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Texted my nude pictures to boyfriend and now I feel deeply guilty

I found some things on his mobile phone

Salam,

I am a medical student now but a few years back i commited a big sin!

Actually at that time i started watching porn alot!!! i had a boyfriend whom i really loved n it was 2 years that we were both together. he asked me to mms my nude pictures and because nudity was all over my mind because of those porn sites , i did send him!

then we had a breakup afterwards but am still repenting on what i have done!! its been 4 years now.

I have been an awesome daughter, a brilliant student. but i commited this sin and i cant sleep comfortably now.. its killing me inside.

I have asked for forgiveness in my prayers n am hopefull Allah swt will forgive me. but being such a good girl how could i do this to myself, 🙁 please advise me what should i do to seek Allah swt's forgiveness.

I wont ever be in a relationship ever! i have learned my mistake .. please help 🙁

- depressed_1


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  1. Asalaamualaykum Sister,

    If you have learned from your mistakes, then Alhumdulillah! Vow never to return to these sins ever again, make sincere tawbah and try to banish the negative thoughts from your mind. If you are feeling constant guilt, its unfortunately part and parcel of sinning. And you will only find peace within yourself when you turn to Allah(swt) in completeness.

    Allah(swt) says in Surah Zumar, Ayah 53: "O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful."

    Seems too be good to true right? But it is true. So renew your faith in Allah(swt), start reading Salaah, adorn Hijaab, learn your deen, improve your character and stay away from all those evil things that brought you down before. Keep your tongue and mind busy with the Dhikr of Allah(swt), do your morning and evening dhikr and recite Quran: http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/dua-in-islam/morning-and-evening-dhikr-part-1/

    Also, please see the following links on Tawbah:
    http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/tawbah-in-islam/
    http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/tawbah-in-islam/poem-turning-back-to-allah/
    http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/tawbah-in-islam/its-not-over-til-the-trumpets-blown-tawbah-and-repentance/

    SisterZ
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • I have a similar situation but in my case it's not nudes but just pics of my legs showing and my neck some girl I met online and thought I could trust wanted me to send her some porn and I politely declined then she turned on me and started posting my pics and sharing it with guys :(( I deeply regret this but my pics are already out and I don't know what to do now. Will Allah still forgive me if I repent but my pics won't be gone so would that be an issue? Please reply soon

      • Is it wrong of me to marry a decent guy with no past despite having a very wrong past which went to the extent of indecent pictures? I keep repenting but it doesn't leave my mind. Is it wrong of me to marry adecent guy? Isnt it unfair to him if i keep this past hidden from him?

        • Assalaalualaykum Sister Asra,

          You will naturally gravitate towards a guy that has a similar past to yours, or at least a few similarities. That is the way of nature. But if you have repented sincerely and never repeated those actions, your slate may be clean InshaAllah, and you may attract others as well. As for your second question, it is not for us to reveal what Allah in his infinite mercy has kept concealed. I wish you the best 🙂

          Nor
          IslamicAnswers

  2. Salaam sister..

    Well what you did is a Huge sin and a shameful one, but I'm convinced that you know it already and thus need no more explanations from me. But what I do realise here is that you sounded like you had repent to Allah, Alhamdulelah, and that's all what matters right? It's stated that Allah loves his slaves more than a dear mother loves her own child, so I'm sure enshallah Allah will love you again since you repent and taubah to Him. Sometimes, when the memories of this sin came into your mind, just fight it off. It's a good thing that you made this experience a life learning lesson, but if it still haunts you sometimes, I think maybe you haven't repent till the stage that you are convinced Allah forgives you entirely for your previous mistakes. Sister, we are not prefect perfect, and we are Not expected to be, and Allah knows that. But we try our best to please Him, let Allah knows that too.. I think you should try to repent and ask for His forgiveness till you no longer feel the guilt. Remember, all this will make you closer to Him, so maybe that's why this happened when it. Right now, just continue your life as good as possible, and enshallah everything will be ok.. If you want some peace of mind, read Quran and the translations, it works for me..

    p/s : good luck with your studies. I'm a medical student as well..

    Allah knows best

  3. Salamu'alaikum sister,

    I have known people in my school who used to watch porn, and a lot of it. It had become an addiction. One of them was mad about this. He wanted to repent, but due to low Imaan, he always went back to it. And also the environment he lived in, tempted him to go back to it. The surprizing fact is that he later became a Haafidh (one who memorized the entire Qur'aan) but mentioned that he was not able to get rid of this evil habit. He did such an evil thing, which a Muslim would not even like to think about. It's been long, and I do not know if he is alright now.

