A Woman Hugging Her Nephew
Hugging a Mahram
Is it allowed as per Islamic sharia for a 29 years old married woman hug her 22 years old nephew from back and during this hugging her chest touched him ?
Your earliest response in this matter will be highly appreciated.
~ bubi
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Assalamualaikum,
It is evident in Surah an Noor, Aayah 31, that your nephew is your Mahram.
But there's a distance you should maintain from Mahrams also. Your hugging him could arouse a desire in him, which, he may suppress because you are his aunt. Or he may find another way to fulfil his desire. This can prove dangerous. So, I suggest you to avoid hugging him. And Allah Knows Best.
Shaikh bin Baaz Rahimahullah said:
There is nothing wrong with a man kissing his daughters, whether they are young or grown up, without desire, so long as that is on the cheek if she is grown up. It was narrated that Abu Bakr kissed his daughter ‘Aa’ishah on the cheek. Kissing on the mouth may lead to provoking desire, so it is better and more on the safe side not to do that.
By the same token a daughter may kiss her father on the nose or his head, without desire. But if there is desire then that is forbidden to all parties, so as to ward off fitnah (temptation) and block the way to evil and immorality.
Fataawa Islamiyyah, 3/78, 79
Hence, hugging also has to be avoided, while it MAY arouse desire in your nephew.
Muhammad Waseem
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Bro when did u became editor subhanalllah 🙂
Salamualaik,
Just a couple of months ago 🙂
Muhammad Waseem
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Why my comments are being moderated because i pass staunch comments ya akhi;)
Ukhti Bella,
I don't know for what reason you were put on the moderated status. But I'm sure it was for a valid reason.
In sha Allah, if we find your future comments consistently sound, then we could remove you from it.
🙂
Muhammad Waseem
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Bubi your fine Hun, any part of the body can inspire desire but I highly doubt there was any perversion or desire inspired by your simple hug considering the tone of your question. Of course our breasts are going to touch a family member during an embrace... That's just the nature of a hug. Dont let someone make haram what Allah SWT has made halal. You can hug, just use your best judgement if you feel the other person is being inappropriate in any way. Take care.
Sister Stacy
Edit: by family I of course mean mehrem men and all women. Salalm.
Its haram.. Despite he is mahram but u cant hug him,,mahram means u cant behave coqeutish of any sort neither wear compromising clothes infront of mahram
Because if these sort of things only evil errupts .
This kind of behavior is not appropriate. Why should she hug him at all, and especially from behind? That's a very flirtatious thing to do.
Furthermore, they are close in age. It's quite likely that a 29 year old woman would find a 22 year old man attractive. So this sort of close physical contact is dangerous and either is likely to create arousal, or is already an expression of arousal.
This kind of behavior is wrong and should be avoided.
Wael
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agree because there is a small age gap and to avoid temptation it is best not to hug in this manner.
i even doubt if a mother would hug her son from the back so in that case do what a mother would do is my best advice since he is like a son to you too.
Remember this ALLAH SWT STATE THIS IMPORTANT POINT IN MANY VERSES IN QURAN . LATAQRAB (DONT GET NEAR ) TO WHAT? to this inciting ways which will indeed surely lead us unknowingly towards transgression of conduct.. So that's why islam stress and emphasize on "precaution is better than cure"!
Salaams,
In Islam, everything boils down to intention, under the practice of shariah. There is no formal shariah law about how to embrace a mahram. So if someone was just wanting to be technical and follow the law, there is no prohibition in hugging a nephew from behind.
However, again, intention is everything. Having a proper niyat is exactly what ethical behavior is based upon, and sometimes there are situations where we must be ethical beyond the scope of technical lawfulness. Those situations can only be weighed by variables that play into what might be going on, and unfortunately we really don't know those aspects to give more than general advice. It would be very shortsighted for anyone to unilaterally say "that kind of embrace is wrong (or right)" without knowing anything about you or the circumstances.
For all I know, you grew up with this nephew and his relationship to you is like a brother/sister one. You may often embrace playfully in different manners, without either of you thinking anything of it. We have to be real, right? Parents embrace their adult children, brothers embrace their sisters, and all other types of mahrams embrace in different ways and from different angles, and it is never anything sexual, although it may be done in a comfortably familiar way at times.
That being said, if you have any misgivings in your gut feelings about how/why you're doing something, then DO NOT do it. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said “That which is lawful is clear, and that which is unlawful is also quite clear. Between these two is that which is ambiguous, which most people do not know. One who avoids the doubtful safeguards his faith and his honor.” Riyadh-us-Salaheen:588
Usually our intuition is right about situations and is a means by which Allah guides us and protects us from compromising situations. What does your intuition tell you about this? Was it completely innocent? Was it something that could've made him feel uncomfortable even if you were OK with it? Or were you feeling uncomfortable, even if he didn't notice anything amiss? Or, deep down, do you really feel it was categorically inappropriate?
Only an examination of your heart can answer the questions above, and guide you as to how you should conduct yourself with your nephew going forward.
-Amy
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