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Male Chastity?

In the Quran does the guy also have to keep his virginity, same as the girl/ women?

I cannot accept that he has been with other women before

Salam, I had recently gotten a proposal by a Muslim man, and we had gotten to know each other for nearly 2 yrs, and had planned on getting married this year. He had told me that he was virgin when we both started to know each other, but now he tells me he had commited Zina whilst he was young, and told me he didn’t want to tell me as he knew I would get angry and not accept him.

Hardships of Nice Muslim finding a nice Muslimah

I am a 23 year old practicing Muslim. I have kept myself chaste and pure for Allah and for whoever my future wife will be. I have also always told whoever I met that I am looking for a chaste, pious Muslimah which is like myself a virgin, prays, and is an active Muslim (as it states implicitly from Surah Al-Noor Ayats 4 and 26…somebody similar to me). I know that I would not be able to live with such knowledge and would not be able to trust a person who in the past had no problems doing such a thing (what makes it so they couldn’t do this in marriage if then). In the end this would turn to a relationship that I would be unhappy with, depression would arise (and has) and hence treat that person unfairly or look at them differently and I fear Allah too much to be unjust to that person.