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What is the requirement for getting married to a Christian lady

A Muslim confused about marrying a Christian

Muslim and Christian Marriage

Hi,

I am a Muslim boy and I want to marry a Christian girl. As far as I know being a Muslim boy I am allowed to marry a Christian girl however I need to double check it and I would like to know what are the basic requirements.

Also we both want to carry on with our own religion so if she will stay as it is Christian then how would I do nikkah ? And for nikkah does she need to convert or we can do nikkah without making her convert to Islam?

Please help me out with this issue as I would like to marry her as soon as possible once I get cleared with these issues inshallah.

Many Thanks


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  1. Assalamualaikum brother,

    Yes Islam does allow marriage of Muslim men with the women of the Ahlul Kitab (Jews and Christians). But it is not advisable considering the complications attached to it.

    Shaikh bin Baaz Rahimahullah said concerning this:

    It is permissible to marry a Jewish or Christian woman, if she is a Muhsanah (i.e., chaste) and not immoral, because Allaah has imposed the condition that they be Muhsanat. So if the Jewish or Christian woman is known to be chaste and far removed from the means immorality, it is permissible, because Allaah has allowed that, permitting for us their women and their food. However, in these times, much evil is feared for those who marry them, because they might call him to their religion and it could cause his children to become Christians; so the danger is great, therefore it is safer for the believer not to marry her. And also because she is not safe in herself in most cases from committing immoral acts and from the children of others (which she bears) being attributed to him (the husband). Therefore, it is safest for him ý even if it appears that she is not of immoral character and that she is a Muhsanah ý not to marry her and to strive to the utmost of his ability to marry a believing Muslim woman. However, if he is in need of this, there is no objection to it, so that he may thereby remain chaste and avert his glance and (he should) strive to call her to Islam, and avoid the evil of her, and her drawing him or his children toward disbelief. ( Fatawa Islamiyah Vol. 5 Page 293)

    If the lady in question accepts Islam, what can be better? But her conversion should be sincerely for Allah. If she chooses to stay Chriatian, then during the Nikah, her Wali should be a Muslim, such as the Imam.

    Apart from this, I would discourage you from marrying a non Muslim lady, while there are many of our Muslim sisters who are not married and many who haven't been able to find a match.

    Marry a Muslim woman who is good in her deen and has taqwa, who will raise your children as good Muslims.

    Muhammad Waseem
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  2. Salam,
    I would like to emphasizes that she must agree to raise your children as muslims. Is she does, make sure you have a signed contract on that. In case she changes her mind once you're married. If she doesn't agree, you should refrain to marry her, unless you don't want children.

  3. Salam.

    You didnt mention if you prayed istiqara before coming to this decision. I would advise for you to pray Salatul Istiqara before going through with the marriage. Istiqara is important when you are about to make a life changing decision because only Allah knows whats in the person's heart and how they will act in the future. If your istiqara is negative, remember Allah only wants whats BEST for you because He loves you and inshallah, has someone better for you. If its positiive, Alhamduilla. Allah knows best.

  4. Assalam-Alaikum,

    I think you should consider muslim woman. Yes its allowed to marry Ahlul-Kitab but following are some points to consider.

    1- You might like her, but she can never be your wife in Jannah if she remains christian.

    2- If you are thinking or hoping that in a relationship she might change and come to islam, then you are starting a relationship which is based on changing the other person. And you might not like them once they change or they might not like you.

    3- Have you thought about your children? No matter what a man does, his wife has a huge impact on his children't upbringing. Do you think that the christian lady can teach your sons and daughters the modesty and etiquettes which islam suggests instead of modesty and etiquettes of her own culture and religion.

    4- There are so many beautiful muslim sisters. With modesty and etiquettes that are waiting to get married please think about them also. Yes they might not be on display in general as other women. But Alhamdulillah they are AMAZING! Think about marriage of your own daughter/daughters. How would you feel if muslim men keep on overlooking her and marrying christian women?

    5- We reap what we sow. Brother you are sowing a seed for your family tree, and this seed is based on two religions. Are you prepared for your sons/daughters to be of either religion?

    These are few points to consider.

