clearly have major problems in your marriage for which you must seek solution. That solution might be couples counseling or therapy. I do not know your situation.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  3. I'm not a person with strong moral values. I used to talk with other person just as a friend, but my husband never liked these. which put us in severe family feuds. He even gave me back mohorana but he forced me to sign in stamp paper. at one stage we started staying separately for the last one and half years. And I even promised like Lia touching the holy quran that that I won't let my husband touch me again, sleep with him and stay in the same room again. Now I understand I made sins by doing all these. I want to correct myself but don't know how to do it.

    • Until sun doesn't rise from the west the door for repentance is open . Don't worry and ask sincere forgiveness to Allah and he will accept InshaAllah. Go to Imam and get pray again together.

  4. I need to know, I touched holy quran swore I won't do something. I kept my promise till 5,6 months. But
    I broke it. Now I'm worried how should I payback. I've read above ans. I wanted to know
    Can I feed 10 poor people while giving them money? And do i have to feed them all within a day or i can do this everyday per person? Plz help..

  5. I pit my hands on Quran that I will not talk to my mother so after I broke it so because I love my mother a lot so I hteak promise so what I have to do

  6. I make a promise to allah but shaitan force me to do that i have do it for 3 time (but my intention is not to do that) thus my promise is broken or it is continew help me

    • If you broke your promise, then it is broken. Shaytan does not force anyone to do anything. He only whispers and tempts. The decision is always up to us. Make tawbah and do kaffarah for breaking your oath. Allah is Most Forgiving and Most Merciful.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  7. hello i am 18 year old iam fasting for three days(kaffarah) as i have broken my promise but i have fast for 2days after a break i complete other also which total 3 days so my kaffarah is complete or not reply me please

    • you can fast for 3 days. In hanafi fiqh, they have to be 3 continuous days. If you fasted the first day but didn’t fast the second and third day then you have to start over again.

  8. hello sir/madam

    i am 18 years old and i have breake my promises of allah now i am ready to pay kaffara so i have to pay for how many times i have broken or all at a one time

  9. i am 15 and i have done some very bad sins. my sisters made me touch the Quran so i wont do the sins again
    i promised not to send pics
    i promised to be honest
    and i promised not to speak to a boy in that way unless the time is right
    i think that i am capable for keeping these but i am hesitant as to what i should do if i break it. i am really scared that i wont be forgiven or i have to face my sins with some sort of bad life ahead. may Allah forgive those who didn't mean to break it but did as its not easy and Allah is all knowing and all loving

  10. its Ramadan you should keep on oath of tawbah sincerely keep fast in this way you can avoid sins remember me in your pray. thanks

  11. M a non Islamic gal who in anger said to my Islamic bf that Quran ki Kasam ab tumhare sath nai rehna but I can't be without him is my oath considered or not

    • I am 23 years old and i swore on my dad that i wont marry a guy.. but now i want to marry him.. Will it harm to my father? I love my father alot

  12. pls i sworn with the only quran with my girlfriend that will i never sleep with any other girl for three month,but i broke the oath.will allah forgive me.

    • Brother wahab, you are confused and you are piling sins on top of sins. Don't you know that zinaa (having sex outside of marriage) is haram and is a serious sin? Aren't you concerned about that?

      Allah will forgive any sins if you make sincere tawbah. Stop all your haram actions, including the zinaa, and turn back to Allah. Do your prayers, fast, and become a good Muslim. Don't worry, Allah will forgive you readily and easily.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • Wahab,

      Zina is considered a major sin, and if 4 witnesses see it the punishment is 100 lashes. After committing that major sin you are no longer automatically forgiven for minor sins. Zina counts with your current girlfriend since she is not your wife, and other girls who are not your girlfriends because they are still not married to you.

      Sahih International: If you avoid the major sins which you are forbidden, We will remove from you your lesser sins and admit you to a noble entrance [into Paradise].
      http://corpus.quran.com/translation.jsp?chapter=4&verse=31

      For breaking an oath there is this:
      “Allaah will not punish you for what is unintentional in your oaths, but He will punish you for your deliberate oaths; for its expiation (a deliberate oath) feed ten Masaakeen (poor persons), on a scale of the average of that with which you feed your own families, or clothe them or manumit a slave. But whosoever cannot afford (that), then he should fast for three days. That is the expiation for the oaths when you have sworn. And protect your oaths (i.e. do not swear much). Thus Allaah makes clear to you His Ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) that you may be grateful”

      [al-Maa’idah 5:89]

      Congratulations on being concerned about this and heading towards the right path. Good luck.

  13. Me and my boyfriend broke up 2 months ago. He was so angry at me so he put his hand on the Quran and he swore he will marry another girl. Right now he regrets it . He doesn't believe that Allah will forgive him. How can I help him? can he save himself?

  14. I have promised my mom that i wont talk to someone on the holy quran and i broke it ... my face glamour has changed as if its a punishment by Almighty ... what shld i do now for that false oath ?

  15. I was so angry on my husband that he goes out wid his frnds n dnt hv tym for me n kids n I took the oath of quraan by putting hand n told him dont touch me o slp wid me after Ramadan he ddnt went out but his frnds came home know I dont knw wat to do is the fasting in ramadhan wil b accepted for 3 days fasting for forgivness o hv to fast later on plz reply need d ansa badly

  16. If I have made a sin...

  17. I pit my hand on quran and promise
    To not go to stripes I'm still keeping my word but it's really hard
    What should I do???

    • James,

      What is "stripes?" Strip Club?

      In the future, try not to promise or swear on the Quran unless you are confident you can keep your promise and are sincere. Because you are making a mockery of something so sacred (Al Quran and Allah's word) if you err in the same way again. In your situation, I would pray, make dua, and tell Allah that you are having difficulty keeping your promise, seeking his guidance and pleasure. Inshallah your test will become easier, Ameen.

      Best,

      Nor
      IslamicAnswers

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