I need answers about my marriage and my career.
Assalamu Alaikum.
My Name is *****. My date of birth is ***1983. My Qualification is M.Sc Computers.
My father's name is ******. My mother's name is ******.
My question is: When will I get married?
We are searching for a bride but no one is set for marriage. Is there any problem?
And please tell me: which side I will set in my career? Which one is better?
Please give me the answer as early as possible I am waiting for your reply.
~ nasir22alone
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Salaams,
Brother, how can anyone tell you when exactly you will get married? Or what will happen in your career? What you are asking for is someone to tell your fortune. This is haraam in Islam.
You will get married when Allah wills. What happens in life is what Allah wills. Be happy with what He has willed for you today, and show that gratitude by having the purest intention you can while worshipping Allah consistently.
-Amy
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Fortune telling is strictly prohibited (Haraam) and an act of Kufr.
Please read below to understand why and educate yourself inshallah.
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Fortune telling
Dr. Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips
There are among mankind, people who claim knowledge of the unseen and the future. They are known by various names, among them: fortune-teller, soothsayer, foreseer, augur, magician, prognosticator, oracle, astrologer, palmist, etc. Fortune-tellers use various methods and mediums from which they claim to extract their information, among them: reading tea-leaves, drawing lines, writing numbers, palm-reading, casting horoscopes, crystal ball gazing, rattling bones, throwing sticks, etc.
Practitioners of occult arts, which claim to reveal the unseen and predict the future, can be divided into two main categories:
1. Those who have no real knowledge or secrets but depend on telling their customers about general incidences which happen to most people. They often go through a series of meaningless rituals, then make calculatedly general guesses. Some of their guesses, due to their generality, usually come true. Most people tend to remember the few predictions that come true and quickly forget the many which do not. This tendency is a result of the fact that after some time all the predictions tend to become half-forgotten thoughts in the subconscious until something happens to trigger their recall. For example, it has become a common practice in North America to publish, at the beginning of each year the various predictions of famous fortune-tellers. When a survey was taken of the various predictions for the year 1980, it was found that the most accurate fortune-teller among them was only 24% accurate in her predictions!
2. The second group are those who have made contact with the Jinn. This group is of most importance because it usually involves the grave sin of Shirk, and those involved often tend to be highly accurate in their information and thus present a real Fitnah (temptations) for both Muslims and non-Muslims alike.
World of the Jinn
Some people have attempted to deny the reality of the Jinn about whom the Qur'an has devoted a whole chapter, Soorah al-Jinn (72). By relying on the literal meaning of the word Jinn which comes from the verb Janna, Yajunnu: "to cover, hide or conceal", they claim that the word Jinn really refers to "clever foreigners". Others have even stated that a Jinn is a human who does not have a true mind in his head but he has a fiery nature. But, the reality is that the Jinn represent another creation of Allaah, which co-exists with man on the earth. Allaah created the Jinn before He created mankind, and He also used a different set of elements than those used for man. Allaah said: "Verily we created man from dried clay, from black putrid mud. And we created the Jinn before that from a fiery wind." (Surah al-Hijr 15:26)
They were named Jinn because they are hidden from the eyes of mankind. Iblees (Satan) is from the world of the Jinn, even though he was among the angels when they were commanded by Allaah to prostrate to Adam. When he refused to prostrate and was asked why, Allaah said: "He said, 'I am better than he is. You (Allah) created me from fire and You created him from clay!" (Surah Saad; 38:76)
'Aa'esha reported that the Prophet (pbuh) said, "The angels were created from light and the Jinn from smokeless fire." (Sahih Muslim)
Allaah also said, "And when We told the angels to prostrate to Adam, they all prostrated except Iblees. He was of the Jinn." (Surah al-Kahf, 18:50)
Therefore it is incorrect to consider him a fallen angel or the like.
