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Difficulties in having a straightfoward nikah because of fear of my family

I am wishing to get married this year to my fiancé inshallah, who does not live in the same country as me and is of different nationality. We are hoping to start a life together, and for this to happen we must be married as is dutiful to Allah. However, my own family situation makes it difficult to publicise this and gain the permission of my relatives.

Divorce or Keep Secret Nikkah

I have a situation and I really need help. I live in north American society and I met a beautiful muslim girl 3 years ago. After meeting her couple of times I proposed her and consulted with my parents. My parents spoke to her parents. I was 20 at that time. Her parents did not want to get her married to me at that time and did not say yes or no to my parents. To avoid any problems and thinking both parents will agree any time we decided to have our nikkah done in secret (without a wali). During the 3 years period of nikkah we had intercourse only once.

She is my step-daughter, can I act as her father when she gets married?

Salam rahamat ullha
I am a muslim boy 33 years old,On january 18 2010, I married a divorce girl. Her first marriage was a love marriage with a hindu boy and after 2 years of marriage she had divorce but she had a baby girl who lives with her and now with us.

Now that girl is 13 years old and i had accpeted both the girl and her baby, even in school also i had put my name as her father and she knows that I am only her father, but actually her real father is a hindu

A Convert Without a Wali

I converted to Islam just over two years ago. No one in my family is Muslim; they are all either Christian or agnostic.

A few months after I converted, I met a Muslim male on an online matchmaking service. We’ve come to know each other very well and have decided to marry inshallah. Both of us have decided we want as halaal a marriage as possible.

He abuses me, but I can’t think of marrying anyone else

I’ve known this guy for almost 2 years. When he asked for my hand my parents refused him straight away but I didn’t understand why they were so against it in the beginning. He said if I didn’t marry him at that point, he would leave me. I started to see negative things about the guy, as he would shout and put me down so much and yell abuse at me when he was angry about something. I can’t leave him no matter what, as he’s always been sincere to me and I’ve lied to him and my family so this is partly my fault. Do you think I am doing the right thing by forcing my father to agree to this nikah as I can’t imagine being with anyone else?

I’ve been hiding my marriage from my family for years and I can’t take it anymore

I married secretly with my husband. None of my family knew, but his relatives knew. After a year i had courage to tell my mum and sisters, but my dad and brother still don’t know. i have said i’m at university for 4 years but really i’m married and living with my husband. He is muslim reads namaz (prays) etc, but is of a different caste, so my dad will never accept him, plus my dad is a heart patient i cant take risk of upsetting him. so i have to lie to dad and brother that im still studying.