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He gave me a triple divorce and I know it is not correct. Can I return to him?

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My husband gave me tripple divorce in one go. he wrote repitition of three divorces on a stamp paper signed by two witnessess. mentioned below is that sentence:

 

"I give my wife Talak Talak Talak salsa as KHULA and make her free from my husband-ship"

 

But i remember when I asked him for giving me divorce in fighting in mobile messages, he did not give me divorce after that. But he saved my all mobile messages and kept them saved till the court proceedings and when i got my first medical abortion, he gave me such triple Talaq following khula in writting on stamp paper.

I never asked it intentionally.... Never ever i never wanted divorce. When he divorced me I was in NIFAAS (post natal bleeding) now i have heard that such divorce is haram and sin and does not count as three divorces. These three divrces are counted as one because thay are given in one go without following any iddah period and reconciliation process.

Wife can go back without doing HALALA. Quran and sunnah are against such divorce. Can i go back to my exhusband as my iddah period has got over and by new nikah i can go back to my husband if he also wished so.

plz guide me. its urgent

thanx

asghar

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  1. 1ST REFERENEC FROM QURAN THE MOST AUTHENTIC SOURCE THE QURAN-FOR THE OF ADDING NEW THINGS TO ISLAM[BIDDAH]REASON OF TYRANNY IN ALL MATTERS ISLAM FORBIDS FOLLOWING ANY SECT OR MADHAB BECAUSE IT IS BASED ON THEIR OWN WHIMS AND FANCY OPINIONS- NOT ON QURAN AND HADEES-
    http://creatorstruth.ning.com/video/divorce-in-islam
    PL SPREAD THIS MESSAGE TO THE WORLD THAT ISLAM DOES NOT RECOGNISE DEVIATED SECTS AND THEIR TEACHINGS-FABRICATED AFTER 150 HIJRI MUCH AGAINST THE PURE SHARIAH AND UNITY OF THE UMMAH COMPRISING OF SAHABS,TABAYIN,AND TABE TABIYAIN....WHO WERE BEST MUSLIMS IN THE HISTORY OF THE WORLD-
    The intention of this verse is further explained by a few other Ahadith which have been reported from the Holy prophet (upon wham be Allah's peace) ai d some of the major Companions.
    Surah 65. At-Talaq
    O Prophet, when you divorce women, divorce them for their waiting-period, *1 and compute the waiting period accurately, *2 and hold Allah, your Lord, in awe. Do not turn them out of their homes (during the waiting period) â nor should they go away (from their homes) *3â unless they have committed a manifestly evil deed. *4 Such are the bounds set by Allah; and he who transgresses the bounds set by Allah commits a wrong against himself. You do not know: maybe Allah will cause something to happen to pave the way (for reconciliation). *5"If you have to divorce your wives, you should divorce them till the expiry of their waiting-period".The intention of this verse is further explained by a few other Ahadith which have been reported from the Holy prophet (upon wham be Allah's peace) ai d some of the major Companions. Nasa'i has related that the Holy Prophet was infomed that a person had pronounced three divorces on his wife in ane sitting. He stood up in anger and said:'`Are the people playing with the Book of Allah, although I am present among you?"Ibn 'Umar, may Allah be pleased with them, reported: I divorced my wife while she was menstruating during the lifetime of Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him). 'Umar bin Al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) asked Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) about it, whereupon Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: Command him ('Abdullah bin 'Umar) to take her back (and keep her) and pronounce divorce when she is purified and she again enters the period of menstruation and she is again purified (after passing the period of menses), and then if he so desires he may keep her and if he desires divorce her (finally) before touching her (without having an intercourse with her), for that is the period of waiting ('Iddah) which Allah, the Exalted and Glorious, has commanded for the divorce of women-
    Islam does not hold Triple Talaq as Lawful

    There is a common misconception that a man can say Talaq, Talaq, Talaq to his wife in a row and it will lead to Talaq. This is totally an unIslamic practice.
    Abu Sahba' said to Ibn 'Abbas (Allah be pleased with them): Do you know that three (divorces) were treated as one during the lifetime of Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him), and that of Abu Bakr, and during three (years) of the caliphate of Umar (Allah be pleased with him)? Ibn Abbas (Allah be pleased with them) said: Yes. (Muslim Book #009, Hadith #3492)

    • you are very right and thanx for helping me and guiding me with such nice effective ayyaat and ahadith. plz pray for me that my husband's heart quickly get melted and he propose me again for new nikah.... thanx i wana marry my previous husband and do not want to do nikah with other person,,,, i do not want halala as i hate such practice this is mockery of women...

