Islamic marriage advice and family advice

What can I do to stop my husband from verbally abusing me?

verbal abuse, psychological abuse

Assalam O Alaikum,

What should a wife do if her husband keeps constantly swearing at her, her dad and dead mother for no reason and keeps on threating her with physical violence. The only excuse he has is he is stressed by his job. He can be a good husband when he wants to be and flips without any reason. What should I do?


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  1. Salaams,

    You don't deserve to be treated poorly or threatened. Honestly, it's entirely possible that the relationship could escalate into physical abuse if he's already threatening it, since violence in the home usually starts with verbal/emotional abuse.

    If I were you, I would state plainly to him that you are not being treated appropriately, and ask him to come with you to a marital counselor. If he refuses, you should still see one yourself to deal with what's already been going on. Ask him again to come, and if he again refuses tell him that you will stay with someone else until he can treat you as a wife should be treated. Find a relative or female friend you can stay with, and hopefully this will put the taste in his mind of what he is giving up and motivate him to really change his way. If he seems unmoved even then, there's nothing wrong with cutting your losses while you're ahead and opening yourself up to finding a good Muslim man who knows how to manage stress and treat his woman right.

    -Amy Editor

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