Two stillborn babies and lost an infant, please pray for me
salam
i have had two stillborns at third trimester and a baby girl who only lived for 14 days, i would appreciate anyone who can pray for me and ask allah to bless me with healthy babies, that have long lives, and also give me any duas that i can read for better pregnancies.
- samaira
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Dear Sister Samaira, I am very sorry for your loss. I will definitely mention you in my prayers and duaa, Insha'Allah.
I don't mean to be rude, but have you considered adoption? There are millions of Muslim orphans in various countries who have lost their parents due to war, natural disasters, or other circumstances. To adopt one of them and raise him/her well is a great act of charity. Of course in Islam our concept of adoption is different since the child must still retain his name and be aware of his true parentage, but there is no restriction on love and care.
wael sir your advice is good .but every women wants to have her own child she wants to feel that pain of delivery.yes if a women can not concieve then definetely she shud adopt one.....
Walaikumsalaam Samaira,
I pray Allah gives you eemaan and patience to get through this difficult time in the best way and that He(swt) replaces your loss and sabr with reward. This is major test for you from Allah so I thought the following hadiths would give you some comfort.
"Whoever buries three children, Allah will forbid the Fire for him." (Saheeh, Tabarani in al-Kabeer, Al-Albani authenticated it in Saheeh Al-Jaami' (6238).)
"There are no two Muslim parents whose three children die before reaching puberty except that Allah will enter them into Paradise due to His mercy to the children. It will be said to them, "Enter the Paradise", so they will say, "Not until our parents enter first". It will be said, "Enter the Paradise you and your parents." (Ahmad, an-Nasaa'i, and Al-Albani authenticated it in Saheeh al-Jaami' (5780).)
"'Whoever iHtasaba (remains content and patient after the death of) three of his offspring will enter Jannah.' A woman said, 'What about two?' He said, 'And two.'" (Saheeh, an-Nasaa'i, Ibn Hibban, authenticated by al-Albani in Saheeh al-Jaami (5969).)
"To no woman three children die and she remains patient and content, except that she will enter Jannah. Or two (children)." (Muslim)
These hadiths may not relate exactly to your situation as they refer to two or three children that have lived and then returned to Allah(swt). But I am very sure that your pain of having had two still births and one child passing away after being with you for a while will not be undermined by Allah(swt); He knows your pain. Remember Allah tests those He loves; be strong Sis, may Allah bless you with the beauty and comfort of motherhood in whichever way He knows is best for you, as He is the Greatest of Planners.
xxx
salaams, having experienced a stillbirth on my EDD, I pray that Allah gives you sabr. I recently found this hadith which is so beautiful and relevant. "By whom my soul is in His hand, the fetus that dies a neonatal death drags his mother with his umbilical cord in Paradise if she stays patient seeking the reward for this affliction from Allah swt.
Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim
Salaam Alaikum wa Rahmatullah, sister Samaira.
Inna lilahi wa inna ilahi rajiunn... Indeed, we belong to Allah and to Him is the return. I ask that Allah comfort you for your loss and give you the patience and endurance in this test.
I am blessed to be a mother of four children, but I have also experienced multiple miscarriages. I know the pain of being pregnant and then all of a sudden not, and the phsycial and mental anguish that comes with this. But Allah never gives us more than we can bear; if you deal with this issue with patience, and ask Allah to help you, He will reward you as Wael and SisterZ have said.
Take care of yourself. I'm sure you will have well-meaning people approaching you and telling you things, like "if you hadn't gone out in the rain that time" or "if you had only not eaten this particular food" in a manner that they try to make you feel that miscarriage / stillbirth is your fault. It is NOT. It is Allah's Qadr and we do not know the reason one woman carries a pregnancy successfully and another does not. This does not mean that you shouldn't look for a medical diagnosis, but don't let laypeople make you feel guilty. Talk to your doctor to see what you can do going forward to make sure you are physically and mentally healthy. Take care of your health, not just for the sake of being a vessel to carry a baby, but for your own sake.
I have a dear friend who was married for 8 years before Allah blessed her with children, and now alhamdulilalh, she has three. Despite my many miscarriage I also have been blessed with children, and i will make du'a for you that you are able to carry and give birth to a healthy child who will grow to be a pious Muslim or Muslimah and a coolness for your eyes. I want only the best for my sister in Islam as Allah has blessed me. Do not allow yourself to become entrenched in sadness over what has gone before. Look to the future and take care of yourself. Pray the prayers on time, pray the night prayer, fast as much as you are able, and make sure that your rizq is halaal and you are avoiding sins such as ribaa and such. This will help you be a mentally healthy woman and this often is the key to a successful pregnancy, as much as physical wellness. Please feel free to contact me if you need support.
Fi Aman Allah,
Noorah
Salaam
Shukran Nura for the inspiring message, for I have too lost babies due to miscarriage and stillbirth. and it is truly a hard test on our faith. But Allah (swt) test those he love and u have truly inspired me to make my imaan strong and sabr
Dear Faiza,
May Allah reward you for your sabr and replace your loss with something better.