    • Assalam U Alaikum;
      Brother you have directed the sister in the wrong direction out of your ignorance. Allah will hold you responsible for this on judgement day. You did not mention that circumstances that were present at the time of Muhammad S.A.W, but not after his death. The hadith which you have quoted, where it has been mentioned by Abdullah ibni Abbas that triple divorce in one sitting were counted as one. Secondly, you did not mention that Adbullah idni Abbas on several occasions considered triple divorce in one sitting as three, also He quoted the ayat of Quran as explanation that, Allah has set limits of three divorces in Quran, you have exhausted all of them. Now you cannot talk you wife. Hazrat Hassan (R.A) divorced three times his wife, later on both of them wept a lot, but Hassan (R.A) did not go back to his wife because he said that he had heard from his father that after triple divorce exwife cannot go back to his former husband.
      These rules were enacted in Quran, but at that time as Rehmat tul Alameen was among the muslims, so people used to come to Him, so that he might extend some laxity on the rules. The same as that wine and other things were revealed as forbidden early before Muhammad S.A.W gradually forbade muslims from it. The same is ture for Muta, which was prohibited by Hazrat Umar (R.A), it was practiced during the times of Muhammad S.A.W and Hazrat Abu Bakr. It does not mean that Muta was not prohibited by Islam because it was practiced during the times of Muhammad S.A.W. Quran forbade is, but it was Hazrat Umar (R.A) who established the command fof Quran.
      With all due respect, please before you issue fitwa, please do research, otherwise you will be held responsible.Wassalam

      • Brother Haseeb, the same goes for you. You should research before YOU issue any fatwa. Mutah marriage is flatly prohibited in Islam as it was forbidden by the Prophet (sws) until the Day of Judgment. Umar (RA) only enforced the command that the Prophet gave.

        It was narrated from ‘Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) forbade mut’ah marriage and the meat of domestic donkeys at the time of Khaybar. According to another report, he forbade mut’ah marriage at the time of Khaybar and he forbade the meat of tame donkeys. (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 3979; Muslim, 1407.)

        It was narrated from al-Rabee’ ibn Sabrah al-Juhani that his father told him that he was with the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) who said, “O people, I used to allow you to engage in mut’ah marriages, but now Allah has forbidden that until the Day of Resurrection, so whoever has any wives in a mut’ah marriage, he should let her go and do not take anything of the (money) you have given them.” (Narrated by Muslim, 1406.)

        The first hadith was narrated by Ali (RA), and is even mentioned in some of the Shi'ah books, so I don't know why the Shi'ah continue to allow mut'ah.

        Wael
        IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  2. Salamualaikum,

    Being with the scholars, I have observed that whenever this matter was brought to them, they easily said:

    "It was only one divorce, get back to your wife."

    Triple Divorce is a Bid'ah and even if a person pronounces Talaq a hundred times, it is counted as one Talaq for various reasons.

    So, if your husband wishes to get back to you, you could get back together insha Allah.

    And Allah Knows Best
    Muhammad Waseem
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • Triple Divorce is a Bid'ah and even if a person pronounces Talaq a hundred times, it is counted as one Talaq for various reasons.

      " Triple Divorces " in ONE SITTING is bid'ah indeed. I believe this is what you mean.

  3. One more thing. Sister, you seem to not know that Halaala (temporary Nikah for making the woman Halaal for the previous husband who has given her all the three Divorces, in order to do the Nikaah again) is Haraam, as you can read the Hadith in the image above.

