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Trying to conceive for 7 months

glass thermometerSalaam I have been trying to conceive for 7 months and I am making dua to Allah and daily I am checking my basal body temperature in morning and doing OPK test also.

I have seen a doctor also, and she has done pelvic test , thyroid test (3.63) and FSH  (4.82) and my doctor advised that  everything is normal but my cycle is sometime 20 days to 36 days (period). The doctor says I am taking too much stress and there is no issue with me my all reports are normal she said.

What should I do now? Please help me......... is orgasm necessary during love making (intercourse) and I want to know how to conceive soon and what thing I should do during intercourse to conceive?

- abishai

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  1. SALAM O ALIKOM SISTER.

    DONT STRESS URSELF OVER THIS. IF UR DOCTOR SAID EVERYTHING IS FINE WITH U. THEN THE LAST WORD IS UP TO GOD. IF U JUST GOT MARRIED THEN U HAVE A WINDOW ABOUT A YEAR TO CONCIEVE. JUST DONT STRESS URSELF COS STRESS OR ANY OTHER EMOTINAL PROBLEMS MAKES IT DIFFICULT TO CONCIEVE ALSO. WHY DONT U DO SOMETHING FUN? LIKE TRAVELING OR RECONNECT WITH PEOPLE U LOVE..........EXTRA.
    OR TAKE A LONG BATH WITH RELAXING FRAGRANT CANDLES. I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM I HAVE BEING MARRIED FOR A FIVE YEARS AND I WAS TAKING BIRTH CONTROL PILLS. AND NOW I HAVE STOPED TAKING THEM 4 A YEAR. AND STILL NOTHING HAPPENING. EVENTHOUGH MY DOC SAID EVERYTHING IS NORMAL. HONESTLY WHEN U THINK ABOUT IT EVERY SINGLE DAY U WILL BE MORE STRESSED THAN U SHOULD BE. SO I LEARNED TO WAIT I AM NOT IN HURRY. IF GOD WANTS ME TO CONCIEVE I WILL. SO JUST STOP THINKING ABOUT IT AND INSHAALAH U WILL BE OKAY.
    ORGASM HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH CONCEIVING SISTER, THAT IS A PLEASURE ONLY SOMETIMES U MAY HAVE IT OR U MAY NOT. ALSO IF U WANNA CHECK OUT OVULATION CALENDER IT WILL HELP U ALSO WITH OPK AND BBT TESTS THAT U R DOING. JUST GOOGLE IT AND U WILL FIND OUT A LOT WEBSITES 4 OVULATION CALENDER (ITS THE DAYS WHERE U HAVE A HIGH CHANCES OF CONCEIVING). PERSONNALY I LIKE IT AND SOME OF MY FRIENDS DID WORK FOR THEM.
    FYI. THERE IS NO PARTICULAR POSITION DURING INTEMACY THAT CAN HELP U CONCEIVE.
    JUST DONT GIVE UP AND KEEP TRYING AND MAKE DOUA. BEST OF LUCK

  2. Salam sister,
    I had the same problem...I have started doing 3 things with the Niayat that Allah may give me a hope...
    1. Recite at least 1 Para of Quran daily.
    2. Recite Sura e Maryam before going to sleep but b regular..
    3. Recite Bismillah e Allah Huma Janabat shaytan a wa janabeyshaytana ma razaktana fa inna hu aii yuqadaro benahuma waladun fi zalika lam yaddurahu shaytanun abadan...
    I know its difficult to read for u but I can't write in Arabic..
    Do these things...And hope from Allah
    Leave the rest on him..
    Pray for me too

  3. Sister

    you say you have been checked yourself (in fact both of you) but whilst in the Muslim world this is harder to tackle, many times if the woman is fine, it is worth checking the men. Have your husbands been examined?

    I suffered the same problem, the assumption of the doctors was that the problem lay with the woman so I suffered many invasive tests to see. I was normal. FINALLY they looked at my husband's sperm, and it emerged that he had only 1% of viable sperm.

