What if I convert to Islam but my husband doesn’t?
I am not a Muslim yet, but I have been doing a lot of research and would love to revert as soon as I can find a mosque near me.
My question is, if/when I revert if my husband still sticks to his mind set of not doing so, I know I will have to take our kids and divorce him. But will I have to remarry?
-Margo
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I hope this helps.
A. Fatwa of The European Council for Fatwa & Research, including Sheikh Yusuf al-Qaradawi, Sheikh ‘Abdullah bin Bayyah, Sheikh ‘Abdullah al-Judai, Sheikh Suhaib Hasan and others (from Sheikh ‘Abdullah bin Bayyah, Sina’at al-Fatwa, pp. 356-7)
If both of the couple become Muslim, and they are not close relatives by blood or suckling that would make the marriage invalid, their marriage continues in its validity. (NB they do not need an Islamic nikah ceremony.)
If only the husband converts to Islam, they are not close relatives and the wife is a person of scripture, their marriage continues in its validity.
If only the wife converts to Islam, the view of the Council is that: a) if she converts before the marriage is consummated, she must leave him immediately; b) if she converts after consummation and her husband converts within 3 months or within 3 of her monthly cycles, their marriage continues in its validity; c) as before, but if a long time period has passed, she may remain with him in the expectation that he will convert also. If he eventually converts, their marriage continues in its validity, without needing a new marriage ceremony. d) If she wishes to leave her husband after the 3-month time period, she should seek dissolution of her marriage from the relevant authorities.
4. If the wife is Muslim and the husband is not, the four Madhhabs do not allow her to remain with him after the expiry of the 3-month period, or to have sexual relations with him. However, some scholars allow her to remain with him, fully-married, as long as he does not harm her regarding her religious practice and as long as she has hope that he will also convert to Islam eventually.
It is authentically narrated from ‘Umar bin al-Khattab that a woman became a Muslim while her husband remained non-Muslim: he ruled, “If she wishes, she may leave him or if she wishes, she may remain with him.” Also, there is an authentic narration from ‘Ali bin Abi Talib: “If the wife of a Jewish or Christian man becomes Muslim, he is entitled to remain her husband, since he has a covenant with the Muslims.” Similar views are authentically-narrated from Ibrahim al-Nakh’i, Imam Sha’bi and Hammad bin Abi Sulayman.
MORE HERE:
https://unity1.wordpress.com/2012/01/13/what-happens-to-a-marriage-if-one-of-the-couple-converts-to-islam/
Good information, but with all of that, you did not answer her question.
Sister Margo, the answer is no, if you convert to Islam and divorce your husband, you do not have to remarry.
Wael
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Excellent work ....that's is nice to see someone who is really devoted
The question you asked it really happening to you because if it's not that don't worry about it ..the vocabulary of SHAITAN. ..why if but how....And if you are muslim there is no way you be in this relationship without fights arguments and who knows...there's a clash of light n darkness? Thats why knowledge can be dangerous without practice!
Congratulations, your thoughts about converting to Islam, are indicative that Allahs is bestowing on you great mercy, your blessed sister!
My advise would be, try best to convince your Husband of Islam, could you get him to your local mosque to have some brothers talk to him, its always best when new to the religion, or considering it, to have a support network, since it is such a life changing thing for any person,
if your husband defiantly disagrees to convert to Islam, unfortunately you would have to leave him, but you do not have to ever remarry if you do not wish too, also, if some time from now you change your mind and wish to marry, there are plenty of women who have converted to islam, and married really nice brothers, you are not alone, i know many brothers who have married women who have converted,
i think your really brave
May God make your journey and situation easy for you.