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Worried about my angry husband


He loses his temper and the children get upset

I'm married to my first cousin. He loves me ,cares for me and fulfils all my needs very kindly, but the problem is he loses his temper on little things and uses abusive language in front of our kids (we have been blessed with three kids). The kids get so disturbed by watching him like that. What should I do? I can't live without him, but I can't bear his behaviour. I'm so depressed and tired of this relationship - it's been 12 years of our marriage and he's getting worse day by day.


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  1. Salam sister ,
    does your husband knows how depressed and unhappy you are with his behavior ?
    You said he is kind and loving to you, do you bring up Inappropriateness of his attitude during those kind moments so he can reflect on himself??
    He needs serious feedback from someone who influences him like his parents, close friend etc.

    He needs to learn ways how to manage his anger but that is not possible without his cooperation . Does he have insight that he has problem?
    Recite Astughfarullah and aozobillahminashatain nirajeem during his outburst and immediately physically leave that room or area along with kids where he is displaying his anger .

  2. Assalaamualaikam

    As the head of the household, he needs to set a good example to the children, and provide a loving and stable environment. If you haven't already, it might help to speak with him or have another person speak with him about this issue and tell him how important it is to address this before it gets worse. There may well be an anger management programme near where you live, so you could either look online to search for one or ask your GP or family doctor to tell you where to go for this.

    Depending on how the children are coping, you might also want to look into counselling options for them, as children can often struggle to understand why a parent might be acting in this way. Remember that, no matter how angry he gets, he has no right to hurt you or your children.

    Midnightmoon editor

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