    Just a suggestion...

  4. Just relax and enjoy your life, love god and be at peace in your heart. When you least expect it God will bless you with the right child at the right time. Inshallah

    Do use common sense and have your husband examined though.

    I gave up after after 7 years and I do have something wrong, But, bismillah al-rahman al-raheem Allah gave me a beautiful son that is 20 years old now.

    I hope that god blesses you!!!

    Maybe in a few years I will be a grama -- inshallah.

  5. Dear, Im patient of endometriosis and have no children. Drs say for surgery and icsi. But I believe in Allah. And I daily recite the first half portion of surah mariyam with translation. As understanding is v important. And I have continued homeopathy treatment. There r many other duas, as zikriya AS dua in surah ambiya.
    Another thing is diet. As far as my disease is concerned, I avoid chicken and caffine now. As hens are given the food which is made by blood and which is haram according to me and many others. And in this age problems like infertilty and hormone imbalance is the result of it. So avoid chicken and coffee.
    And the most important is to pray. As I pray for you and for all Muslim sisters to have this blessing easily.
    And kindly pray for me as well. Though I pray to my lord, the lord of heavens and earth, the light of heavens and earth .
    Ya khaliqu, ya Bariu, ya Musawiru.

    K,haa,yaa,aien,suaad.

    Allah-u Noor-us-samawat-i wal arz .
    Plz bless all of us with this neemat.
    Mrs Aisha

    • Dear sister Aicha,
      I am in the same case. You are doing good with your diet but seeking treatment is also Sunnah of Prophet (SAWS). So if your Dr is recommending surgery and IVF ICSI, go for it. It is only treatment for this disease otherwise it goes on increasing and spreading in whole abdomen and even can cause cancer. I have been into this situation and lost my Fertility. Even now IVF ICSI failed for me. Allah is merciful, do pray and trust but follow your treatment from Dr. Further I had a friend who was taking homeopathy treatment but she got it worse need because it does not work.
      I pray for you but I suggest to follow your Dr.

      Wsalam

  6. Salaam,

    I got married in Nov 2007 and still trying to conceive 🙁 i am very unlucky in this...I know Allah is testing my patience but sometimes its so difficult 2 deal with my fate. All my tests and my husband's test normal Alhumdulillah. Kindly advice me with any wazeefa so that Allah notice my tears and grant me with a healthy baby! i am very sad 🙁

    • My Dear Sister, Farah,

      I pray Allah blesses you with children, aameen. These are a few duas I have found in the Quran. InshaAllah they will be beneficial for you:

      1) Du'a of Zakariyya (Zakariah) (as), which he made in his old age while his wife was barren. Allah(swt) answered his call and gave him Yahyah (John)(as), in Al Qur'an, Surah Al-'Imran 3:38: "O my Lord! Grant me from You, a good offspring. You are indeed the All-Hearer of invocation."

      2)Du’a of Ibrahim (as). Allah accepted his dua and granted Prophet Ibraheem two sons: Ismael and Ishaq (as), in Al Quran Surah Saaffaat: "My Lord, grant me from the righteous ones."

      3) Du’a of Zakariyya(as). in Al Quran Suratul Anbiyaa: 89: "Oh Allah, please don't leave me alone (childless), for you are the best of those who give inheritors."

      4) Du’a in Al Qur'an 25:74: "Our Lord! give us spouse and children who will be the joy( and the comfort ) of our eyes, and guide us to be models of righteous (Leader of God-concious people). "

      5) Du’a in Al Quran - 46:15 Surah Al-Ahqaf: "...Oh Rabb, inspire me to give You thanks for the bounties you have granted to me and my parents, and to act righteously to please You. Lord, make my offspring virtuous. Lord I turn to you in repentance; I am a Muslim".

