Islamic marriage advice and family advice

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Love and sex before marriage

She told me that she does NOT want to have sex before marriage. But would it be OK if we did as we both know we are going to marry each other? oh and the other thing is that we have not had sex, but we do kiss and have slept in the same bed but not done anything, is that also wrong in islam?

Hardships of Nice Muslim finding a nice Muslimah

I am a 23 year old practicing Muslim. I have kept myself chaste and pure for Allah and for whoever my future wife will be. I have also always told whoever I met that I am looking for a chaste, pious Muslimah which is like myself a virgin, prays, and is an active Muslim (as it states implicitly from Surah Al-Noor Ayats 4 and 26…somebody similar to me). I know that I would not be able to live with such knowledge and would not be able to trust a person who in the past had no problems doing such a thing (what makes it so they couldn’t do this in marriage if then). In the end this would turn to a relationship that I would be unhappy with, depression would arise (and has) and hence treat that person unfairly or look at them differently and I fear Allah too much to be unjust to that person.