SisterZ
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Dear Friend,
God is One Power and One Power only. In God, which you are, there are no lost children and no lost pregnancies. Relax and do not struggle. Trust the Lord God All Mighty and you will prevail and be a happy and healthy mother of a happy and healthy child. Give all credit to God only. Love and Best to you and yours.
Assalam Aylaikum,
sorry to hear about your loss, ive been married for 3 years and have had 3 miscarriages and 1 week ago i found out i was pregnant and now im miscarrying again for the 4th time..i know this is a test from Allah(swt) i also am taking care of my mother who is sick and maybe i think that this is a sign from Allah(swt) that i will not be able to handle starting a family and taking care of my mum............ i know Allah (swt) will be bless me with kids one day Insha'Allah....but i have realised that in this time of hardship i am turning to Allah(swt) more than i ever have alhamdulillah. Maybe if Allah gives us everything then we might forget him so Allah(swt) test us in many ways to see our patience and to get closer to him...SubhanAllah... with hadrship comes ease..... make alot of dua wallahi it helps and makes you feel better....Insha'Allah
salam
i completely forgot that i had posted requesting for duas, it fills my heart with so much happiness when i read these messages. at times like this one gud word makes a difference and makes me want to luk towards a brite future, jazak allah
sajidah jus like u i feel that allah has bought me closer to him through the pain of my childrens' loss, alhumdullila i pray five times and try my hardest to do tings that please my allah (swt), and i pray that he blesses me with is guidance and protection always, as well as everyone,
but all the same i would really really b at peace when others will make dua for me, and inshallah i will always remember everyone in my prayers
alhumdullilah i was called to allahs home twice within two months and that for me was a sign that allah is protecting and blessin me always, amen
AOA,
I can understand your pain because i went through the same a month ago. My daughter Fatimah lived for 6 days before she went back to Allah due to multiple intra cranial bleedings. I am a doctor myself. Immediately after her loss, i tried to look into the fact what went wrong but being a muslim and believing in the fact that Allah knows best consoled me. I stopped searching for answers because i knew that it was Allah's will and the fact that he has something far more greater for me planned gave me hope and patience. Alhamdulillah, I have never felt so close to Allah before than now. He has already blessed me with a 4 years old son and i hope and pray that he blesses me again with another healthy child. I pray for you that Allah eases your pain and gives you a healthy child. I am writing down an aayat for you to recite. I am reciting it these days. hope its of help:
Rabb ay hub le min la dun ka zariyatun tayyeba ina ka same u dua.......it means: O my Lord, grant me a good offspring. You are, indeed, the All-Hearer of invocations.
please recite this aayat as much as possible. Inshallah, Allah will grant both of us with healthy children. AMEEN 🙂
My dear Sister Faiza,
May Allah ease your pain, aameen. InshaAllah you will pull through and inshaAllah you will have more children and inshaAllah you will meet your baby Fatima in Jannah, aameen. JazakhAllah for your comforting and encouraging words here, I am sure they will give many sisters relief inshaAllah.
Please see this link, it may help you: http://www.ibrahimstree.com
SisterZ
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May Allah (swt) replace all your grief with happiness all you pain with joy and fill you with iman and sabr, Ameen ya Rahman, ya khaliq ya Rahim ya Awaal ya Akhir.
salamualaykum sister
may allah reward you and bless you a healthy children. my advise never forget sali calannabi and making dua in the sujuud.salamualaykum
Asalam Alaikum sister,
I gave birth to a babyboy .but he survive only for 4 days.He didnot even open his eyes and cud not see me.he was lying on the ventilater.I was very sad at that time bcoz I was eagerly waiting for his birth.but my family and everyone else console me by saying that i will have a child again and it happens with many women . and i have a husband so Allah will bless me with children. I kept patience and console myself that i will have kids insha Allah.
But just after 2 months my husband divorce me.Ahhhh.....now I dont know whethr i will ever get married and have my own kids(only Allah knows).....you are still at a better position.Thank Allah for that and keep patience.Allah tests his beloved pupil.Keep faith in Allah.
Asalam Alaikum
im really sorry to hear about your hardship, its very hurtful when the person u had ur baby with can leave u jus like that, but inshallah allah swt has only gud tings planned for us no matter what the situation.
i myself have jus last year had another loss, at 9 mnths this time, it was very hard but alhumdullila my allah has once again given me sabr, now i hav 4 beautiful angels waitin for me in heaven, n that is what lets me smile n live in this world, the hope of seein them inshallah
n my husband n his family threw me out of my home, jus like that, no humanity has been left in this world when i remember how my husband n his family hav treated me, after 4 babies they decide they do not want me,
this world is all but a test and lets pray that we are successful in our imaan inshallah
lets all pray for one another
I'm so sorry to hear that, dear sister Sumaira. I will remember you in my dua. May Allah SWT give you a brighter future, with a loving family, and endless joy.