      ***

      SisterZ
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  7. 1. recte SURAH MARYAM daily.
    2. recite durood-e-TAJ 7 times on dates (Khajoor) and eat it daily for 21 days
    3. After Namaz make these 3 DUAS:

    a) Rabbi Habli mil-ladunka waliyya.
    b) Rabbi Habli mil-ladunka zurriyyatan Tayyiba. Antas-sami-ud-duaa'
    c) Rabbi La tazarni fardau wa-khairul wariseen

  8. 1. recte SURAH MARYAM daily.
    2. recite durood-e-TAJ 7 times on dates (Khajoor) and eat it daily for 21 days
    3. After Namaz make these 3 DUAS:

    a) Rabbi Habli mil-ladunka waliyya.
    b) Rabbi Habli mil-ladunka zurriyyatan Tayyiba. Innaka sami-ud-duaa'
    c) Rabbi La tazarni fardaw wa-anta khairul wariseen

  9. Assalamu alikum
    sisters im diagnosed with polycystic ovry syndrom
    plz help me to hav children
    i love my husband n vry much attached wit in laws
    plz do help

    • Maza, wa alaykum as-salam. You should consult your doctor about this. And make dua' to Allah.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • Salam,
      Sister I have also been diagnosed with poly cystic ovarian syndrome. Consult your doctor as there are medications that can help you conceive. With medication I became pregnant twice but both times I had a miscarriage, then I became pregnant the third time and me and my husband decided to give sadaqa, we ended up having a successful pregnancy and now we have a very beautiful two year old daughter. I am hoping to try again, please contact me if you need any emotional support. It takes a little bit of patience but most women with PCOS are able to conceive and have children,so do not lose hope. Find a good doctor and continue to make dua, Inshallah you will have your baby soon.

      • Salam mehreen!
        I hav also got pcos , i got married 3 months back and im trying to concieve .. plz tell me what u did what medications u took and what ur doctor advised u to get pregnant?

    • Pcos is nothing if u trust Allah Subhanwa tallah. ...just keep on praying astagfaar as much as u can and 313 times of ayatal kursi on every Friday between asr to magribh inshAllah with total faith in Allah and his miracle. ...best of luck

    • Please along with the duas of hazrat zikriya (peace be upon him) try a herbal medicine called shatavari.

  10. Salam. Im also trying to concieve got married in january2014.pray for me too and sugest a good doctor in khi.

  11. Salam sisters its been 11month im trying to concieve, got married in january2014.pray for me too and suggest a good doctor u experienced for fertility treatment and checkup in khi as we both havent seen any dr except dr hilal akhter mahapori but he refused to treat us as he says he never treat any couple before 3years of marriage he thinks its too early to treat.and he didnt suggest any test(so i dont know if there z any prob in me or my hubby) although i trust him and found him good bt its not possible for to wait now its difficult 🙁 i dont know what to do? waiting for ur consult thanx

  12. Dear sister in Islam I have been through the same stress and it was the main culprit that didn't made me conceive and I had slight pcos too, but the Miracle of Allah Subhanwa tallah Alhamdollilah I am preggo now....was trying for 2 years, started reciting ayatal kursi 113 times on every Friday between asr to magribh just 3 weeks and Alhamdollilah it helped me...and also lots of astagfaar tasbeeh with rabbis tazarnee fardau wa anta khairul wareesin .....inshAllah May Allah bless us all sisters with best
    of heirs inshAllah

  13. dose up on folic acid ladies

  14. Assalamualaikum.. Sister Heena shaikh hw many tyms should v recite ayatal kursi on.evry Friday.. Is it 113 tyms or 313 tyms..

  15. I am also married since 2009 i have no baby doctor says its pre manupause i am 27 plz tell me something

    • Allah plz help

      • Im nw 30 years old, diagnosed as premature ovarian failure, antimullerian hormone is <0.01, married fr 5 years nw..kindly suggest me something my dear sisters, fed up of consulting docs, they gave me the only option of ovum donation which is haraam in Islam otherwise no hope. Bt i do believe tht Allah does miracles. Im utterly frustrated disgusted.

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