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Suicidal and traumatised by my past

I have posted here before and got a lot of help, but my mother decided to push me into a trap and now I feel worthless sinner again.

Help for a lost mom with 10 kids

My question is are we divorced and how would I know if he has divorced me? Thank you very much.

Memories of being molested as a child

I don’t really know if I was molested or not, but I have a memory (believe me this extremely hard for me to write and I’m shaking and crying right now)…

I need some help for past abuse

I thought Allah hated me and wanted him to hurt me. Even though I know that’s probably not right, I still feel that way sometimes. I feel like Allah hates me. Thats when I go back to my suicidal thoughts. I planned, but I’m too scared. Sometimes though I hurt myself without knowing because I’m just so sad.

I don’t know what is good for me, nor what I want

I have not performed Istikhara on this. I have been hesitating. Apparently my sub-consciousness tells me that since the result of my Istikhara from the ex was very painful, this too could be disappointing and I have no more room for hurt. I know I am not making sense. It’s like I am running away from the truth because it is painful.

Should I disclose past trauma to my future husband?

Should I tell my future husband about my pregnancy and that I gave up my son for adoption?

After 6 years in a relationship she won’t marry me

She’s stated that things are really messed for her in her head and surroundings and she needs to figure things out, that she wants to be alone, she wants me to carry on with life, she feels like I come in the way of her decisions and that she can’t risk it anymore because its changing her as a person.

Is being unable to forgive my husband (at least for now) a sin?

I am praying to be able to forgive him. But today, I am busy recovering from a depression that has lasted more than 2 years because of a traumatizing marriage and divorce, and I don’t even want to talk to him.

My ex-husband refused to change, how to overcome this fact?

He become worse day by day. I was so hurt and ended up asking him to choose between changing for the sake of Allah or to divorce me- he then said he would rather divorce. Was I wrong? I am now better off am not being insulted anymore, not being used, not being treated unjustly, and I’m living happily with my baby, but I can’t stop thinking of his cruel words and actions in the past. I just can’t believe it, whenever I wake up I realize it’s reality and it hurts a lot.

I am a male who was sexually abused in childhood, please help

When I was about 6-7 years old I was molested by a relative grandfather who lived with us. I now feel guilty, depressed, anxious when I think about what happened.