What should I do for Allah to forgive me?
The Door of Allah's Forgiveness is Still Open!
I'm now a 19 year old Muslim girl. When I was 13 years old I thought or maybe I did fall in love with a girl at my school but whatever it was we felt likewise so we kissed a few times 4/5 that's it. Then I changed my school and got attached to a new girl here and developed similar feelings for her and soon it felt like I could not stay away from her. We went further to committing the sin of sex like we touched each other in a haram way. I was at that time 16. After a little while we stopped talking by fortune/fate which I now believe it to be a way in which Allah wanted me to stop and return to Him for which I'm thankful to Him.
Since then I regret all my doings everyday every single second since the time I've realized how huge of a sin this is. I have not touched her or anyone else since then neither do I intend to nor do I feel sexually attracted to any girl.
I've promised myself and Allah never to repeat this horrible sin again. I want Allah to forgive me. Is it possible? What verses should I recite to get Allah's mercy? Please tell.
Also is it possible for us to have contracted something from the sexual act that we committed? Like a disease or something even if none of us had an STD because we have never sexually come in contact with anyone before?
Please reply asap. Thank you.
islamiclearner
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AsSalaamu 'alaikum my dear little Brother,
First of all, I commend you on your efforts to reach where you are today (from 13 to 16 -19), mashaAllah. In fact, you deed a great job, mashaAllah.
You said, ''After a little while we stopped talking by fortune/fate which I now believe it to be a way in which Allah wanted me to stop and return to Him for which I'm thankful to Him.''
Honestly, I had to ponder much over the above beautiful statement by you, due to the two great wonders of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala that it indicates. First, for choosing you and guiding you, and second, for blessing you with the great wisdom of realizing His great blessings and purposes of you, and being able to be grateful to Him for that--not everyone is blessed with this. ''Such is Allah's guidance. He guides with it whomever He wills of His servants...'' (Quran 6:88)
My dear Brother, I'd like to show you something beautiful, and if you stick to it inshaAllah, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will continue to love you dearly and forgive you all your sins, and He will make you one of His righteous servants in this life and the next inshaAllah. It is about the ten ways of increasing your love for Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, in order to gain His special Love and Satisfaction.
You may also be interested in Salatul-Tasbih. It is recorded in Sunan Abi Dawud and other books of hadith that Rasulullah (sallallahu `alayhi wasallam once said to his uncle Hadrat `Abbas (r.a.) :
O Abbas! O my uncle! Shall I not give you a gift? Shall I not show you something by means of which Allah Ta`ala will forgive your sins, the first and the last of them, the past and recent, the unintentional and the intentional, the small and huge, the secret and open?
Rasulullah (sallallahu `alayhi wasallam) then taught him the Salah al-Tasbih. Furthermore he advised him that it be offered daily, if possible. If not then every Friday or once a month or once a year or at least once in one's life time...Please follow the link for more:
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/salat-ut-tasbeeh/
As for the STD, please check that with your doctor, inshaAllah, and I believe that you would be ok since Allah is behind you, inshaAllah.
May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala help you and us all, dear Brother. Ameen!
Assalam alaikum Br. Issah,
The OP is a girl and is/was struggling with feelings for girls.
Wa 'alaikum as-salaam warahmatullahi wabarakaatuh sister Saba,
I just notice this and went through the original post and my response again. However, I think the content of my response remains the same except the changing of ''brother'' to ''sister''.
Jazak Allah khair al-Jaza for the information.
I agree, your advice is still spot on and great as always, Maa shaa Allah.
as-salaamu 'alaikum wa-rahmatullah,
First of all, mashAllah good advice from Issah, particularly the beautiful advice from ibn al-qayyim (the scholar of the heart)!
Secondly, according to the greatest website in the world... http://islamqa.info/
majority of scholars are of the view that salaat ut-tasbeeh is a bid'ah (innovation), and the hadith concerning this is actually fabricated, or very weak.
First of all, none of the four imaams (Abu Hanafa, Imam Malik, Shafi'i, Ibn Hanbal) mentioned this.
The earliest Imam Ahmad mentioned that it was not saheeh (authentic);
Imam an-Nawawi mentioned that the hadeeth was da'eef (weak);
Sheikh ibn Uthaymeen mentioned this hadeeth as being da'eef (weak);
Sheikh al-Islam, Ibn Taymiyah mentioned it is fabricated.
Furthermore, if you analyse the prayer, it seems extremely odd in how it is performed, along with the "counting game" that you have to play during the prayer.
And if there was such virtue in it, we would have many narrations from the companions who performed the prayer, along with the Prophet (sallallahu 'alayhi wassallam), or at the very least, the 4 imaams.
http://islamqa.info/en/14320
My advice to sister "islamicleaner" is that mashAllah, you should know that the Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wassallam mentioned that when Allah loves His slave, He blesses him with the knowledge of the deen.
If you read the Qur'aan, repentance is simple... simply open your heart and make duaa sincerely and ask Allah for forgiveness... after-all, Allah is as-sami' ud-duaa, at-tawaab ur-raheem.