The Jinn may first be divided into three broad categories in relation to their modes of existence. The Prophet (pbuh) said: "There are three types of Jinn: One type which flies in the air all the time, another type which exists as snakes and dogs, and an earthbound type which resides in one place or wanders about. " (At-Tabaree and al-Haakim)
The Jinn may be further divided into two categories in relationship to their faith: Muslims (believers) and Kaafirs (disbelievers). Allaah refers to the believing Jinn in Soorah al-Jinn as follows: "Say: It has been revealed to me that a group of Jinn listened and said, 'Verily we have heard a marvellous Qur'an. It guides unto righteousness so we have believed in it. And, we will never make partners with our Lord. He, may our Lord's glory be exalted, has not taken a wife nor a son. What the foolish ones among us used to say about Allaah is a horrible lie."(Surah al-Jinn 72:1-4)
"And there are among us Muslims and others who are unjust. Whoever accepts Islam has sought out the right path. As for those who are unjust, they will be fuel for the Hell fire." (Surah Jinn 72:14)
The disbelievers among the Jinn are referred to by various names in both Arabic and English: 'Ifreet, Shaytaan, Qareen, demons, devils, spirits, ghosts, etc. They try to misguide man in various ways. Whoever listens to them and becomes a worker for them is referred to as human Shaytaan (devil).
Allaah said: "Likewise, we have made for every Prophet an enemy, Shaytaans from among mankind and the Jinn. (Surah al-An'aam 6:112)
Every human has an individual Jinn accompanying him referred to as a Qareen (i.e. companion). This is a part of man's test in this life. The Jinn encourage his lower desires and constantly try to divert him from righteousness. The Prophet (pbuh) referred to this relationship as follows, "Everyone of you has been assigned a companion from the Jinn. " The Sahaabah asked, "Even you, O Messenger of Allaah?" And the Prophet replied, "Even me, except that Allaah has helped me against him and he has submitted. Now he only tells me to do good."(Muslim)
Prophet Sulaymaan (Solomon) was given miraculous control over the Jinn, as a sign of his prophethood. Allaah said: "And, we gathered for Sulaymaan his army from the Jinn, mankind and the birds." (Surah an-Naml 27:17) and they were all kept in order and ranks.
But this power was not given to anyone else. No one else is allowed to control the Jinn and no one can. The Prophet said, "Verily an 'Ifr-eeit from among the Jinn spat on me last night trying to break my Salaah. However Allaah let me overpower him and I wanted to tie him to one of the columns in the masjid so that you all could see him in the morning. Then, I remembered my brother Sulaymaan's prayer: 'Oh my Lord, forgive me and bestow on me a kingdom not allowed to anyone after me.' (Surah Saad 38:35) (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
Man cannot gain control over the Jinn as this was a special miracle given only to Prophet Sulaymaan. In fact, contact with the Jinn in circumstances other than possession, or accident is most often made by the performance of sacrilegious acts despised and forbidden in the religion. The evil Jinn summoned in this fashion may aid their partners in sin and disbelief in God. Their goal is to draw as many others as they can into the gravest of sins, the worship of others besides or along with God.
Once contact and contract with the Jinn are made by fortune-tellers, the Jinn may inform them of certain events in the future. The Prophet (pbuh) described how the Jinn gather information about the future. He related that the Jinn were able to travel to the lower reaches of the heavens and listen in on some of the information about the future, which the angels pass among themselves. They would then return to the earth and feed the information to their human contacts.(Bukhari and Muslim) This used to happen a lot prior to the prophethood of Muhammad (pbuh) and fortune-tellers were very accurate in their information. They were able to gain positions in the royal courts and enjoyed much popularity and were even worshipped in some regions of the world.
After the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) began his mission the situation changed. Allaah had the angels guard the lower reaches of the heavens carefully, and most of the Jinn were chased away with meteors and shooting stars. Allaah described this phenomena in the following Qur'anic statement made by one of the Jinn, "We (the Jinn) had sought out the heavens but found it filled with strong guardians and meteors. We used to sit on high places in order to listen, but whoever listens now finds a flame waiting for him.."'