    Muhammad Waseem
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • no i have complete knowledge of halala and i know that Allah's curse is on who do halala and for whom it is done. My husband said i give u talak talak talak salsa as khula, so what about this sentence as he took sighns of two witnesses also on stamp paper but those witnesses i never saw them and they never made any attemt for recoinciliation. These witnesses just made divorce authentic from my husband. what type of witness it was? i never asked for khula again after my abortion then why he did so? he never gave me khula when i just asked in fighting? now upon my first abortion he made me alone as i was already alone and suffering....... i want to go back to him and he is with his other 3rd wife now and has a daughter also. He made a sin and Allah blessed him with daughter also?why he bless such zalim person who did zulm on two innocent girls......????

      • Your divorce is counted as one. Alhamdullilah. But If he divorces you two more times later then there is no going back. It is irrevocable. But To get him back, you have to marry someone else, consumate that marriage and if he divorces you out of his own free will ( NOT PRE-PLANNED), then only you can get back with your ex-husband.

        So take heed, STOP FIGHTING and START COMPROMISING.

        i want to go back to him and he is with his other 3rd wife now and has a daughter also. He made a sin and Allah blessed him with daughter also?why he bless such zalim person who did zulm on two innocent girls......????

        I dont understand this part. If he got a daughter from his 3rd wife, How is it a sin ?

        • i mean to say that he has ruined lives of two innocent wives by divorcing them then why Allah blessed him with a daughter? he did so wrong with us and Allah blessed him daughter. he divorced us for not being able to produce baby and now he has a daughter by 3rd wife. there is no sin but obtaining child by divorcing and remarrying is a sin definitely. he has divorced me thrice in one go instantly on wrtten stamp paper with two witnesses but he has not divorced me two other times later. is it one divorce or three?

          • he divorced us for not being able to produce baby and now he has a daughter by 3rd wife. there is no sin but obtaining child by divorcing and remarrying is a sin definitely.

            NO. It is NOT a sin. Divorce is permissible even though it is hated. So divorce with a strong valid reason is not a sin.

            Allah (SWT) allows polygyny for this reason too. So that a man can marry more than one wife, if his first wife is unable to bear children. But if he is not able to maintain two or more wives then he is allowed to divorce them and marry another one just to have babies. It is no sin. Truth is bitter.

        • if my divorce is one then why people of pakistan say its three. can u give fatwa on my divorce that its one only. hanfi maslak says these are three divorces. u say its one, which view i accept. i want to accept what Holy Quran says and sunnah.

          • Abu Sahba' said to Ibn 'Abbas (Allah be pleased with them): "Do you know that three (divorces) were treated as one during the lifetime of Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him), and that of Abu Bakr, and during three (years) of the caliphate of Umar (Allah be pleased with him)". Ibn Abbas (Allah be pleased with them) said: "Yes". [Sahih Muslim]

            Mahmud bin Labid (radiAllahu anhu) who said that Rasulullah (SAW) was informed about a man who had divorced his wife with all the three pronunciations (without interval/one sitting), so he stood up angrily and said: "Is the book of Allah played around with while I am still in your midst?"...until a man got up (with his unsheathed sword) and said: O Rasulullah, shall I not kill him?

            [Reported by an-Nasai]

            It just shows the severerity of issuing triple divorces at one time. It is not allowed. It is always considered as one. In your case, Insha'Allah it is ONE.

          • Jazak Allahu Khair, brother 'Ali bin Abdullah

            Muhammad Waseem
            IslamicAnswers.com Editor

        • u mean dr azhar married me and deceived me in the way that he did not let us know about his first marriage and divorce and u say itys not a sin? he divorced her first wife who was the poorest girl and ruined her life and divorced her for not able to produce child and u mean its not a sin? then he married me and when he saw that my baby is going to be miscarriaged he divorced me right after 2 days of my first medical abortion and u say its not a sin? he ruined my life also as i never demanded khula and he divorced me pressurisely just due to his own wish and u say its not sin? R u a human being?