    Regards

    • I agree. We should marry Muslims whenever possible. Marriage to a non-Muslim invites many problems.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • You are right. It is so true that so many young muslimah (pious, beautiful, and bright) are looking for brothers to marry but are still single. Our brothers have a large pool of muslimah they can chose from, to which we have to add the Ahlul-Kitab; while the sisters only have that small pool of pious muslim men.

  5. Salam

    yes you are clearly allowed to marry christain and jewish woman. Nowadays i hear about alot of brothers marrying non muslim women and their reason being because they are allowed to .

    Why pick only apples when you can have banana and pears too. ?

    The families usually are angry with men who do not marry a muslim bride for whatever reason. But then again nobody has any right to say no cause they are allowed. So i dont understand it myself.

    Some people dont care about their wife joining them in janna cause they just marry for pleasure and dispose the wife after they had their full. But if you want to have kids then it gets complicated as not all non muslim women would agree to their child being muslim.

  6. Asalam Alaykum Brothers and Sisters in Islam......
    I really need your prayers.....though have never for once relent in my own dua.
    I just became 24 years old this year DEC 21...and this same year I finished my school (graduate)......I really need your prayers so that I can find my self doing a good job that would benefit me and my religion, cos my family depends on me...
    THE SECOND phase of my request still starts with yur prayers and Advice...and this advice I would love to b sent to my mail for easy retrieval.....(email address deleted by the Editor)

    This same year that I graduated.....I meet a lady, but I don't want to start a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship as though it is not good in Islam......
    So I was thinking of making her a promise to marry her....cos she told me she wants to b my future partner..that we both say to each other.
    But my problem now is that, she is a christian.....and that is the only thing that can stop us from marrying each other......pls and pls....I love are seriously and I don't want to lose her.....all I want is what and How to follow my religion..... May Allah help us all...Amin

    • Wa Alaikum as Salam brother Yusuf,

      Please login and submit your question as a separate post. We will answers you in turn, in sha Allah.

      Abu Abdul Bari
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  7. Salam Alaykum...
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  8. Peace to all,

    What I know is that marrying women from people of book was allowed for only specified period of time when it was war time and there were changes that people may fall in greater evil ( as Muslim women where not available being away in war for long period of time ) so to prevent that from happening it was briefly allowed and when the war was over and all reached to their places those who married women from people of book where asked to divorced those who were not willing to convert to Islam and even if think hypothetically that it is allowed to marry women from people of book but it is not allowed to marry men from people of book than all the Muslim women if end up without finding husband, also in Islam it is allowed to prevent something even if it is not bad or haram in itself but allowing which will lead into something haram ( in this case Muslim women marring non-Muslim men ), following above guidelines women in Saudi Arabia is not allowed to drive car alone as it may lead to sin ( I know many people feels that's not right but one have to see bigger picture it opens door for many sins ).

    I wanna ask why Muslim man wanna marry non-Muslim woman ( here she happens to be one belonging to people of book ) people try to use Islam in way that makes them fulfill their desires, but will not follow thing that is mandatory, are there no Muslim girl left, just because they heard yea I know one can marry women from people of book that one fine excuse to marry oneself to christian or jewish lady, think everyone doing this and your sister doesn't have any Muslim male left, I know it its just me not like everyone is marrying woman from people of book, you have to prevent yourself only, once everyone understands that everyone will be prevented from doing anything bad.......

    • Assalamualaikum Asif Zia,

      I am in very much agreement with what you said:

      "I wanna ask why Muslim man wanna marry non-
      Muslim woman ( here she happens to be one
      belonging to people of book ) people try to use
      Islam in way that makes them fulfill their
      desires, but will not follow thing that is
      mandatory, are there no Muslim girl left, just
      because they heard yea I know one can marry
      women from people of book that one fine
      excuse to marry oneself to christian or jewish
      lady"

      Subhanallah! This is true. The youth of our Ummah are misusing a permissible 'Amal.
      What benefit does it bring to the Deen (the men misusing this rule to marry the women from the people of the book)? In fact, he corrupts his own Deen instead. I believe there must be a clarification on when a person can marry a Christian woman, to be made from Kibaar Ulama of our time. In sha Allah, we will do it some time in the near future.

      Abu Abdul Bari
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

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