Is he interested in me?
Okay so I really like this kid who comes to my masjid and I think he might be the one. Our families have know each other for so long and his family runs the sunday school that I go to at the majid. Everything about him is just perfect! The thing is there is a 4 year age difference between us.
I have his number and I've contemplated sending him a text but:
1) I don't want him to be weirded out and
2) He is friends with my brother and if my brother found out he would be so mad. I know I can just wait till it's time to marry but if he's older than me, will he already be married at the time that I will not be old enough?
I really want to tell him how I feel but it would be weird if he didn't feel the same way. I think about him all the time and he's the only person I've ever REALLY liked. Please tell me what to do and how to pursue the situation.
Thanks!
~sara16
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Salamu'alaikum,
Allah's Messenger Sallallahu 'Alaihi wasallam allowed women to pray in the masjid. But there shouldn't be any form of mixing between them and the men. This is why for the men, the best row was the first row and for the women, it is the last. After the Salaah, the women left first and the men waited. But today, in most masaajid, we have seperate entrances and prayer sections for men and women. I do not understand how you came to know that boy you call a 'kid' 🙂
This is not something ethical. You go to the masjid to worship Allah Subhaanah. The feeling that you have developed is normal being a Human Being, and this is a result of Shaitaan's whispering, which he does, in order to lead the Believers in Allah astray.
You should keep yourself busy in Worship of Allah and His Remembrance and please keep away from this boy. When you can not marry now, there is no point in thinking about it.
You have his number and Shaitaan is insisting you to text him. But if you do, then you'll be initiating a fitnah for yourself and him. Abstain from this and keep yourself free from the Fitnah.
Wassalamu'alaikum
Muhammad Waseem
Walaykum assalam warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu, Brother above rightly said adding to that 16 is age you can marry simple, and if you are in school still you can marry and continue if you are serious .so say this to your parents because according to islam they should get you married if you feel like. And let your parents instigate this if they are convinced and get on the ears of HIS (WHICH IS NOT A KID) PARENTS.
Why i suggested the above way because thats a halal way and you can give a chance to yourself to be with him whom u liked. and secondly stop thinking about him when you go to masjid as indirectly or directly you are there for him (nauzubillah)
Shukran for your perusal.
Im not sure of your age but considering you have good knowledge of marriage etc. i assume you are in your later teens (15+) excuse me if i am wrong.
I think when it comes to marriage at a young age, they key thing to consider is the responsibility, apart from that their must be a mutual feeling between the boy and girl, the way to go about this would be to ask your brother but in a good manner, tell him how you feel and ask him to help you because you trust him, and ask him to ask the boy on your behalf if he has any feelings for you.
However to convince your brother is a big task, as brothers noone is good enough for our sister and when it comes to friends we become even more tough, but they key is to tell him that you considered texting but you chose to ask him instead, because hes your brother and you trust him to help you out, he may well hesitate or react badly at first but eventually will agree after he thinks its over.
The reason i say ask your brother is because asking the parents, considering what a good relationship they have with yours, they would ideally accept, but you would not know if the boy himself is happy or not which is the fundamental part of a marriage, and texting may go to many avenues which would not result in a good outcome family wise and could jeopardise you.
If he reciprocates your feelings, then you will be advantageous in that you will have your brother on side, as you progress things further, in regards to the age gap, well lets say your 16 for arguments sake and he is 20, well that seems a big gap but in reality it isnt much at all, because you grow older and that can easily be 20 and 24 respectively, so i think while in a ideal world you may be considered young for marriage, islamically it is not a problem at all and is in fact encouraged to avoid dwelling into sin etc., so it comes down to your question is he interested in you ?.. well i hope you take my advice and all the best, keep us posted or if you have any other questions.