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Forced to take an oath because of family issues

In the end she gave me two options, “either I’m going to lie and exploit [my cousin] in the family that he has been blackmailing my daughter, or give me an oath that you will not have any kind of contact with him.”

He proposed then changed his mind, my heart is broken

he told me he doesn’t know if he even wants this anymore. i was very upset and shocked and i still am because he was the one who came back to me. he said he thinks its best we go our separate ways. and that’s all i got.

Long distance relationship becoming more complicated due to caste issues

I’m moving back to London soon and probably wont see him for a very long time. I know everything is in God’s hands. I will be talking to him again soon, any suggestions on what to say.

I want to be good, but it is difficult

I was abandoned by my family right after high school. I came to a foreign country alone and I met this guy during my first year. He was a good Muslim guy who became my whole family and he took really good care of me. Unfortunately, I had a physical relation with him and he promised me to marry me when I get better.

Is it sinful to marry my fiance but still have thoughts of ex- boyfriend afer marriage?

I told my family about my interest in this guy and they agreed that if he gets his parents with a proper proposal they will consider him. Now the problem is that i have tried my best to convince him but nothing seems to work with him he has backed out by saying he needs more time.

Should I get divorced or stay in this marriage, really confused?

But these accusations by my brother that I have no self-respect and that I deserve more than a man like my husband have really touched me. My eldest sister still thinks that by divorcing my hubby I am the only one losing as I am losing all my husband to his other wife. I really do not know what to do.

Should I trust and marry him if he comes back in my life and wants to marry me?

Please tell me only this thing, should I trust that guy again IF he comes back in my life and want to marry me. He didn’t cheat with me but he made me cry and everyone say “Those who knows the value of your tears will never make you cry.

When Is enough, enough?

Should i just stay alone (again) with my 2 kids and 1 on the way? I don’t want to be alone… but i don’t want to be mistreated. I am in no way perfect, but, I do not deserve to be called any of those names and definitely not in front of the kids.

Should I forgive and give her another chance or shall I leave her and move on?

2days before she told me a secret that she was hiding since the inception of our relationship, she told me that “there was some one in her life before me and that he cheated her”. These words hit my heart so violently that i began to faint. (for a girl whom i have done so much and did not leave her, she has been cheating me on this fact from inception).

Communication limits between my husband and ex-wife; am I over-reacting?

I know I am sinning a lot by checking his mobile, and it makes me feel worse. Recently, the emails from ex-wife increased , and she tells that the divorce is a test for her, also she advises that my husband needs to rest well, sleep/eat well, etc.. All the emails show that she misses and loves him and gives a lot of instructions and advices.