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What are my Islamic rights as a working woman?

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I am a working lady before marriage, after marriage my husband was agree to continue my job. My salary is 4 times more than my husband. He is doing job and I am also doing job.We have daughters. Due to my husband request my ATM card is with my husband. and he is spending all household expenses and gives me 500-1000 Rs. when I went to job. After reached home he asked me about money where I spent. That make me very upset that I worked hard day and night...even I had no money in my hand.... Is it allowed in Islam to take money from wife for household expenses because husband has no capacity to earn money for kids...?

My question is that.

shakira


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  1. I am in the same situation as yours, my husband do not support our needs because I am working but he married another girl without my consent or secretly. He even borrow money from me and I know he support it with his other woman and son..

    • Lhez: I am in the same situation as yours, my husband do not support our needs because I am working but he married another girl without my consent or secretly. He even borrow money from me and I know he support it with his other woman and son..

      Is polygamy legal in the country you live in?
      How do you know if he is married to the other girl or just sleeping with her?
      Have you talked to your family about this?

  2. Sister,

    Your husband has absolutely no right to your money. Not today. Not tomorrow. Not ever. If you choose to give money to your husband out of the kindness of your heart, that is your right to do so. As the man of the household, it is his duty to provide for you and your children. He does not need your ATM card and you are not required to give it to him. He has no right to give you spending money out of your own earnings as it is not his to give in the first place. Simply go to your bank and cancel the card and request a new one.

    Salam

  3. Salaams

    Your money is yours, and yours alone. Men, your husband too, are explicitly given the responsibility to provide for their family. Your husband has been given the right to be head of the household and to be treated as such by you and your children. But you have been given the right, of equal importance, to be provided for and to keep your own money. This is why men inherit twice as much as women from their parents for example. Your husband must be reminded that he can not claim his rights, without also making sure he fulfills his responsibilities. Take your card back sister, and make sure that you respectfully remind him of his duties and your rights.

    I know a sister who was in exact the same circumstances as you, and after a couple of years her husband had saved enough of HER money to think himself able to marry a second wife, and he paid the mahr and the apartment with his first wife's money! La hawla wala quwata illa billah, may that never happen to you!

    So it is important that you make sure of your rights, quickly.

    May Allah grant you peace and blessings in your marriage

  4. Asalam alikum,

    No sister, the husband must bear the financial responsibility for the family's food, clothing, shelter, and basic needs. He can not take your money without your consent, otherwise I would suggest speaking to a local imam or family members for authority to back you up on this. With a situation such as yours you should be saving money in the case that your husband loses his job or suffers a pay cut.

    However, do not use your good job to think yourself more superior than your husband. Even if he gets angry that you are cutting your money off, just cool yourself down and take a step back. Remember that you married him for the sake of Allah swt, and Allah wants us to be kind to our husbands. It will be hard, and it will be painful to see your husband complain, but you can not respond to start a fight.

    InshAllah you will pull through this stylishly.
    Salam,
    Shereen

  5. He has to provide for you and your daughters (basic necessities) , your not obligated to contribute unless its out of free will. You should keep your card with you.

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