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What is the best for me to do?

We were friends before we get into each other.
We know each other for about 7-8 months. We got into a relationship 2-3 months back.
Everything was going good we just used to talk casually and lovingly sometimes and just met for once in this period.

I don’t know what happened she stopped talking to me saying that her mom wont allow her to do so and she will not do anything against her decision. I told her that i can talk to her parents she denied.
I know she has feelings for me we now hardly talk but i know deep inside each others heart.
She said i dont want to heart you i can heart myself Allah will do better. She told me that her mom has ither plans that her sister from abroad has talk to someone something like that and then she said i dont want this.

I did Istikhara 10 days back and had no signs but I Prayed that Allah give me the best and do the best for her. I stopped sometime but my heart automatically falls for her again and again. We talk normally asking about each other sometimes.

What should i do? Istikhara again? What is the best for me ti do? I want to talk to her parents but she said no need to it seems she is scared that that the environment will go bad in her house.

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  1. Salaam alaikum
    Dont think with your physical desires.
    (Moderator's note: as you can see, I modified your comment slightly. Please try not to use gutter terminology on this website).
    Focus on your salaat and focus on your deen. You will not love this girl or any other girl with this intensity for your whole life. So why bother ruining your life by making bad decisions based on your hormones?
    Sex and love are promised in akhira for an eternity. Dont squander it away for the mere few seconds of pleasure in duniya.
    All women are the same in the end. One may have a pretty smile, another may have pretty eyes but in the end they are all the same and you will love or hate them equally. No one woman is worth the anger of Allah swt.
    Bro i say all this from deep regret and experience of my own. Been there done that. Astagfhirullah. May Allah have mercy on my soul. I live in the USA. Land of fitna and evil. I was born here. Its all bs.

  2. Brother, with all due respect, your comment isn't appropriate at all. The OP is not thinking with his private parts. He genuinely has feelings for the sister and he himself wanted to approach parents. There is nothing wrong with having feelings for someone(we are human) as long as they don't go down the haram route.

    Having said that, if the OP has tried to talk to the parents and the sister denies it, he can try talking to his and other elders if he is serious. If that doesn't work, then he should move on with his life and pray to Allah to do whats best for him. Inshallah, we are all preparing for the Akhirah and the Dunya is indeed a test but Allah answers our duas in both of them. Allah is the All-Knowing and All-Wise and he sees what is going on. Allah clearly states in the Quran, "Call unto me and I will answer you"

    On this blessed day of Jummah, May Allah forgive us for our sins and may Allah guide us, protect us, and answer our prayers/duas. Ameen.

  3. OP: Everything was going good we just used to talk casually and lovingly sometimes and just met for once in this period. I don’t know what happened she stopped talking to me saying that her mom wont allow her to do so and she will not do anything against her decision.

    Did she change after you met her?

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