The limits of fiancées – can I take off my hijab
Question:
I'm a muslim girl engaged to my cousin who lives in another country. My question is: Is it haraam to take off my hijab in front of him??
-Neven
Sara Says:
The short answer is Islamically your fiancee is not your mahram, so you should not expose any of your awrah to him. (Your awrah for a non-mahram male is any part of your body except your face and hands). Which means it is not permissible for him to see you without hijab until you have had your nikah and are formed. Please read below:
'According to the Hanafi school, and the overwhelming majority of the Sunni scholars, including the Malikis and Shafi`is, it not permitted to take off one’s hijab for a potential suitor, even in more final stages of the decision-making process. As such, it would be sinful to take off one’s hijab for such a reason, and unbefitting the shyness (haya’)expected of a Muslim. The Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace) said, “Shyness (haya’) is from faith.”
2. If one decides to marry someone, it is for the man permitted to look at the woman’s face and hands only. This is permitted even if there is desire (shahwa), though only if one’s intention is to fulfill the the sunna, not in to fulfill one’s physical desires. [As explained in Haskafi’s Durr al-Mukhtar, and Ibn Abidin’s Radd al-Muhtar, ‘Bab al-Mass wa’l Nadhar fi Kitab al-Hadhr wa’l Ibaha, and other authoritative works of Hanafi fiqh]'
This link also may be useful:
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/see-woman-without-hijab/
Sara
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The short answer is Islamically your fiancee is not your mahram, so you should not expose any of your awrah to him. (Your awrah for a non-mahram male is any part of your body except your face and hands). Which means it is not permissible for him to see you without hijab until you have had your nikah and are formed. Please read below:
'According to the Hanafi school, and the overwhelming majority of the Sunni scholars, including the Malikis and Shafi`is, it not permitted to take off one’s hijab for a potential suitor, even in more final stages of the decision-making process. As such, it would be sinful to take off one’s hijab for such a reason, and unbefitting the shyness (haya’)expected of a Muslim. The Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace) said, “Shyness (haya’) is from faith.”
2. If one decides to marry someone, it is for the man permitted to look at the woman’s face and hands only. This is permitted even if there is desire (shahwa), though only if one’s intention is to fulfill the the sunna, not in to fulfill one’s physical desires. [As explained in Haskafi’s Durr al-Mukhtar, and Ibn Abidin’s Radd al-Muhtar, ‘Bab al-Mass wa’l Nadhar fi Kitab al-Hadhr wa’l Ibaha, and other authoritative works of Hanafi fiqh]'
This link also may be useful:
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/see-woman-without-hijab/
Sara
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
In short, you can take off your hijaab before no non Mahram in this World, until you complete the Nikaah with him. That is when he becomes your Mahram
Thanks Sara and Muhammad. Jazakom allah khyran 🙂
Wa iyyaka
You cannot take off your Hijab and please stop asking fatwas, you can ask fatwas to the scholars, they are the qualified teachers to answer so please dont ask anywhere here.
Mohamed, it's funny that you answered the sister's question, then you told her not to ask here! Do you really think it takes a scholar or a fatwa to know if the sister can take off her hijab in front of a non-mahrem man? And if so, then why did you answer it?
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
wow I was not aware of these answers, where I'm from the girls will take off the hijab if both the male and female decide to talk for the 2nd or 3rd time, there might be a toulba (asking for ones hand) in a few months for me, I strongly thank you guys for this info
jazakallah