Valid marriage and polygamy?
My fiancee and i are both muslims and we are planning to get married here in saudi. He has a long time girlfriend in the philippines which he plans to marry also, which is totally fine with me. ☺️ My question is, will there be any problem if he will marry his non-muslim girlfriend in the philippines after we got married here in saudi? Will it be considered as legal marriage? And also what are the requirements for us to get married in riyadh islamic marriage court. Thank you.
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This is an excerpt from the article I found at quranicpath.com.
No where in the Qur'an is it allowed to marry more than one wife for personal satisfaction. The verse regarding polygamy is set in the clear context of taking care of orphaned children. It specifies the only reasoning behind marriage to more than one woman:
Surah 4 - An-Nisa (Women), Verses 1 to 4
يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ اتَّقُوا رَبَّكُمُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُمْ مِنْ نَفْسٍ وَاحِدَةٍ وَخَلَقَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا وَبَثَّ مِنْهُمَا رِجَالا كَثِيرًا وَنِسَاءً وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ الَّذِي تَسَاءَلُونَ بِهِ وَالأَرْحَامَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَيْكُمْ رَقِيبًا
"People, be mindful of your Lord, who created you from a single soul, and from it created its mate and from the pair of them spread countless men and women. Be mindful of Allah, in whose name you ask one another of what is in the womb,
Allah is always watching over you". (4:1)
وَآتُوا الْيَتَامَى أَمْوَالَهُمْ وَلا تَتَبَدَّلُوا الْخَبِيثَ بِالطَّيِّبِ وَلا تَأْكُلُوا أَمْوَالَهُمْ إِلَى أَمْوَالِكُمْ إِنَّهُ كَانَ حُوبًا كَبِيرًا
"Give orphans their property, do not replace their good things with the bad, and do not consume their property with your own. That is a serious crime". (4:2)
وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلا تُقْسِطُوا فِي الْيَتَامَى فَانْكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ مَثْنَى وَثُلاثَ وَرُبَاعَ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلا تَعْدِلُوا فَوَاحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ذَلِكَ أَدْنَى أَلا تَعُولُوا
"If you fear that you will not be just/equitable to the orphans, then marry as permissible for you, women, two, three or four. But if you fear you will not be equitable, then one or to whom you are committed to by oath. That is better so that you
do not deviate from the right course". (4:3)
Firstly, the verse of 'polygamy' is clearly embedded within the context of taking care of orphans. Where 4:3 is the 'verse of polygamy', the issue of orphaned children starts from 4:2.
Secondly, reading 4:3, we notice the verse begins by laying a clear condition, "If you fear that you will not be just/equitable to the orphans, then marry...". The underlined word "then" is the translation for the word "fa / ف". This term used to mean "in that case / so / then" is connecting the two portion of marrying more than one woman, and being more equitable to orphans, in a conditional manner. Even to an un-trained reader, it is very obvious to notice that Allah is stating here that the verse is 'permitting' another marriage only in order to be more "just / equitable" to orphaned children, in other words, to take care of orphaned children better. Orphaned children who have lost their father need care when their widowed mother is unable to provide for them. How can marrying again solve the problem of helpless orphaned children who are not provided for (e.g. food and shelter)? Ofcourse, it is by marriage to the widowed mother to whom the orphans belong to - who is also in need of provision.
Source: http://www.quranicpath.com/misconceptions/polygamy_islam.html Please read the entire article, I just only gave a basic excerpt from that article to point out that polygamy is clearly for taking care of orphaned children.
you are engaged to a man who is in indulging in a haraam relationship with another women and this alone doesnt bother you? If he is in love with his non muslim girlfried, why is he engaged with you and how can you allow yourself to be with a man who is openly dating anouther women? polygamy is allowed in islam, but fo ra valid reason, not to fufil desires as he cannot make up his mind between two women and wants both
Salam sister,
There is something wrong with this picture. You are ok with him marrying a non-muslim girl and sharing your husband with a kufr? Sister, Please forgive me if I seem rude, but if you marry this man and love him, then protect his deen and don't sit back while he gets attached to shaitans for personal pleasure. The fact that he is having 2 girlfriends at the same time is very wrong in the first place. He should not even have a girlfriend! Marriage should be done a halal way, and very cleanly between two families, not between 2 girlfriends and a player.
Please think seriously about the character of who you are marrying before your deen gets damaged and your life becomes a hardship. Talk to your parents and ask to meet his family. Then lay everything out on the table for everyone to see the situation, and listen to their advice and comments seriously. Remember that true love does not happen until after you are married, because EVERYTHING changes; so don't let anyone talk you into a situation that you are not 101% satisfied with.
Salam alaikum,
Shereen