Monday, November 15, 1999
I know that anal sex is forbidden in Islam. But what if the
husband wants it? If the wife agreed is she as sinful as him?
also what if she didn't? He could go out and look to do that
with somebody else! Please tell me what do you think of this
Thanks a lot.
You are correct, anal sex is forbidden
in Islam. Allah subhanahu says in the Qur'an,
"Your wives are a tilth unto you;
so approach your tilth when or how ye will" [al-Baqarah
All of the Muslim scholars are agreed
that as a tilth is a garden where something grows, this refers
only to vaginal sex. And to further explain this verse, we have
the following hadith:
On the authority of Jaabir who said:
"The Jews used to say that if a man entered his wife in
the vagina but from behind, their child would be cross-eyed!
Then Allaah revealed the verse: "Your wives are as a tilth
unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will;" [al-Baqarah
2:223]. The Prophet said : "From the front or the back,
as long as it is in the vagina". [Al-Bukharee and Muslim]
There are several other hadith on this
subject, among them:
- First: On the authority
of Umm Salama who
said: "When the Muhajireen came to Ansaar at al-Madeenah,
some of them married women from the Ansaar. The women of the
Muhajireen used to lie on their faces (during intercourse), while
the women of the Ansaar never did it that way. Then, one of the
men of the Muhajireen wanted his wife to do that. She refused
until such time as she could ask the Prophet
about it. She went to the Prophet
but was embarassed to ask the question, so Umm Salama asked him.
Then the verse was revealed which says: "Your wives are
as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will;"
[al-Baqarah 2:223]. The Prophet
said: "No! (not any way you wish) Only in one opening! (ie.
the vagina)". [Ahmad, at-Tirmidhee and others : Saheeh]
- Second: On the authority
of Ibn 'Abbaas who
said: "'Umar ibn Al-Khattaab came to the Prophet
and said: 'O Messenger of Allaah, I am destroyed!' The Prophet
asked: 'And what has destroyed
you, O 'Umar?' 'Umar said: `I turned my mount around last night.'
(An expression which means he had sexual intercourse with his
wife penetrating the vagina while mounting her from the rear.)
The Prophet gave him no answer
and when the revelation came and the verse was revealed which
says: "Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your
tilth when or how ye will;" [al-Baqarah 2:223] then the
Prophet said: "From
the front and from the back, just beware of her anus and her
menses". [an-Nasaa'ee in "`Ishratun-Nisaa" with
hasan isnaad, at-Tirmidhee and others].
- Third: On the authority
of Khuzaima ibn Thaabit
who said: "A man asked the Prophet
about entering women in the rear, or the entering by a man of
his wife in her rear, and the Prophet
answered: `Halaal (ie. permissible).' When the man turned to
leave, the Prophet called
him or ordered for him to be called back and said : "What
did you say? In which of the two openings did you mean? If what
you meant was from her rear and in her vagina, then yes. But
if what you meant was from her rear and in her anus, then no.
Verily Allaah is not ashamed of the truth - do not enter your
wives in their anuses!" [as-Shaafi, al-Baihaqi and others:
- Fourth: "Allaah
does not look at one who comes to his wife in her anus".
[an-Nasaa'ee: Hasan isnaad and supported in "al-'Ishrah";
at-Tirmidhee and Ibn Hibbaan].
- Fifth: "Cursed are
those who come to their wives in their anuses." [Aboo Dawood,
Ahmad and others with hasan isnaad and is supported].
- Sixth: "Whoever
has sexual intercourse with a mentruating woman, or a woman in
her anus, or approaches a soothsayer and believes what he is
told has disbelieved in that which was revealed to Muhammad ". [Aboo Dawood, at-Tirmidhee
and others: Saheeh].
So the issue is very clear. As husband
and wife, you should encourage one another toward those things
permitted by Allah and His Prophet and discourage one another
from those things prohibited. There are many and varied positions
that a couple can enjoy marital relations without transgressing
the bounds set for us as Muslims.
Hopefully once your husband reads this
column he will have a better awareness of the prohibition of
sodomy, and will fear Allah in his behavior. As a wife, you are
not responsible for the sins your husband commitss, but only
for your own actions. If you go along with him, you will be responsible
for that sin. Fulfill your responsibility to Allah first, and
then think of other ways of making marital relations pleasing
to both you and your husband. This is something best discussed
between the two of you for resolution.