Allaah also said, "And We have guarded it (the heavens) from every cursed devil, except the one who is able to snatch a hearing and, he is pursued by a brightly burning flame."(Surah al-Hijr 15:17)
Ibn 'Abbaas said, "When the Prophet and a group of his companions set out for the Ukaadh market, the devils were blocked from hearing information in the heavens. Meteors were let loose on them, so they returned to their people. When their people asked what happened, they told them. Some suggested that something must have happened, so they spread out over the earth seeking the cause. Some of them came across the Prophet and his companions while they were in Salaah and they heard the Qur'an. They said to themselves that this must have been what blocked them from listening. When they returned to their people they told them, 'Verily we have heard a marvellous Qur'an. It guides unto righteousness so we believed in it. And we will never make partners with our Lord.' (Al-Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmidhi and Ahmad)
Thus, the Jinn could no longer gather information about the future as easily as they could before the Prophet's (pbuh) mission. Because of that, they now mix their information with many lies. The Prophet said: "They (the Jinn) would pass the information back down until it reaches the lips of a magician fortune-teller. Sometimes a meteor would overtake them before they could pass it on. If they passed it on before being struck, they would add to it a hundred lies." (Al-Bukhari and Tirmidhi)
'Aa'eshah reported that when she asked Allaah's messenger (pbuh) about fortune-tellers, he replied that they were nothing. She then mentioned that the fortune-tellers sometimes told them things, which were true. The Prophet (pbuh) said: "That is a bit of truth which the Jinn steals and cackles in the ear of his friend; but he mixes along with it a hundred lies." (al-Bukhari, Muslim)
Once while 'Umar ibn al-Khattaab was sitting, a handsome man, Sawaad Ibn Qaarib passed by him. 'Umar said: "If I'm not wrong, this person is still following his religion of pre-Islamic times or perhaps he was one of their fortune-tellers." He ordered that the man be brought to him and asked him about, what he suspected. The man replied, "I have never seen a day like this where a Muslim is faced with such accusations." 'Umar said, "Verily I am determined that you should inform me." The man then said, "I was their fortune-teller in the time of ignorance." On hearing that 'Umar asked, "Tell me about the strangest thing which your female Jinn told you." The man then said, "One day, while I was in the market, she came to me all worried and said, 'Have you not seen the Jinns in their despair after their disgrace? And their following of she-camels and their riders." 'Umar interjected, "It is true." (Al-Bukhari)
The Jinns are also able to inform their human contact of the relative future. For example, when someone comes to a fortune-teller, the fortune-teller's Jinn gets information from the man's Qareen (the jinn assigned to every human being) of what plans he had made prior to his coming. So the fortune-teller is able to tell him that he will do this or that, or go here or there. By this method, the real fortune-teller is also able to learn about a stranger's past in vivid detail. He is able to tell a total stranger of his parents' names, where he was born, the acts of his childhood, etc. The ability to vividly describe the past is one of the marks of a true fortune-teller who has made contact with the Jinn. Because the Jinn are able to traverse huge distances instantaneously, they are also able to gather huge stores of information about hidden things, lost articles and unobserved events. Proof of this ability can be found in the Qur'an, in the story about Prophet Sulaymaan and Bilqees, the Queen of Sheba. When Queen Bilqees came to see him, he asked the Jinn to bring her throne from her land. "An Ilfreet from among the Jinns said, I will bring it for you before you can get up from your place. Verily, I am strong and trustworthy for the assignment.(Surah an-Naml)
The Islamic Ruling on Fortune-telling
Because of the sacrilege and heresy involved in fortune telling, Islam has taken a very strong stance towards it. Islam opposes any form of association with those who practice fortune-telling, except to advise them to give up their forbidden practices.
Visitation of Fortune-tellers
The Prophet (pbuh) laid down principles, which clearly forbade any form of visitation of fortune-tellers. Safiyyah reported from Hafsah (wife of the Prophet) that the Prophet (pbuh) said, "The Salaah of whoever approaches a fortune-teller and asks him about anything will not be accepted for 40 days and nights."(Muslim) The punishment in this Hadeeth is for simply approaching a fortune-teller and asking him questions out of curiosity. This prohibition is further supported by Mu'aawiyah Ibn al-Hakam asSalamee's Hadeeth in which he said, "O Messenger of Allaah, verily there are some people among us who visit oracles. " The Prophet (pbuh) replied, "Do not go to them". Such a severe punishment has been assigned for only visitation because it is the first step to belief in fortune-telling. If one went there doubtful about its reality, and some of the fortune-teller's predictions come true, one will surely become a true devotee of the fortune-teller and an ardent believer in fortune-telling. The individual who approaches a fortune-teller is still obliged to make his compulsory Salaah throughout the 40 day period, even though he gets no reward from his prayers. If he abandons the Salaah all together, he has committed another major sin. This is similar to the Islamic ruling in the case of Salaah on or in stolen property, according to the majority of Jurists. They hold that whenever obligatory Salaah is performed, it produces two results under normal circumstances:
1. It removes the obligation of that prayer from the individual. 2. It earns him a reward.
If Salaah is performed on or in stolen property it removes the obligation of Salaah, but it is devoid of reward. Consequently, the Prophet forbade praying the same obligatory prayers twice.
Belief in Fortune-tellers
The Islamic ruling with regard to anyone who visits a fortune-teller believing that he knows the unseen and the future is that of Kufr (disbelief). Abu Hurayrah and al-Hasan both reported from the Prophet (pbuh) that he said, "Whosoever approaches a fortune-teller and believes what he says, has disbelieved in what was revealed to Muhammad. Such a belief assigns to creation some of Allaah's attributes with regard to the knowledge of the unseen and the future. Consequently, it destroys Tawheed alAsmaa was-Sifaat, and represents a form of Shirk in this aspect of Tawheed.
The ruling of Kufr includes, by analogy (Qiyaas), those who read the books and writings of fortune-tellers, listen to them on the radio or watch them on the T. V., as, these are the most common means used by 20th century fortune-tellers to spread their predictions.
Allaah clearly states in al-Qur'an that no one knows the unseen besides Him. Not even the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). Allaah said: With Him are the keys to the unseen and none knows it except Him alone."
Then he told the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), "Say! I have no power to bring good to myself nor avert harm but it is only as Allah wills. If it were that I knew the unseen, I would have multiplied the good and no evil would have touched me."
And he also said: "Say! None in the heavens nor the earth knows the 'unseen except Allah'."
Therefore, all the various methods used around the world by oracles, fortune-tellers, and the likes, are forbidden to Muslims.
Palm-reading, I-Ching, fortune cookies, tea leaves as well as Zodiacal signs and Bio-rhythm computer programs, all claim to inform those who believe in them about their future. However, Allaah has stated in no uncertain terms that He alone knows the future: ''Verily the knowledge of the Hour is with Allaah alone. It is He who sends down the rain and knows the contents of the wombs. No one knows what he will earn tomorrow nor in which land he will die, but Allaah is all-knowing and aware."(Surah Luqmaan 31:34)
Therefore, Muslims must take utmost care in dealing with books, magazines, newspapers as well as individuals who, in one way or another, claim knowledge of the future or the unseen. For example, when a Muslim weather-man predicts rain, snow, or other climatic conditions for tomorrow he should add the phrase, "In ShaaAllaah (If Allaah so wishes)". Likewise, when the Muslim doctor informs her patient that she will deliver a child in 9 months or on such and such a day, she should take care to add the phrase "In ShaaAllaah", as such statements are only estimations based on statistical information.
Wow, Faith; thanks for posting this! My newbie self knew so little about the Jinn (although I certainly did not think anything good about fortune tellers to begin with, LOL), so this was very informative. If this came from a particular Web site, would you mind sharing the link? I find the writing style very easy to understand yet packed with information and would like to read more from Dr. Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips. I am Googling him now, seems he's all over the Interwebz!
Your welcome sister. Alhamdulillah i am happy that you took the time to read it and have benefited from this. Im sure you know whats its like when we post something thats a little long and think whether shaitaan would allow people to even read it lol.
Unfortunately I can't remember where exactly I grabbed this off but as you have realised by now, its not hard finding sheikh Bilal Philips' work. He is very popular mashallah. Yes he is of those scholars whose writing is very clear and easy to understand. I would recommend you (and everyone else) to read his book called -The Fundamentals of Tawheed. It is my all time favourite and one of those books which I believe every Muslim must read. If you found the above intereating, then inshallah not only will the book explain tawheed in an excellent manner but you will enjoy reading it.I couldn't out it down once I started some years back. I also keep buying copies to gift to people lol.
Was salaam
You've seen how long *MY* posts are... so of course I read all the other long posts! I mean, it's only fair! 🙂 Thank you for the pointers and the advice; my reading list just got a little longer!