    Just wanted shared this. You said you had been watching porn. I hope the problem I mentioned above is not the case with you. If I am right, then insha Allah, it will be quite easy.

    Your pictures that you sent to him do not only mean a sin but that puts your entire being at stake. What if he misused those images? What if he shared them? But thank Allah nothing of this sort happened.

    My sister, sins do happen, however grave they maybe, there is The Lord, Who have forgiveness, a much more than that sin, and all the sins of all the sinners of the world combined together. And you are not dead yet 🙂 you have the time to repent. Repent to Allah for watching evil, then showing yourselves to a man illegally, while Allah commands you to conceal yourself. And turn to Allah by praying all the daily Salawaat, along with the Sunan and Nawaafil. This will insha Allah make you closer to Allah Subhaanah.

    Do not forget the incidents which are mentioned in the Sunnah. In Sahih Muslim,
    Book 17, Number 4207:
    Imran b. Husain reported that a woman from Juhaina came to Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) and she had become pregnant becauseof adultery. She said: Allah's Apostle, I have done something for which (prescribed punishment) must be imposed upon me, so impose that. Allah'sApostle (may peace be upon him) called her master and said: Treat her well, and when she delivers bring her to me. He did accordingly. Then Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) pronounced judgment about her and her clothes were tied around her and then he commanded and she was stoned to death. He then prayed over her (dead body). Thereupon Umar said to him: Allah's Apostle, you offer prayer for her, whereas she had committed adultery ! Thereupon he said: She has made such a repentance that if it were to be divided among seventy men of Medina, it would be enough. Haveyou found any repentance better than this that she sacr ficed her life for Allah, the Majestic?

    From this Hadeeth, we can see that tawbah can have any sin forgiven, provided one lives till one does tawbah. Even if a Mushrik does tawbah, Allah forgives him or her, while Shirk is the greatest sin. Consider Umar bin Khattab Radiyallahu 'Anhu. He was called Abdul Uzza (Slave of the idol called Uzza) and was hired to assassinate the Messenger Sallallahu 'Alaihi wasallam. But he did tawbah lateron and the result is not hidden. He became one of the greatest Sahaabah, the second Khaleefah of Islam. It is true that Allah's Messenger did du'a for his Guidance (he (Sallallahu alaihi wasallam) mentioned in his dua saying O Allah Guide Abu Jahl, or Umar, and Allah chose Umar.

    This was to tell you that Allah forgives any sin on tawbah.

    Do as much dua for forgiveness as possible. Repent to Allah, day and night. Practice Islam to the extent possible, do nawaafil in the last third of the night, and do excessive supplications. The best collection of du'as is Fortress of the Muslim - Hisn al Muslim, which is available here: http://www.islamhouse.com/d/files/en/ih_books/single/en_hisn_al-muslim.doc

    Allah is The Oft Forgiving and The Most Merciful. Seek his forgivenness, make yourself closer to Him and insha Allah He Will Forgive you. I pray that Allah forgives you.

    Aameen
    Wassalamu'alaikum
    Muhammad Waseem

  4. assalam o alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

    first of all I personaly feel its a not big big sin b'coz almost in this sensitive age & with advance technology Internet evrybody does sexually something wrong so did i ...even still i watch porn daily bcoz i m addicted & I prayed to God so many times but I can't stop Which is really bad personally some times I feel after doing Masterbation this is wrong but after couple of hours same things happens again & again ...its not a big sin bcoz its in human nature & this age is really bad but whatever happened is happend ... forget abt past & think abt future.... I m sure Allah won't punish for unknown sin to u bcoz at this age somewhere somehow everybody does mistake bcoz personally evrybody wants their desire/sexual life happy u trust him but he cheated on you so Allah will give him a big punishment & whatever u did u have got that punishment/ lesson ....now forget abt yr past & do regularly 5 times yr salat(Namaaz)/prayer I am Hindu reverted secretly to Muslim last week...trying to learn Islam bought The holy Quraan trying to do Salah/Namaaz by watching videos on Youtbe

    • Asalaam alaikum,

      First, in accepting Islam, when you testify that there is god but Allah (swt) that includes even the ego driven desire inside of you. When you choose to masturbate and watch porn, which are against the tenets of Islam, then you are taking that filth and illegal sexual conduct as your god, may Allah (swt) forgive you! What your doing is in effect preferring your sin to the pleasure of Allah (swt). This is a deep problem that you need to acknowledge and not sweep aside so casually.

