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We separated but I realized my mistake and want her back but her parents doesn’t agree

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Dear Staff,

My wife and me are married for over 3 years now. During our marriage we were very happy and we love each other a lot, till today. However, due to some problems, and mistakes by both of us, we ended up getting separated. She always wanted to be with me, but i made the mistake of choosing not too.

She went to her family, however, soon after i realized my mistake and since then for last six months, i had been trying to convince her family to let us get back together. They had ensured NO contact between my wife and me all this while, so i didn't even know if she still wanted to be with me. I left no stone unturned to make things work. Her parents believe that because of so many earlier problems, we may not be happy in future. However, we both KNOW that we LOVE each other and we will be Happy together. However, few days back, i got in touch with my wife. She didn't know that i have been trying to get her back all this while. And i came to know that she still loves me and wants to get back together.

However, now, we both want to be together, and we KNOW we can be happy. She is ready to come to me, unfortunately, convincing family is not an option for us as i had tried everything. She is ready to come, but her only concern is that she doesn't want to do it without telling her mother. She knows her mother will be unhappy at first but eventually her mother will be happy once she sees us happy.

Does Islam allows her to get back with me, bypassing her mother?

I am 30 and settled. She is 24.

Please advise ASAP.

Stressed Couple.


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3 Responses »

  1. ASSALAMALAIKUM
    PL REPLY IF ANY TALAQ WAS MENTIONED OR ATTEMPTED BY YOU OR HER SIDE IN THESE SIX MONTHS????
    BEFORE SHE LEFT OR AFTER SHE LEFT BOTH-
    THEN THE ANSWER CAN BE EASILY DONE

    REGARDS

  2. Sorry no advice just wanted to say I loved that picture cute elephant 🙂

  3. Assalamualaikum,

    Brother, it is good that you intend to reunite with your wife. The question brother Ali Yousuff has asked makes sense. Because if you have divorced her or she has taken Khula, you may have to do Nikah again before you can rebegin your relation, considering that 6 months have passed. But if she is still in the Iddah, you can take her back without a Nikah.

    If you did not divorce her, then you can take her back without her parents' consent because she is still your legally wedded wife and Halaal for you as per the Sharee'ah.

    Understand the rights of a wife in Islam and let her understand the rights of a husband in Islam. When you both understand each other well and overlook little mistakes and smile, the relation will stay, in sha Allah. But if you make an issue out of little matters, what has happened is likely to happen again. So, be aware and practice Islam as it should be practiced, in order to find success in this world and the hereafter.

    Abu Abdul Bari
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

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