          • Lol sister Asghar you need to relax !!! You didn't write any of these before and how am I suppose to know what your husband is ???

            You just mentioned this-

            he divorced us for not being able to produce baby and now he has a daughter by 3rd wife. there is no sin but obtaining child by divorcing and remarrying is a sin definitely.

            This is definitely NO SIN insha'Allah.

            But now you are writing somthing else to support your arguemnt. You are telling the truth I know, but you should have mentioned these points on your opening post.

            You said-

            dr azhar married me and deceived me in the way that he did not let us know about his first marriage and divorce and u say itys not a sin?

            I didn't know Dr. Azhar deceived you did I ? Now talking about ' deceive ', why should he inform to you about his first marriage and divorce ? If he did, you wouldn't have married him in the first place most probably. He married you after he divorce his first wife, So there is no need to inform the next potential partner.

            So If he is planing on getting married again, ( i,e 4th wife) He dont need your permission. Islam allows him to marry upto 4 wives and permission from his wives is not needed at all. The case is different if he wants proper justice among his wives. He can just marry another one without informing you. There is no sin here. Its just that he'll have to face the consequences later, if there is.

            So I would still say, Its not a SIN I believe.

            You then said-

            he divorced her first wife who was the poorest girl and ruined her life and divorced her for not able to produce child and u mean its not a sin?

            His divorce reason is extremely valid. I would have prefered if he kept his first wife and marry another to get a child. but possibly he is not able to maintain it, whether financially or emotionally or physically etc. So no sin still.

            You then said-

            then he married me and when he saw that my baby is going to be miscarriaged he divorced me right after 2 days of my first medical abortion and u say its not a sin?

            Lets continue what you said-

            he ruined my life also as i never demanded khula and he divorced me pressurisely just due to his own wish and u say its not sin?

            here you said you NEVER demanded khula.

            Lets see what you told us earlier-

            when I asked him for giving me divorce in fighting in mobile messages

            Sister by now, I sense that you are more at fault for your own problem.

            You asked for khula, So he saved your messages, went to the court, he showed them that you asked for it and the court granted your khula. Simple as that.

            just like you explained it-

            But he saved my all mobile messages and kept them saved till the court proceedings and when i got my first medical abortion, he gave me such triple Talaq following khula in writting on stamp paper.

            So I still say, You asked for divorce and you got it. Now dont act like you are completely innocent. For a marriage to work, both partners have to sacrifice, compromise and not fight fight fight.

            Let me just point out one more thing, you said-

            I never asked it intentionally.... Never ever i never wanted divorce

            Now please answer me, IS DR AZHAR GOD ? can he read your mind ?? How would he know what your intention is ??? Just like when I say its not a sin, you brought up somthing new and blame me that I supported him for sinning. now how do I know the history of your husband lol.

            let me sum up by analyzing the informations you have given us. He may have or may have not divorce you on his own wish and that is because you also asked for khula. So put the blame on both of you for not understanding each other.

            R u a human being?

            oh yes I am 😀

      • I have gone through many videos and fatwas regarding this issue. the deoband and hanafi scolars have stated so many hadiths that say 3 talaqs are 3 not one. I also heard the opposite scholars. But in a debate the hanafi scholars wins over.
        If the Quran and sunnah say it is 3 then 3, not that a school is saying this and that but the real hadith.
        I dont know what to do. The imams in my country know BS!!

  4. We can not question Allah for what He gives to anyone. Be they oppressors or be they oppressed.

    But the Lord of everyone is Allah, Who Is The Most Just and does not do Dhulm in the least.

    If you intend Khula, then your husband has no choice but to divorce you by this way, but you need to pay him his demand, which could be your Mahr which he had given to you.

    But if you actually want to return to him, as your Iddah has ended, you can return to him. Your divorce was one and not three, insha Allah.

    Muhammad Waseem
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • thanx u have satisfied me as my question was how much divorces are mine....its one only. i have to get baack to my husband by new nikah. but what about husband if he believes theses divorces to be three and not one?