      Just because you give in to your own weakness does not mean that the sin is not great, despite your own opinion which bears no weight on the words of Allah (swt). The worse thing to do is to make light of your sins by calling them small. For it has been revealed that every deed, good and bad, will be accounted for to the atom of it during our judgement. What's worse is that you say that since everyone does it, Allah (swt) won't punish the sinners? Where do you get this idea that a large group of sinners can override the Decree of Allah (swt)?

      It is not human nature to masturbate, but instead to copulate with a spouse. This fallacy of masturbation being natural is linked to animals, but most people do not which to be in in such a category. Therefore, Allah (swt) has created marriage and it is only us who make the process difficult.

      If you are doing what is forbidden, you must stop it and seek a spouse instead.

      Please look into seeking help with your porn and sexual additional before it blackens your heart and turns you away from the religion of Islam, wherein you will become one of the astray. You can search this website for the many previous answers on this subject.

      For the Sister who posted, always pray when this sin comes to mind that it will forever be kept a secret. Of course, also take the opportunity to thank Allah (swt) for showing you the gravity of your mistakes and bringing you back into the fold of Islam.

      • Salam,

        I am going through pretty much the same thing and what actually makes me feel hard to repent is because my ex boyfriend still has those photos with him.

        He dumped me and left , I really thought that he has deleted those photos of me because after he dumps me he said he has already deleted them but then after 2 months of breakup he texted me back and sent me nude photos of me . He is a liar .

        I want to repent to Allah but how can I feel good about repenting knowing that a non mahram is keeping nude photos of me. Please help me .

        I really want to repent and start new and clean but i feel like , what's the use of repenting when someone still has naked photos of you that he could look at every night and be it a reason of him masturbating because he told me he still does.

        What if my photos are spread when i have already begin to wear hijab ?
        Can anyone help me ? ;(

        • This is something which happened to me also and I am a teenager so I am worried very much I feel of killing myself but then I think that Allah would forgive me inshallah please whoever reads this please pray for us.

          • Please don't consider harming yourself over a piece of filth whom hasn't yet learned to respect a lady, life will smack him down to the lowest point he belongs at. God is just, He'll keep you safe, surrender to The Merciful and you'll find peace. Trust that no human being is worth you risking your afterlife. Earth is huge, with 8 billion people, what's a handful of manipulative dirt bags that are here today and gone tomorrow just like billions before them? Stay safe sis, you're the captain of your ship, Allah blessed us with these bodies as loans to carry us from point A to B and our souls aren't forever bound to this state, so try not to let this vehicle define your inner state. Love from across the ocean

        • Nurul Alya Insyirah ,

          I know this is 2 years gone since you posted .

          My suggestion would be to take the help of some elders or police if black mails you .

          Unfortunately there are n number of ways to store these pictures and you can't make sure that these are deleted .

          Just hope that after few years you might look different and these should like some body's pictures .

          I think these are lessons for others in this website to learn from such mistakes .

        • Salam sister. Don't be scared. Actually much worse things happened to me. My photos got viral. Even my friends also left me saying characterless. But really don't care. Only I and Allah knows what was my age, psychology and maturity. So I started walking in islamic way. Now I am fine and that guy was ditched by his new gf and the institution where he was reading gave him tc. So don't worry Allah is all knowing and most forgiving. Pray to Him. And never do that mistake again.

  5. Assalamu alaikum sister.. First of all thanks to allah for that he saves you now from that vulgars.. Sister you know now am loving a other country girl.. Once she told me that the exact questions you asked now.. I felt very sad .. But i dont wanna leave her coz if she is bad she wont share this matter to me.. Alhamdhulillah but she realized now that she did previous is totally foolish and she told me that if i do that sin again you may kill me.. I told her to ask taubah to our master she told that i will do it before many times.. I already forgive her alhamdhulillah.. Hope Allah will also forgive her coz he knows that peoples of adam all will do mistakes but he can forgive it for whom asks taubah with crying and good mind.. He is the master of all.. Alhamdhulillah..

  6. i have the same problem as well of watching porn sites

  7. Assalam u Alikum
    In the name of Allah
    Who is most greatful and the most merciful
    And Allah is most forgiving and he knows the best
    You should offer prayer 5 times a day and ask of forgiveness may Allah Forgive You.

  8. I never ever see such things but don't know I did see such abusive pictures 2,3 times which created a big shock in my mind..I thought that it is necessary to discuss it with your future husband if just watching is a great sin?or to discuss only Allah and seek forgiveness?Reply soon

  9. It is very shocking that girls too watching porn and getting addicted to it .As the OP says she was influenced by nudity in porn so she sent her nude pictures to boyfriend .

    I think the day of judgement is coming near when you will see frequent zina ..

  10. Allah's mercy is greater than your sins

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