I want to marry a non-Muslim guy who will revert, but parents are reluctant.
I dont want to hurt them
I have a query regarding marriage. I like a guy who is a non-muslim and he too loves me.
He is ready to revert back to Islam and get married to me but my parents oppose it even after knowing that he is ready to revert. I have cleared to him that I can get married to you only if my parents agree to it.
My parents have a fear that what if he is just acting to revert to islam and after that he changes his religion and all sort of opposing and fearful questions.
As far as I know he wont do such a think - he is not like that, but I don't want to hurt my parents at any cost by going against there will because hurting or disobeying them will be disobeying Almighty Allah subhau tal a lah..plz guide me..
-tabassum
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Asalaam alaikum,
The simple question to test his determination and sincerity of conversion is:
why hasn't he reverted/converted already if it's in his heart?
He has to accept Islam regardless of your situation together, because as of right now, it's a sin. He has to leave the sin, accept Islam and then make the proper proposal. Your parents may just need to witness his sincerity of being a Muslim.
If I were you, I would encourage him to convert and then have your father befriend him in order to help him with becoming a practicing Muslim. Leave the relationship between him and your father and if everything works out, then Alhamdulilah, your father will see and more than likely approve of the future marriage. Ask you father kindly and see what happens.
Yet, everything hinders on whether this man converts/reverts. If he is hesitates any longer, delays because of you or any other reason, then your family's fears are well justified and it's obligatory for us to recommend that you leave this man altogether and return to Allah (swt).
Lastly, I want to point something out: you say you "like" him, but that he "loves" you. Be careful with sweet words of affection that come from any man's mouth without the proper proposals and intentions. Too many women often repeat the same lines of "love" when their heart is tragically broken, their virginity taken, possibly pregnant and then abandoned by the same men.
"The simple question to test his determination and sincerity of conversion is: why hasn't he reverted/converted already if it's in his heart?"
Indeed. That gets right to the heart of the matter.
Wael
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