      • Show him these:

        It was narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) that he said: At the time of the Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him), Abu Bakr and the first two years of ‘Umar’s caliphate, a threefold divorce was counted as one. Narrated by Muslim (1472).

        And the Ahadeeth that brother 'Ali bin Abdullah has quoted. Insha Allah, if he respects and follows the Rasool Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam, then he will agree.

        Muhammad Waseem
        IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  5. You said:

    1.

    dr azhar married me and deceived me

    2.

    then he married me and when he saw that my baby is going to be miscarriaged he divorced me right after 2 days of my first medical abortion

    3.

    he ruined my life also

    4.

    he has ruined lives of two innocent wives by divorcing them

    5.

    he did so wrong with us

    6.

    why he bless such zalim person who did zulm on two innocent girls......????

    and then you are saying:

    plz pray for me that my husband's heart quickly get melted and he propose me again for new nikah

    I see what you are doing there. If he did get back to you for a new nikah, I wont be suprise for another roller coaster ride.

    My adivce would be, stay strong, pray to Allah more and more. Ask him to have mercy on you and guide you. Pray salat al istikharra. having patience is important.

    I'll still pray for you insha'Allah.

  6. and Allah (SWT) knows best.

    • yes he should inform first about his first marriage and divorce. It was purely a deception upon his part. and marryaing and divorcing is right of husband but he is not so free to use his right in islam. He played with girls and now we are leading a pitty life. who is responsible for this? divorce is the most haram deed in halal things so we all should keep ourselves away from this act. divorcing a wife within one year is a real cruelty....do not u think it a cruel act i.e divorcing a woman just after 2 days of her abortion (and in post natal bleeding). if u keep urself on my place what will u do after bearing such huge two shocks of life?

  7. yes i wana remarry him but he accepts three talaks instantly given.

  8. asalamualaikum brothers and sisters,

    hope u are ALL well inshallah

    my question is " can i do istikharah to find out if i am divorced or not under the tripple divorce ruling"?

    me and my wife had an very heated argument which lasted 25 mins and i said 3 talaaqs in one go in extreme anger but i had NO intention for divorce and i have a stammer problem too, there are mixed opinions on the "tripple talaaq" so i am confused, i have done istikharah 3 times in a row now and left my case to Allah to guide me back to my wife if divorce is not counted or keep me away from my wife if my divorce is counted.

    please can u further advice me on this issue

    jazakhallah

    • Sajad, Istikhaarah is not meant to find out rulings but seeking Allah's counsel in decision making. We have published many posts on talaaq/divorce. Please do a search and read them.

      For anything else, login and submit a new post.

      Abu Abdul Bari
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  9. I m Muslim if give her divorce 3 time in words can God accept this,According to the Noble Quran, Allah Almighty made it clear in Noble Verses 2:229-230 that when a man divorces his wife three times, then he can't remarry her until she had married another man, and got divorced from him.plz let me know. thanks

    • lalani, read the answers already given.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • I don't understand can you clear me, its not for anger position, she is greed and lie too much, I give her all a to z and I m out with zero and give her divorce on words in phone. I need out from her life, plz clear me its 100% approve..thanks

  10. Asalam-0-Alaikum every one. sorry me back after such a long time. actually my that cousin who was proposing me after my divorce had died. bahot buray naseeb hain meray............. weeping

  11. Aslamo Alakum......

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  12. I divorced my wife last year...

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  13. Aoa!
    I need guidence.

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  14. AoA,
    I have divorced my wife 3 times at once intentionally, is it talaak (irrevokable)? I did it on telephone to two individuals.
    Please guide me on this matter, its urgent...

  15. Salaam brother
    I would like to know divorce on menses counted as also if divorce given three times counted as only one
    I need to know 100% as don't want any sin

    jazak Allah Khair

  16. Plzzz help me in this matter some peopl say its count only one divorce nd some peopl say during pregancy divorc is nt valid can I go back to him I m worry about my baby

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