Struggling with my US Immigration status and my US wife
Assalamu Alaykum brothers and sisters,
I am an immigrant and Alhamdulilah I am a Muslim, currently located in USA and now I am struggling with immigration and relationship with my American wife. In a month I have an interview with immigration. Me and my wife together have to go. But its been 4 month we are separated.(not divorced).
I believe she still loves me and I am sure that I love her. I have tried to get back together, but it did not work. Dear Brothers and Sisters, at first, please make a dua on your prayer for me that everything work out for me. Second, please and please, if you know that there is any particular dua for my situation that solves my problems.
Please Help me! May Allah Bless all of you!
Assalamu Alaykum
~Rahmon
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Wa Alaykumu Salam, my brother
I will offer dua for you!
Also, if you are in the Tampa Florida area, I know a very good Immigration Attorney.
Post back if you would like to figure out a way for me to get the attorney information to you. I would rather not post his information on a public site like this, maybe we can find a way to get it to you through the editors.
Your Brother in Islam
Salaams,
It will be helpful if you give us a little more detail about what's going on in your relationship that is causing the separation. On paper, if she loves you (as you believe) and you love her, there would be no reason to be separated or necessarily having any marital trouble. Without knowing what exactly is going on, it will be hard for any of us to tell you what you can do about it. From my view, reading this limited information, I can't tell if the immigration issues are a part of the marital issues or not, so please add a little more detail and we will be more than happy to advise you as best we can insha'Allah.
-Amy
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Assalamu Alaykum,
Thanks for your respond,
Well, my relationship with my wife and Immigration issue is long story.
I will skip some details.
On 2008 I was ordered for deportation. Because i lost my case. And never left the country.
On 2009 I met a few years older American (non Muslim) lady than me.
We started dating and we falled in love each other and started living together.
But we scandaled a lot. Our main and unique issue was just a jealousy. We were both jealous to each other. But I was a jealous more than her.
On 2010 october ICE came to our apartment and took me to their immigration detention.
Of course we missed each other a lot. She cried a lot. At least 2-3 times in a day we talked on a phone.
She prayed a lot and I prayed a lot.
Finally they decided to release me from detention because they could not issue my passport. But they put on ISAP program and put on my foot ankle bracelet. Since that time every single week i have to go to ICE office and have to report them what am i doing,when am i gonna get my travel document.
After i got released right away we have got married. And a few month later she filed for I130 IMMIGRANT PETITION FOR RELATIVE, FIANCE(E), OR ORPHAN.
But our scandals keep continued. While application was on pending at the end of 2011 she decided to go apart and stopped talking to me and sleeping separate room.
On new year eve when i come from work apartment was empty. She swept out everything. I have got shocked and started calling her,she did not answer. I called to her work. She was a Stylist. Her coworkers answered and said not to call them anymore otherwise they would call a police.
After a couple hours when i tried to call again her phone already disconnected and she changed the number. I did not know what to do and where to live. Because the lease was final that day.
And I grabbed my staff and moved to my friends house.
About a month since she moved out I did not know her address. Electric bill information came to my email address. And I found out her address.
I went to her apartment evening time and knocked her , she opened the door and said nothing but 3 times " Leave".
And now, a few days ago my attorney called me and said that we (me and my wife) have to go USCIS in a month for Approval interview.
Ok,this immigration issue is secondary for me.
But the Primary issue is I missed her a lot and can not move on ever since. Since we met we never betrayed each other. Its been 4 month, I have no idea and only god knows what is going on with her personal life. I've heard nothing from her.
I am praying a lot 24/7. I am stuck with relationship problems and immigration and ICE with their stupid GPS (ankle bracelet). I always hide the GPS under my socks, because people might think that i am a criminal or etc..
This is my short story.
Assalamu Alaykum
Salaams,
Thank you for the additional information. The only part you left out was why you think she still might care for you. I hate to say it brother, but based on what you described she doesn't want to be with you and has made every effort to cut any ties with you. From the looks of it, your relationship with her is finished, so if I were you I would factor her and your marriage out of the equation completely. Just as an aside, women don't usually go to such extremes unless you were treating them very badly, or physically abusing them (is this what was happening during your "scandals"=arguments?)
As far as your immigration issues, it sounds like that is a whole different area where you are going to need legal help. Perhaps if you contact the embassy for your native country here in the US, they may be able to advise you of what your options are or what you can do. I strongly suggest you follow all the advice of your attorney if you can, as it sounds like things have already gotten escalated and it sounds to me like you are on the brink of being deported.
-Amy
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Asalaam alaikum Rahmon,
At this time you need to accept what has happened as a part of the Will of Allah (swt). Honor this woman by leaving her alone and give her divorce, ask forgiveness for taking each other for granted and be pleased that Allah (swt) has given you time on this Earth to do good deeds.
While you may get deported from the U.S., that does not mean you cannot have a good life back hoe or in another country, too. Make plans for that instead and leave the past behind you, where it belongs.
sp...good life back home....
Assalamu Alaykum sister Amy,
Thanks for your advise,
No, I never raised my hand on her. Besides our scandals her daughter was completely disagree ( i mean she has envy issue) for our relationship. She never met me before,neither me. She lives west coast and we live east coast. Her daughter would not talk to her unless she gives up this relationship. Her daughter is still angry at her that my wife left her father long time ago.