What is love exactly? How to face love failure?
I am doing my undergraduate degree in dentistry. It's common in my profession to interact with boys, but I only talk about professional things and never share my personal issues with anyone. I knew my limits. But I met a muslim guy who was my senior. There was something special about him, I had a special inclination towards him. I could not behave normally like how I behave with others, I felt shy, stumbled when I spoke to him, when he spoke to me I could not answer him properly.
I knew there was something wrong and I told my sister about it she told me that she will speak with my parents. She also spoke to him. He said there is no chance of him marrying me and he will marry anyone whom his mom says. And right now he is not in situation to think about marriage because he is not yet settled.
My parents told me to stay away from him and we will think about it after few years. And I also made up my mind, stayed away from him and left everything on Allah.
Everything was going alright but suddenly my closest muslim friend with whom I used to share everything told about this to few people of my college. It got spread. He thought I am the one who spread everything and he is having a bad impression on me. I tried asking sorry, he didn't even listen to what I was saying and I left the place. Meantime there was some senior junior problem in my college because of which I literally went against him complaining about him and his freinds to higher officials. He was wrong. I tried explaining him what he did was wrong, he felt offended and told me be like junior don't take advantage. I felt hurt and left the place. He totally hates me. He always looks at me very angrily. I thought I have not done anything wrong,
I like him, inshallah in future he will be my husband but now everything has changed. I still have some feelings towards him. I realy cant give up. I am calm but nowadays I get upset a lot. I keep crying in my prayers. I realy could not concentrate on my studies. I keep praying and crying only then I feel calm. But I should study, my parents spend a lot for me. I realy need to know what I should do. And the biggest problem is I will have to see him daily, everytime I see him, I feel something which is not in my hands.
Brave heart
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OP: He said there is no chance of him marrying me and he will marry anyone whom his mom says.
Forget about him and move on. He clearly said "no chance to marry you". If you get close he may not say no to friendship.
He sounds like a mamas boy who is waiting for his mama to tell him who to marry and has made it very clear that he doesn't want to marry you. Or it's just his excuse for, I don't like you. Give up my dear.
This is not love failure, but you have to realize, love has to go both ways. You just have a crush. It's normal to have feelings for people, just stay away from him, and understand that he has rejected you so you should try to shut out feelings towards him as he is off limits.
Also, it seems you go to school with some people who like to gossip, try to filter out what you say to only reliable people that you truly trust.
You are young, you did not fail, save your love for someone who loves you back.
Dear Sister
There is a very wise saying "Set the one you cannot have free. If it comes back it is yours. If it does not then it never was yours."
Be patient and i can guarantee that you will definitely meet another person that you feel the special connection again.
Focus on helping and caring your junior students along with your study that will divert your attention away from him.
1. Please stop sharing what you feel about him with anyone. Seems like your friends are not good secret keepers. and not just in this matter you should be careful in every matter you share with your friends.
2. Do not explain or say sorry to that person. Some people are so full of themselves that they would not understand anything.
3. Please take this khushfehmi out of your mind that he will be your future husband. Who knows? I pray that you have a much better and loving husband than him.
4. Now comes the real problem. I know it can be really difficult to forget someone or suppress feelings for someone with whom you meet everyday. But try to minimize your conversation with him. Just like when you are grouped with a girl you do not like and how you manage to avoid talking with that girl and just focus on the project or assignment till the end.
5. Lower your gaze when you talk with him and do not look at him unnecessarily. Say these to yourself daily about 10-15 times that this person has rejected you so badly whereas you deserve much more better.
6. And if it still feels difficult for you then try fasting. Fasting can do wonders 🙂
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