Monday, January 31, 2000
Before I converted to Islam I met this muslim brother who
first introduced Islam to me and I became interested and converted.
I am very much in love with him and I believe he is in love with
me but I think he is worried what the people in his community
will say because I have only been muslim for 3 months. I want
to marry him and I believe he feels the same. What should I do?
I have not met many sisters yet. I need a wali or someone to
speak for me.
-Want a Muslim husband
Dear "Want a Muslim Husband",
Welcome to Islam! I encourage you to
work on your Salat, study about the Life of the Prophet Muhammad
(peace be upon him) and strive to read the Qur'an daily. These
things are important.
Concerning a husband, the ideal in Islam
is for your father to act as your wali. If your father or another
male relative is not available or willing, then you should talk
to the Imam of your community and see what he advises.
The "dating" scene in the
non-Muslim world is generally characterized by game-playing,
guessing, and deception. In Islam, however, all of this is abolished
in favor of the concept of "ma'roof," which means that
everything is above-board, proper and honest. Honesty being the
best policy, you should inform the Imam of your interest in this
particular brother, and the Imam will convey your interest to
the brother. If your interest in this brother is reciprocated,
al-Hamdulillah. If not, then you must accept this and move on.
Marriage is of course very important
in Islam, but you want to take your time and be sure this brother
is right for you.
Ask Allah's guidance in this matter
and to grant you a good husband. My prayers and best wishes are