And resolve to never do it again.
http://islamqa.info/en/624
In a famous hadith...
Abu Bakr al-Siddeeq (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “There is no one who commits a sin then purifies himself well and stands and prays two rak’ahs, then asks Allaah for forgiveness, but Allaah will forgive him. Then he recited this verse: ‘And those who, when they have committed Faahishah (illegal sexual intercourse) or wronged themselves with evil, remember Allaah and ask forgiveness for their sins; — and none can forgive sins but Allaah - and do not persist in what (wrong) they have done, while they know’ [Aal ‘Imraan 3:135].”
This is also called salat at-tawbah, which is attributed directly to the Prophet sallallahu 'alahi wassallam: -
http://islamqa.info/en/98030
and may Allah al-ghafoor ur-raheem forgive us and increase us in knowledge of the deen, and bless us with the love and fear of Allah, ameen!
fi-amanAllah,
was-salaamu 'alaikum wa-rahmatullah.
Wa 'alaikum as-salaam warahmatullahi wabarakatuh brother ibnMuhammad, and Jazak Allahu khair al-Jaza.
Before, I also used to doubt the authenticity of Salatul-Tasbih and did not talk about it nor encourage it--and I was very much influenced by the logic that Sheikh ibn al-Uthaimeen (Rahimahullah Ta'ala) used against it. However, recently, I did a research regarding the matter through a wider and broader perspective, which led me to accepting the hadith as authentic, and the Salat as Sunnah and Mustahab (desirable).
Some may wonder why the hadith regarding this Salatul-Tasbih was never mentioned by many other Sahabah (radhiyallahu 'anhum), however, that can't be a proof to reject it even if it was mentioned by only one Sahabi--examples of many authentic hadiths being mentioned by only one Sahabi (especially Mu'adh bin Jabal) are plenty in authentic books of hadith. The Rasool sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam used to spread gifts (which were not necessarily obligatory issues), and anyone lucky to be around him during those occasions would receive such gifts, even if it was only one Sahabi around him--obviously, this was what happened with the hadith of Salatul-Tasbih and others as well.
The three first Imams (Abu Hanifa, Malik, and Shafi'i--Rahimahumullahu Ta'ala) did not hear about this hadith at all (this is according to the scholars), and therefore we can't say anything about their opinions in this matter. However, the last Imam (Ahmed bin Hanbal--Rahimahullahu Ta'ala) heard about the hadith through some of its weak chains, and based on that, he classified it as weak, however, an authentic chain of the same hadith was mentioned to him later on, and he approved that chain to be authentic (based on this, many scholars have ruled that he changed his opinion).
Please see the following fatwa by Scholars on http://www.islamweb.net regarding this matter.
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Hope this helps inshaAllah, and Allah Ta'ala knows best.
Thank you very much indeed. May Allah bless you all.
As-salamu `alaykum
All Praise is due to Allah; we begin with His name and
turn to Him in all of the tests He puts forward to
strengthen us. May He shower peace and blessings
upon Muhammad, the Seal of the Prophets, his family,
companions, and those who follow his way until the Day
of Judgment. May Allah, the most Kind, most Merciful
bestow upon you His peace and tranquility and replace
your sadness and frustration with tawakkul (putting
one’s trust in Allah), yaqeen (certainty) and sakina
(divine tranquility).
First, my dear sister, let me assure you that Allah Most
High is All-Hearing. He hears the calls of all His
servants. Allah assures us of this and tells us that He
hears the du`aa' (supplication) of the supplicant. Allah
also tells us that if we come to Him walking, He will
come to us running.
Never ever despair in your du`aa' to Him, even if you do
not see your du`aa's being answered. Always remember
that Allah is as we expect of Him. By this we mean that if
we make du`aa' and expect that Allah will answer it, then
Allah will answer our du`aa' .
But if we make du`aa' and we expect that Allah will not
answer it, or we are uncertain, thinking He may or may
not answer it, then
our du`aa's may not be answered. This is why when we
make du`aa', we do not say, “Oh Allah, grant me so and
so in sha’ Allah. ” We must always be definite in our
du`aa's .
We do not ask Allah for something and then say
“if you will” because Allah will only answer it if He wills
anyway. The other thing that we need to keep in mind is
the nature of du`aa' that they may be answered in three
ways:
1. It may be answered right away or at a time decreed by
Allah
2. Allah may not answer that specific du`aa' but in its
place avert some kind of calamity or disaster befalling
us
3.Allah may reserve that du`aa' for us and give it to us
in the Hereafter
So ,although a person may not see their du`aa's being
answered immediately, know that Allah may have
answered it in other ways by protecting us or reserving
it to be answered in the Hereafter, when we will be even
more grateful for it being answered
.
(i just copy and paste the answer;-) ).. and, remember that Allah is full of forgiveness.. his door of forgiveness is always open wide for all of his servant..(except when you are dying and when the sun is rise on the west)
Please do not copy and paste the same response on every post. Take the time to read the post and write an individual response. It's fine to copy and paste portions of text, or to do so occasionally, if it is actually relevant to the post.
Wael
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