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Will Allah forgive me for zinaa?

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As'salaamu Alai'kum, I am a young, single man of 26, I have for sometime now, stayed away from Zinnah because of the implication, and Allah has forbidden it. But I was tempted to, recently and I feel regret and shameful doing it.

My Questions are:

1. Will Allah forgive me? I understand that prayers will not be accepted till after 40 days and I can't just sit without praying, should I still, be praying or not?

2. Pls, I need DUAA to recite. I feel very weak and lazy this days that I hardly commit time to Salat and Islamic activities, pls help

- Usman, from Nigeria

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  1. Say: O My servants who have transgressed against their own souls, despair not of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Most Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Surah az-Zumar 39:53)

    "O son of Adam, as long as you call upon Me and put your hope in Me, I have forgiven you for what you have done and I do not mind. O son of Adam, if your sins were to reach the clouds of the sky and then you would seek My forgiveness, I would forgive you. O son of Adam, if you were to come to Me with sins that are close to filling the earth and then you would meet Me without ascribing any partners with Me, I would certainly bring to you forgiveness close to filling it."

    Abu Dharr (Radhi Allahu Anhu) said that the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) said,
    Jibril came to me and conveyed the good news that, "Whoever among your followers dies, worshipping none along with Allah, will enter Paradise." I said, "Even if he stole or committed illegal sexual intercourse'' He said, "Even if he stole or committed illegal sexual intercourse or even if drank alcohol." (Al-Bukhari)
    And the final condition of ones dua being responded to is that one must make sure he is living off of halal and permissible means.

  2. my dear brother usman,

    feeling shameful about a sin one has commited is the biggest tawba one can do.it doesnt come easy. guilt is a burden but use it as a gift from allah , as its only making you more fearful of allah and inshallahhelp you to stay away from sin next time.

    its a way of allahto bring us to HIM, he doesnt give it to all. so embrace the guilt and repent and feel happy that allah loves you thats why He has put regret in your heart.

    apologize to the person as well who you were involved with and you both should go back to your boundaries.

    start praying immediately , dont delay , otherwise shaytan will come between you and your salah and will enjoy your stayingaway from allah's mercey. shaytan managed to persuad you when you committed the sin dont let him succeed now.

    go, go ,go just go for namaz right now. Allah is waiting for you.

  3. Asalaam alaikum,

    You are incorrect of your conception of the 40 day time limit, as it only applies when ingesting haraam items or those bought with haraam means knowingly. There is even an exception to that rule if you ate those items under compulsion for survival. Therefore, the sin you have committed of zina does not preclude your acts of worship from being accepted. So you must hasten to the best of deeds of prayer, seeking forgiveness and repentance!

    You have stated that you found yourself in the situation of being tempted to do this sexual act, so you must remove yourself from being led into it. You must observe proper conduct and limits with all women, and those women who are lustful and disobedient in their duties to Allah (swt) must be forsaken. You must learn to adhere to your hijab of protecting your gaze, looking down and away from forbidden scenes. You must develop your modesty and become a chaste individual, so that these acts can compliment your prayers and make it effective and purposeful.

    It is now obligatory for you to get married, so you must also seek the proper route to make proposals.

  4. am sorry,mine aint a responde on the other hand i am in the same situation as my brother above..how do i help it?i am so afraid of being alone that i end up in some relations that my parents dont approve of..help?

  5. jazak Allah khairun...........this is so comforting, i cry with tears thinking about all those times i crossed the boundaries Allah subhana has demarked....i curse myself n yet here i find Allah is waiting for my tawbah,astagfar,igoin sujood n cry n repent,Oh Allah forgive us or else wellbe ruined

  6. A.W. brothers. .. pray for me too. I am a women aftr performing hajj at a very young age. I fall in this trap. After tawba I crossed my limits...I regret day & night, may be at evry step. Bt donno how to comfort myself Allah (SWT) will forgive me of my deeds. I am indeed very shameful to Allah (SWT). I cannot concentrate on anything & all alone suffering. Pray for me I am in early 30's and can't trust any man nor feel myself pure to be a modest wife for somebody.

  7. ASSALAMALAIAKUM
    I THINK I REPEAT THE 1ST REPLY HERE IT WILL BE HELPFUL TO RE CONCENTRATE ON THE VERSES AND HADEES-

    Say: O My servants who have transgressed against their own souls, despair not of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Most Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Surah az-Zumar 39:53)

    "O son of Adam, as long as you call upon Me and put your hope in Me, I have forgiven you for what you have done and I do not mind. O son of Adam, if your sins were to reach the clouds of the sky and then you would seek My forgiveness, I would forgive you. O son of Adam, if you were to come to Me with sins that are close to filling the earth and then you would meet Me without ascribing any partners with Me, I would certainly bring to you forgiveness close to filling it."

    Abu Dharr (Radhi Allahu Anhu) said that the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) said,
    Jibril came to me and conveyed the good news that, "Whoever among your followers dies, worshipping none along with Allah, will enter Paradise." I said, "Even if he stole or committed illegal sexual intercourse''
    He said, "Even if he stole or committed illegal sexual intercourse or even if drank alcohol." (Al-Bukhari)
    And the final condition of ones dua being responded to is that one must make sure he is living off of halal and permissible means.

  8. Someone please help me. I did something terribly wrong & I know I've made a huge mistake. I'm married and have been for almost 2 years now. Just the nikaah. I couldnt meet my husband or anything fter my nikaah. but my husband left me all alone for a while, he wouldnt talk to me for months.I just wanted to kill myself but somehow I ended up with someone. Things didnt lead to being too serious but I know those few days I was with him were wrong. I know ive done wrong. Now I'm talking to my husband and I'm very happy with him. I can't even bear to think that I would hurt him. Will god ever forgive me for this? This has been killing me inside for a few months now. I'm very happy with my husband now but will god ever forgive me for the mistake I had done? Please help me please. I don't want to lose him. I don't ever want to lose my husband.

    • "As", if you need a detailed response then you need to log in and write your question as a separate post. My short answer to you is that Allah forgives all sins if you repent sincerely. I hope you did not commit adultery as it is a major sin, but even if you did, ask Allah constantly for forgiveness for your sin. Do not tell your husband as it will certainly mean the end of your marriage. Try to do good as much as you can to make up for your sin and wipe it out, Insha'Allah.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  9. am a young guy and I found a girl who was not a Muslim and we both loved each other to the extent that she embraced Islam for a year now through me by the knowledge of our parents. I discussed with my father that I would like to mary her, and he agreed and accepted it.but for sometimes now,my father is behaving strange by refuting the idea for the reason that,the family if the girl are not Muslims.But I would like to Mary her after a year or two and am confused, I don't know whether I can still go ahead and Mary her with the unacceptance of my father.pls can I Mary her still?

    • Salaams,

      You don't need a wali to marry, so you don't need to wait for your father's approval. As a man you are free to make your own choice. Being opposed to a marriage because a muslimah's family is not muslim is not valid. People convert all the time, what their family might choose to do has no bearing on that in shaa Allah.

      -Amy
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

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