Monday, May 16, 2000
AsSalaamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,
Is it halal for one to forbid someone in his care to perform
acts which are mustahabb? I have wanted to wear niqab for almost
two years but my husband forbids it because he does not personally
like it. He insists that my obedience to him in this matter will
open the abwab of jannah for me, Insha'Allah. I believe he is
committing haram by preferring his own personal opinion above
the sunnah to the extent of forbidding an act which is sunnah.
Please respond with any naseeha you may have for him or me.
Jazzak Allahu Khairun.
Dear Sister U.H.,
My understanding of the term "niqab"
is the "face veil" and I will answer your question
according to this definition. Simply put, you husband is right
as you have related the matter to me in this question. Wearing
of the face veil is generally accepted as not obligatory (fardh)
for a Muslim woman. I think we can agree on that point. The majority
of scholars seem to agree that covering of everything except
the face, hands and feet of a woman is prescribed. Hence, to
do or not to do anything more than that does not constitute sin
or a haram action. Thus, if your husband prefers that you do
not cover your face, it would not constitute a sin and actually
would be better for you not to do it.
This seems a simple request of a husband
as opposed to something else that might cause you hardship. As
women in many ways our duties have been made simple. I have been
Muslim for many years now and have seen wives sometimes create
differences where there really should be none. I'm not saying
this is the case in your situation, but I would say to beware
of debating with your husband over small matters. Islam is clear
on this issue. Do not loose sight of the big picture which spiritually
is your relationship with Allah (swt). The many barakahs (blessings)
that you would receive from aligning yourself with your husband's
request should help to make this an easy task if righteousness
is what you truly seek.