Will I ever find the one?
Marriage Proposal
Assalamu alaikum,
I am a 22 year old arab girl Who hasn't even received any marriage proposals from anyone. I feel very worried, alone and distressed. I often feel hopeless I'm not sure on what to do. I do not ever want to approach a man I prefer a man to approach me, but that isn't happening.
I have prayed to Allah and have had many many dreams of getting married ( a year ago), but yet I still don't get no proposals. I really need help! I'm not sure what to do. I don't know whether I should start looking or just wait for him to come to me. Everyone I know has received many proposals I never even got one. I feel very unlucky.
Please my brothers and sisters help me!
Thank you so much!
~ silver_9
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Dear sister assalamualikum!
Don't be hopeless and be patient Allah's compassion knows no bounds keep on asking Allah till you get what you want.Seek Allah's guidance through SALATUL ISTEKHARA regarding the delay in your matrimonial alliance.
You can join a good matrimonial website and search for a suitable match for you and approach the guy through you parents.Please keep your parents /elders informed of each step you take and also seek Allah's guidance .Inshallah you will get a god fearing and loving husband.
Thank you 🙂
you are a beautiful muslima girl and you will definitely get some i just know it. your prince charming is probably lost on the way to finding you.
Thank you 😉
Dear Young Sister, Walaykumsalaam,
MaashaAllah, you want to get married, in doing so in the right way you will be completing half your deen insha'Allah. You are still young maasha'Allah, so there would be many suitors available for you. The best thing you can do is speak to your parents or a respected family member and ask them to begin networking for you. Insha'Allah once people know of you, you will begin to receive proposals.
At the same time, keep busy with a good balance of deen and dunya and through your own halaal social networking through education, work, Islamic classes, hobbies, friends, people will come to know of you and some one may approach you this way.
Keep making dua and hoping for the best. Allah will bless you with a spouse when your time is right, Aameen!!
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Thank you :))
Salamualaikum sister silver_9,
I see that what worries you is the following point you mentione:
"Everyone I know has received many proposals I never even got one"
Everyone has a time when one gets married. This is based on your Destiny Written by Allah Subhaanah. If people you knew got married before you did, it was their time to get married. Your time will come soon, too, insha Allah. You need not worry. Just ask your parents to start looking for a suitable match for you, as SisterZ mentioned. Otherwise, if you have seen a man you think can be a potential suitor, you could ask your father or brother to get to know him and look for an opportunity.
Perform Salatul Istikhaarah before finalizing on any boy for marriage. Insha Allah, it will help you.
And keep your trust in Allah, whatever be the situation. He is The Lord of this World, the Heavens and all that is between them. He Is The Most Merciful, He Will Not Leave you on your own, insha Allah. Just say this Dua with conviction:
المهم رحمتك أرجو فلا تكلني الي نفسي طرفة عين و اصلح لي شأني كله لا اله الا أنت
Allaahumma rahmataka arju fala takilni ila nafsi tarfata 'ayn, wa aslih li sha'ni kullahu, la ilaaha illa ant.”
“O Allaah, it is Your Mercy that I hope for, so do not leave me in charge of my affairs even for a blink of an eye and rectify for me all of my affairs. None has the right to be worshipped except You.”
May Allah make it easy for you
Aameen
Wassalamualaikum
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Thank you! 🙂
Assalamualaikum wr wb sister,
may Allah have mercy on you and grant you a pious & one of His obedient slave. Aameen !
sister, inshAllah you will be rewarded for your patience . please make dua to Allah , offer the prayer to quicking the marriage and inshAllah soon you will find someone worthy . you may visit the website and create a profile here which is a sincere one not like others commercial http://www.purematrimony.com/
again, we got an Islamic dawah page on facebook where many brothers from Arabic countries , we could help you to find as well . please send us a message to inbox of the page https://www.facebook.com/proudmuslims
jazakAllah
Thank you
Never ever lose hope sister there is always someone out there for someone inshallah
Thank youu
You are still young take your time finding the right person don't look at your friends and say they all got proposals there is someone out there for everyone insallah. I'm now 29 years old I wish I had waited alittle longer to get married because i wanted to finish school first. Insallah you will find your prince charming soon.
Thak you
My dear sister,
Have you ever thought about that Allah knows who you are going to marry and have a future already planned for you.
Maybe there are no proposals because the person who is right for you is not in your life yet?
You are still young my dear, you need a balance when looking for marriage. You need to let people know you are looking so they can help you, and you can see people as well through halal ways, but also at the same time trust that Allah has a plan for you my dear and relax and let life show itself to you.
Everything has its moment, make dua, pray, do your part in letting people know you are ready for marriage and inshallah things will work out when they are meant to.
Also, a final p. s. : never compare your life to others, you dont know what struggles they may be going through- so do not envy your friends/acquaintance for getting married ahead of you.
wish you all the best sister.
Samira
Thank you so much.