Assalaam Walekum Warahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu sister Faith,
Allah Subhaanawataala has mentioned that "shayateen tends to blend in things with what is disclosed to prophets, It is Allah who makes people whom He wills understand the disclosed matter in original form.But some unfortunate people are left with understanding of what has been corrupted by shayateen"
So do not be reluctant to write what you have to say, does not matter if its long.Will not be it wrong to have our belief stuck with the notion that only short and sweet works?If some of us have to benefit, Inshaallah that can happen with a small pep talk or a never ending lecture.
With regards to Jinn,Since you have opened up the pandora, I would suggest if possible tell something about other companion of a Human being, which Allah Subhaanawataalla has mentioned in Quran e paak.Especially highlighting its connection with Jihad-e- Akbar a muslim has to do.As ALLAH subhaanawataala points out : I have put (liking for bad deed) badkaari and ( liking for good deeds and refraining from bad deeds) parhezgaari in you.
This request I am making because I believe half knowledge is dangerous to readers of this site.And with all the temptations around us, one may be more attracted to existence of Jinns for the mind blowing things they are capable of.And forget about that inspiration from Quran which explains the state of a human when he will be brought with his companion jinn and a Recorder.In which a sinful human would wish wish there was a barrier between me and my companion.
Events like Intekaal of Prophet Suleimaan Alaihi Salaam, is good enough to tell that Jinns are not above Human beings as far as knowledge of Future is concerned.Not only that its the Human being which is considered as Ashraful Makhlukaat for the reasons best known to Allah Subhaanwataala alone,in lines with what He the Exalted is He has said to Angels: I know what you do not know.
May the One who has created angels which exist and praise only him, for He exalted is He created them with half body of fire and an half of Ice,have mercy upon all of us.
Please remember all of us in your supplications.
Allah Hafiz wa Nasir
Brother M Ali,
Walikum assalaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,
I'm so sorry but I really could not understand what exactly it is that you requested? Maybe if someone else got it..help?
Assalaam Walekum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu Sister Faith,
Never mind about my request, Inshaallah it will unfold one day with some post.
Till then and after, keep us all in your prayers.May Allah The most knowledgeable of all guide those who seek to know HIM by knowing His creation.
Allah Hafiz wa Nasir
Naasir 33 alone
anyone who ever answers you regarding the future with certainty and the questions you asked, is a taaghoot [falsegod] and an outright disbeliever.
for only Allaah is 'Aalimul-ghayb, more over Allaah is 'Allaamul-ghuyuub.
the one who knows the unseen, the one who matered all that which is unseen.
ask Allaah to forgive you for asking such questions
First u should set ur career goal first which is most important
Secondly , dude aren't u way better single than married , as per now
Thirdly , when ull get married when u find the right person till then enjoy your bachelor life.
Lastly, they say abt marriage , its is something which a man doesn't have suffer , and a man has also suffers
"Dude" trueblood (not troublehood),
Stop discouraging people from something which the prophet (saw) encouraged greatly. Marriage is his sunnah.
Remember, it is half of your deen. What is "enjoy your bachelor life" supposed to mean? He is nearly thirty for gods sake! When else is he to marry? When he is fifty with a car, home, job, but no energy with only a few years left ahead. Imagine, if he were to marry right now and have a child straight away, he would be fifty when his eldest child wud be twenty. How much a bigger gap do we want? He needs to be fit enough to be involved in his future kids life and its about time he starts to have some if he wants some. Remember that rasoolallah (saw) said the average age of his ummah is 60. If we go by that hadith, he has spent half his life already, "enjoying" himself, so I guess its time to get a little more serious now.
We can't just say to someone the right person will come when your time for marriage comes. If everyone say cross legged dependant on that then no one would get married. He has to seek it. Harakat main barakat hoti hain, right?
Was salaam
Ah, the second of two great posts to thank you for today, Sister Faith!
