Why this excessive fear?
Salam
I have a very strange fear, im adult - 19 years old.. i think its even unacceptable. As a guy im fed up by this fear. I'm scared of almost every-other living thing apart from human. I'm scared of any sorta of insect.. butterfly, cockroach and soon i cant catch or hold any even i see a beautiful insect i can only look and like but the moment it approaches me i just become scared and run.. this is pathetic.
i have to admit that I'm also scared of cat, i love cat and wanna keep one in my room but i can barely hold a cat on my hand. I'm scared of chicken, sheep, ram, goat, cattle, cow, donkey, horse, rabbit, rat... think of any domestic animal im just scared of all domestic animals talk-less of dog!! .. Worse i'm even scared of termites, ant, bee and soon .. i pity myself but what is the possible reason for this .. its killing me. When will i not be scared of this harmless creations..?
Moreover, my fear doesn't only stops there.. but im also scared in making public speech, i can remember the first time (after running away on other occasions) around the age of 11, i'm to represent my class in a quiz competition i cried at instance while on the stage! Many attempt were made to made a debater but i just could not speak out of fear and shyness.. i dunno what is the reason but this is killing my talent.
I'm also in tears when i was asked to introduce myself in University.. but as i know that i have to wake up and get ready for presentation, which we often do... i did work for it and now i'm able to stand quite well and talk very well to fight for marks! :p though before starting i usually have little tears and fear with shyness but as i began i get some hint i don't look at peoples faces.. i even got many comments from the tutors that i did excellently well and also from my classmate and friends who they never thought i can do it.. because they knew how it turn out in one of the occasion where i'm not able to even speak i just smile and hide my face in front of everybody (this is where i am even angry with my habit and start fighting).. now i'm eager to have more presentation.. but the issue is, if not in my class i cant talk in some other class or when the people i knew are around.. i felt weird and awkward at some point.. i though believe i have good English.. many people say they like my English and how i talk BUT why this fear.
Furthermore, sometimes i felt less confidence and afraid especially when comes to Islamic talk.. at some point i wanna share some Quranic verse or Hadith or talk on some issues with other students in masjid but i'm just scared even to make some announcement.. i can feel tears in my eyes atimes :/ even im 19 years old. Has anyone having the same fear of animals like this? - guys only please.. for girls this is common and girly nature.
And now i'm in my final year of my degree program, finishing in this December 2014 .. but i still cannot get over this fear..i get scared for even simple knockout sound.. i dunno why. I even thought this is girls' habit.. this frightened me esp. when i think of getting married.. what will happen if my wife is also scared of those animals! who will protect either of us!.. 🙁 I would really appreciate your advice. I have been praying to Allah for this and i believe 100% my prayers are accepted and i try touching and catching some animals at sometimes but that doesn't work.. So i madly need your advice Please!!!
Jazakumullah for reading and Sorry for the lengthy story.
PS: I never knew any of my family member with this kind of fear towards animals.. instead my 7, 9 years brothers and even younger are not scared they even do the job i supposed to do.. like during Eid they go and get all the ram while i was asked to do but i can't lest i will let it go or bring it in fear. Only one or two of my brother knew about my fear... i have to mention that once dad come back home with some chicken in car and ask me to take them, at first i'm hesitated - scared and afraid to let it go but as soon as he shout at me.. i quickly took it lol.. but soon after my hand is shaking i narrowly took them to the destination. Anyway i'm still scared of it even after slaughtered.. and i'm not scared of it only when its ready in PLATE or preparing to cut into peaces and cook! lol
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Assalaamualaikam
I'm a sister, so I hope you won't be upset that I'm answering you. But what you're describing isn't a "girly nature" - from what you've written, it seems like you may have an anxiety disorder. Anxiety disorders can happen to anyone (male, female, young, old) and occur when our fight-or-flight responses are overly vigilant. This can cause people to feel disproportionate feelings of worry or agitation about objects, situations, living creatures - people can have different triggers that set off their anxiety.
Anxiety disorders can be managed, though, so you don't have to resign yourself to staying anxious. It can take time and effort, but inshaAllah you can overcome this and live a full life.
If you can, speak to your family doctor/GP about this and ask to be put in touch with a suitably qualified therapist. They can then work with you to develop ways of re-balancing your fight-or-flight responses and stopping anxiety symptoms quickly. Sometimes people suggest taking medications such as Valium, but be careful about this as these medications can be addictive if taken for too long.
Don't feel ashamed about this - seek help, take action to overcome it, and ask Allah to give you strength and patience to face this and be successful.
Midnightmoon
IslamicAnswers.com editor
Jazakallah for the advice. I appreciate it 🙂 . But I'm really suspicion, your answer just reminded me of a really good friend of mine with whom I shared this with and her answer was precisely similar moreover, your dialect is just similar to her's. I'm just afraid that is you! If is really you then something is really wrong, what I'm afraid of finally happened. You are editor so you know what I mean. Your reply means so much to me. Please do reply ASAP. I hope is not you. Thanks
Assalaamualaikam
I can assure you, I have no idea as to your identity IRL (in real life). We encourage people to avoid giving away private identifying information and do not allow the exchange of contact details, in order to maintain privacy and Islamic limits.
Midnightmoon
IslamicAnswers.com editor
Awh.. That sounds really awesome. Jazakallah khyran
OP: I'm also scared of cat, i love cat and wanna keep one in my room but i can barely hold a cat on my hand. I'm scared of chicken, sheep, ram, goat, cattle, cow, donkey, horse, rabbit, rat.... Worse i'm even scared of termites, ant, bee. butterfly, cockroaches ..lly have little tears and fear with shyness but as i began i get some hint i don't look at peoples faces............ I'm scared of any sorta of insect.. butterfly, cockroach..
You may qualify to be listed IN guineas book of records as boy who fears max number of animals and insects. You did find a solution to your public speaking fear. Next time you fear some thing (like a termite) imagine you are looking at a tiny GIRL. with tiny breasts.
make a list starting with animals/insects you fear the least and end with some thing you fear the most. Do you feel sick when you look at animals/insects pictures, if you do start by watching animal/insect videos? keep a big stick with you.
To get rid of the problem some one has to help you by exposing you to to real animals/insects to convince your mind that you can live safely without fearing them
Jazakallah khyran
OP: Has anyone having the same fear of animals like this? - guys only please.. for girls this is common and girly nature.
Did you just classify fear of animals as girly nature? No. No. Just NO.
Salam. Hey don't gross out.. What I'm saying may not be applicable to all girls but certainly you will find more girls like this than boys. Keep calm and take it easy 🙂
Yes, but Brother, it isn't the work of "nature". It's the work of "society". Girls grow up with the understanding that they should be afraid of all sorts of things and that it is feminin to appear weak, helpless and scared.