How can I win my brother’s love back?
Salam Sisters & Brothers,
Kindly help me for the below questions please..Kindly give me a power ful dua & tell me how many times I have to recite and at what time.
My problem is I am in a relation with one guy and my brother is not interested to this and now my brother hates me. So I would like to ask Allah for my brothers love back and I want this guy also. So give me a dua to get back my brothers as old & as well as my family to support this.
Kindly reply back to me very soon with powerful dua and advice me how many days and how many times & at what all time..
Please dont ignore this mail.Please help with duas..Please please I need my brother back with all the old love & Care to me as well as to support this relation with all his mind
salam from a sorrowed sister...
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Salaams,
We can give you advice on this website, but none of us editors are in a position to "prescribe" dua's or tell you how often to recite them. Naturally, there are dua's the Prophet (saws) gave us for various occassions, but I personally am not well versed enough in these to tell you which ones might apply for your situation.
Based on your post, the advice I can give you is to make tawba to Allah to ask for His forgiveness for breaking the relationship with your brother. Then, I would humbly approach your brother and tell him you were wrong for what you did and ask him to forgive you. Ask him what you can do to make it right.
Additionally, I would let this relationship go with the guy until your family is fully in support of you. I would also let your brother know that you are doing this as a show of the sincerity for your repentence. When you have earned back your brother and family's acceptance, find out what their concerns are about this guy you want to be with. They may have some valid points for you to consider. If you feel that with time they will become more open, do the things they ask you to do in the mean time and allow them to warm to him.
The bottom line is, until you are married your family is your most important support system and it should never be sacrificed for any friends, potential husbands, etc. Do what is necessary to repair any trust you've broken, as this should be your main priority. Finding a husband comes after you've regained their goodwill.
-Amy
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salaam,
Sister you brother does not hate you, its hard to explain, but as brothers we care for our sisters alot and seeing them with other guys or someone we dont like it very hurtful to us, it brings anger but thats because we love our sister, you brother loves you, he is just angry if you sit down and explain everything and make him understand inshaAllah he will understand, have faith in Allah and keep praying and he wil guide you, whatever happens remember dont choose the guy over your brother, you will break his heart and this shouldnt be the way of a loving family, sit down and make him understand, then with his blessing apporach the guy for marriage, your brother may also have good reason to dislike the guy, sometimes when we our in love we see past everything and enter a almost 'euphoria' but others around us can see everything clearly and sometimes we need telling that something might not be right,
All the best, keep praying and inshaAllah i hope everything works out for you.
Thanks a lot for your reply..
but as per you what you feel am i wrong or not..should i leave that guy..am really in a state of depression. Kindly provide em a solution. I even afraid to talk to my brother..he is not even looking at my face..am sure taht i will be failing to convince...is there any way to get back my brother..any prayer to change his mind as well i love taht guy...
Dnt be angry with my concern..please please...can you reply back
Asalaam alaykum Sister Ziba,
I believe that your approach and your perspective to this problem is incorrect regarding the males in your life. The main question regarding this non-mahram male is whether he has the intention of marrying you? If not, leave him, as being with him is a sin. If he wants to marry you, then he needs to contact your family and propose to set a date for your nikkah. This is the crux of your problem, so resolve it and make Allah (swt) happy, instead of focusing on the people's happiness you want.
Wasalm Brother Professor X,
Yes the male is agreeing to marry me. Before that guy come to my parents i want them to be ok with me...thats why am asking a solution to all my brothers and sisters over here...kindly help me in this regards...
Kindly advise me that am i wrong.
Awaiting for all your replies...
Salams
Salaam sister, i apologise i could not reply earlier, and i will never be angry it is good you asked for more advice thats why i post on this site, it is good you have reached a understanding with the male and he has agreed to marry you, but the root problem remains unresolved.
Your faced with a choice, but dont see it that way because you can most definetly have your brothers love and marry this guy, important thing is to build bridges, yes your relationship with your brother is damaged, but that connection he has with you will never go, and if you ask of him to sit and listen, he will, but however heated it may get you must remain calm.
You havent talked and already you think you will fail, you need to believe in yourself and have faith in Allah, do not be afraid of your brother i assure you he means well for you, but you must talk with him, i ask of you to do this and tell me the outcome so i can help you more, also what do your parents make of this guy, are they aware and would their reaction reciprocate that of your brothers ?
Wasalam
brother Kelventer..
Am sorry that i am not able to give reply from the below comment that why am replying from this.
Its fine for the late reply/But at least you give me a reply....Again am immensely pleasure that your are given me a reply...
Actually the full story is that all of ma family members it means my sibling & parents know about this..even all are against to it…but except ma brother all are talking with me..what ma father told me is that let him search about the guys family how they are all and like that…
But now parents & siblings other than this brother all are talking to me..but not even mentioning about ma marriage just moving on…
Now ma concern is that I just want them to be agree on this with their full support mind as well as ma brother should accept it.
Seriousily am in a scenario that what I have to do….
Hope that you will also pray for me…
With Salam
ZIba
Salaam sister, you cannot go on seeing this man outside of marriage, and more time passes its more sin for you, i respect you have told your parents, but you must hurry them in their decision ,talk to your mother if it makes it easier for you and let her explain to your father, as for your brother, keep triyng to talk and pray for the best.
Sister my duas are with you, may Allah guide you and help you in this situation insha'Allah, and may Allah bring you happyness and joy within marriage and happyness amongst your family. Ameen
Please keep us posted on how things turn out whether it takes weeks or months i want you to come good out of this sutiation insha'Allah, and as always whenever you need more advice please ask and i am more than happy to help
And keep on praying and asking Allah for guidance.