Truebloood, I urge you to hear what she is saying, as I count about three different threads right now where you are encouraging men not to marry because "why buy the restaurant when you're getting the food for free?" (groan... that's a pretty bad and bawdy joke). By your own admittance, you are very young, and so I am guessing never married. Certainly many people here are having marital problems, but that's because of the nature of this site! Don't you know that there are many, many happily married people - including me - that would argue that it is not until marriage that one truly finds real freedom? And lest you suspect that this whole "half your deen" thing is Islamic PR, why is it then that all religions support and encourage the institution of marriage as key to both spiritual and temporal happiness? Because that's human nature, and civilization has known it since the beginning of history. And Islam in particular gives such careful consideration to the establishment and conduct of marriage, holding it as very precious and important. It makes me sad that you would mock and disrespect it so, especially to people who write in here who value it so highly.
But it makes me sadder still that one so young as yourself seems so jaded and callous already. Perhaps you have seen bad examples of marriage in your life; I come from a broken home and my parents' marriage was a complete horror show, so I know what that's like. But it doesn't have to be that way. You will get out of it what you put into it, so please listen to the words and the stories of the Prophet (pbuh) when he taught of the benefits and blessings of a being wed, not the least of which that it is pleasing to Allah (swt). Inshallah your heart will open up, and in time you too will be singing the praises of a joyful married life!
@ sam
I might be intepretated wrongly
I never said marriage is wrong as it is half deen also it helps a person from committing zina nor I'm tired or unfeeling
The thing is that there r many things important than marriage , common there is career + money , u don't wanna divide ur focus from career + money towards your spouse
For me at current making my name in the ppl I work or live with is more important than marrying ,
Priority of my career is more than marriage , marriage is not more to me than marriage career is the facto I'm working on and that me only
I don't urge ppl to not marry , what I'm telling is have a good career + money and after that settle down m I wrong
What you wrote right here is very logical and reasonable, unfortunately, oftentimes what you actually post are snide little anti-marriage comments. From the number of people that have mentioned it just today (so far, three!), I would say that yes, you are being interpreted in a negative way.
@ to all long posters
How can u write such long post really , I haven't written even my engineering paper so long not even closer
Assalaam Walekum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu brother Trueblood,
Talks of the Lord of earth and sky are never ending, if all the trees in this world become pen and ocean its ink ,and more oceans with that, pen will dry off of ink but the talks of your LORD THE MOST FORGIVING OF ALL will never finish.
If one loves someone or something, he cannot stop thinking or talking about it so beware before you compel someone to comment on Islam, Sunnah, and Helping fellow human being ( nawafil Ibaadah).Love is passion, Love for Allah Subhaanwataala and his creation for Allah's sake is the true form of love. Love, passion, has not reached its peak till the time it does not consume you.
Some of us are muslims cause we believe in Allah, someone of us are momins cause we believe what He has commanded, and what pleases Him is the only way to lead life.
Fall in love with your creator, and see it for yourself that whats there is science and engineering is just a minute part of what our Majestic lord can do.
May Allah make you his lover.Aameen
Allah Hafiz Wa Nasir
Well, my excuse is that I can type faster than I think 🙂
Because Alhamdulillah I touch type super duper fast. =)
So do I but my post r short , sweet and some time illogical ( not always )
assalwalekum bhai ,
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Salaam alekum. My name is shahida bano.My mother name is noorjhan.my age is 22years. My family find me a suitable husband but no one match better. I am so depressed because I have no more time. Iam really depressed and my situation is not good. If you have no solution for me to get better match of beauty and looks then I am kill myself. So please hurry to get me my problems solutions Of ruhani amal or istkhara.please give me my answer hurry. Thanks
Sister Shahida, if you want a change in your situation then, 1. Make dua' to Allah, and 2. Work on the matter yourself. No one can change your situation for you, and there is NO SUCH THING as solutions based on mother's names and birth dates. Istikhara is not magic or fortune-telling. That is nonsense.
You are still quite young. Do what you can to better yourself and make yourself a more attractive prospect. And if your family have found you a suitable husband, then consider him and do not be vain.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
When will I marry? In what year?
when will she be married ?
date of birth 10/3/1989
KasShaf, what you are asking for is fortune telling and it is impossible and also haram in Islam. In fact it is a form of shirk. These ideas are based on Hindu numerology and astrology. It has nothing to do with Islam. The truth is that only Allah knows the future.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor