Any dua or advice to buy my own house; it’s really stressing me out
Salam alikum wr wb
Could someone tell me what I should do it's been about 4 years I've been married and I'm looking for a house for me and my husband and my two children but I can't find anything.
I'm fed up with everything recently after my son's birthday in June, everything gone wrong. I have bad luck everywhere what ever I do I'm never successful.
In May, we gave an offer for a house, it was the 1st time it went through and everyone's like be patient. I have been patient now; the owners of the house are like; do you want the house or not?! It's delayed so much, or shall we sell it to someone else?
It's really getting to me now because my laptops broken, now I'm using my brother's and my car is messed and I can't get a house.
My parents want us out and my husband lost his job. I'm living with my parents, I'm really damn stressed my kids have grown up in my parents house. My daughter is 3 years old now and goes to nursery.
I feel suffocated, when ever I try to help, I make it worse. I just need a dua or some sort of advice about how I could get a house and get rid of bad luck.
thanks for any comments you leave
Allah hafiz,
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How come your own parents say such thing?? Very sad anyways I don't know the situation what about your in laws? Or you can get a shelter at any relatives? I don't know any dua but I only can say that pray to Allah and tell your husband to find a job it will be hard to raise the children or even to buy a house actually it will effect your family. Mayr the time is not going good for you maybe bad-luck? But don't loose hope ask Allah he will give you what is right for you. I know I didn't have any suggestion because I really don't know actually what to say.
May Allah bless you and your family.
Salaams,
From the sound of things, it may be better for you to look at other options besides te purchase of a home. I support your desire to move out of your parents place and have something of your own, but if it's too difficult right now for you to jut your own home then maybe you should look for a rental property instead.
Buying a house can be a complex and drawn out process. There are many reasons why a prospective purchase may fall through. You said you bid on one place but haven't been able to close on it, now the sellers are getting restless and want to sell to someone else. Are you having a hard time getting up the money? It sounds like there may be some financial issues, especially if your husband isn't working. I can tell you honestly that it would be foolish to buy a house if the family has no stable income, because there are a lot of ongoing expenses that go with maintaining your own home (utilities, insurance, repairs, possible loan repayments etc). If you are struggling now before you've even bought anything, you will definitely be worse off when you get the house and could take the chance of losing the home as a result.
Check your local classifieds and see if there is a home or apartment for rent that's within your budget, and make plans to work toward that. You can lease for a year or two while you get back to financial stability. The other option is to continue to stay with your parents for the next couple of years and save some money to buy a house. Either way, you have to be willing to accept the fact that a home purchase is probably not in your immediate future, and you will have to wait a little bit longer for it.....so it's best to practice patience as best you can while you take steps forward toward your goal.
-Amy
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Salaams,
I also want to add that there's no such thing as "bad luck". All things that happen are by Allah's leave, and the things which are unpleasant to us are meant to test us and cleanse us from our wrongdoings and lesser qualities. Allah has chosen each situation we face as an opportunity to further submit to Him, so there is nothing random or mistaken about anything we go through in this life. Instead of trying to find a way to "get rid" of your problem, look for the way to manage it and respond to it that would most please Allah. That is te true success.
Also, forgive my typos above. I'm using an iPhone and my thumbs are clumsy.
-Amy
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Salam sister Amy, my names siddiqa. You sound mature, logical and understanding. I have a similar problem like this sisters. Could you please email me, id like some advice from you. My email is ***
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Wael
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Wael
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salam alikum sister i was wondering how could i delete this post off my list ?
salams sister I can relate to you being stressed I am a single mother to a disable child her father and family have cut her off and we devorced 2 years ago I left him when pregnant 13 years ago strange times I had no money all my property was keep by him I was given council flat when my child was 6 months old her disablity made our home not suitable and I am her fultime carer I came across this dua after saying it many times the council offer us three homes including a house from 12 floor flat to house near river I pray it helps you I made sure it correct eg sunnah google it your self
this is the dua Allahumma -ga firlee dhan-bee wawass si'lee fi dari wa bariklee fi rizq
oh Allah forgive my sins make my home accomodating and grant me abundance in my livelihood. salams everyome
salams again I forgot it must be me fasting and beeing keep awake by screaming child my income when from £98 pounds a week to 2-3 trousands £s a month but I recite from two books a gift to the distressed by Moulana Abu Usamah Ayub the dua read is o Allah I seek your refuge from worries and grief I seek your refuge fromhelplessness and laziness I seek your refuge from cowardice and niggardiness and I seek your refuge from overpowering debts and force of men and o All-living,o support/overseer through your mercy do I seek for aid /your help when I pray I give other book name need to change my child nappy salaams all
salaams I am writing from mobile and very tired second book repelling poverty by Mufti Muhammad Shafi Sahib all the duas and actions recommended given this book as gift to family and friends they have many stories to say my dad has his fuel bills paid for 5 years now and i find money on the street also when buying clothes etc it is reduced at the till so much love for these books but must stress quran knowing haram and halal praying at night [ night of power your blessed] when happy,sad,distressed and in sorrow brings it own rewards now some advice pray for your parents kiss them ask allah to reward them when they do anything for you and when they do not, give them gifts [ knowlegde is the best gift] hug them, tell them you love them ask for their duas and blessings the quran has a beautiful dua I say it every day at least once Allah lower the wings of your mercy on my parents as they had mercy on me when I was small also make duas for their hearts be on the deen last but not least ask Allah to increase love for him in your and their hearts truly Allah enlarges the provisions of his slaves when they uphold the ties of kinship know and meet their rights over you and ask for their forgiveness we all make mistakes like being loud in tone of voice try to talk them about them explain your hopes for the relationship (mine is to learn whole quran so they can wear crowns in the hereafter )I am not saying your in the wrong but humility when dealing with others resloves issues quickly general advise read dealing with worries and stress Muhammed Salih-Al-Munajjid online book at kalamullah and duapower.com have muslim prayers of happiness just look online downloaded mine years ago indebted to Allah is new have not read yet. Ps listen to your parents it maybe unpaid bills left unsaid as they have been there for you say Alhumdulliah to all the support you were given and not being homeless get knowledge then action come second books costs £1 & £3 tooting labas shop and no I don't work for them parents priceless do give them 70 excuses but talk to them about the issues do this with kindness and calmness salaams my sister.
salam
are u sayin these dua u can an income thousand a month...without working..?
i am in need of car...i got no mony n it be difficult no support...
Sister,
I am sorry to hear that you are having a difficult time buying the house of your dreams. When it is Allah's will, you will find your home however...now is not the time. You said yourself that your husband lost his job. If that is so, how would you be able to purchase a home? Buying and maintaining a home is a huge expense as I am sure that you are already aware. If you are in the U.S., banks are very difficult to get money from right now no matter how good your credit is. Over the last four or five years my husband and I had put multiple offers on homes and in the end, we didn't get any of them. I look back and thank Allah that we didn't get any of the homes we looked at because after years of patience, we purchased our dream home at a fraction of it's current market value.
It sounds like you are going through a rough patch currently but you must remember, everything happens for a reason. Allah will never give you more than he knows you can handle. Be patient, take a deep breath and remember that everyone goes through difficult times. If you have your health...you have everything.
Salam
Salam alikum
My husbands recently found a job as a carpenter but inshAllah things will change but the thing was that my advisor was the lazy one. i posted this comment before ramadan and ramadans over and we still havn't recieved the morgage letter from the bank. it's really annoying. We asked for our money back and he's like dont worry it'll come within 3 days he's my brothers mate i dont wanna b harsh but he's bloody taken the piss.He told us that he had a course to do for the bank and he's still there with the money telling us you'll get the letter soon dw.i've had bare arguments with my family because i'm feeling controlled and my anger overtakes my body. My sisters backbite behind my back i feel so damn low we argued a day before EID because they were backbiting and her daughter came upto me and told me everything i cant even sit with my family and have a laugh with them when ever i sit with them everything turns into an argument. They said so many aweful things like e.g.... your aunties going to hell, and she ruins my eid because she sits there looking all pretty and keep away from your aunty (thats me btw)she sed sum other stuff that have deep down hurt me alot i dont feel like forgiving her. My sisters tell my dad everything just to have him against me and it's only my mum who cares about me and my family. i know i sound silly for telling you guys it's just that sometimes i really feel like what if they right what if i've sinned more than them and i might go to hell. i just need some good advice and any dua's to keep me away from all the bad things everytym i try to do good i end up doing the opposite, sometimes i feel like i'm being controlled by something else.
Asalaam Alaykum sister, how are things now for you
salaam sister I got the feeling family issues were on your mind that why I mention ways of good treatment eid is a blessed day when we are stressed we affect others and reactions takeover can you please take the advice given in my previous post and put it into practice have sabr (restraining oneself,acting on the halal,turning to Allah in dua and salat and excepting the qadr both good and bad). cutting ties of kinship causes shortness of life and removes substanance(money,health,answering of our duas,performing rightious deeds,gaining knowledge etc) and removes Allah's mercy do you know that holding your ties even when they don.'t is islam
1. Allah created the ties of kinship out of his mercy and wisdom he wants what best for you and has given you in your religion a guide to your conduct with relations.
2.The person who keep this tie (salaaming each other, giving gifts, visiting each other not like for like but for the sake of Allah and being the first to make contact has Allah mercy no person,creature will enter jannah except with his mercy the person who breaks ties is cursed and Allah mercy is removed did you know that there a haddith that one who break ties does not go to jannah forgive your sister and ask her to forgive you mend your ties in a islamic way and ask Allah to aid you.
3 Graditute to one parents after Allah is islam sister you lived in your dad's house for your marriage life your dad had a choice in this matter he given you a roof over your children heads is this not a sign of love. Allah alone decides if you go to hell or jannah truly it haram to assume Allah right in this matter take heart nobody perfect but try to compose your self in the islamic manner that inshaAllah shapes your children conduct to you and others may Allah guide and reform us all so we enter into his jannah fiddous without reckconing salaam my sister
salaam sorry hit send before ending just notice not to nit pick your post is dated 15 of this month wait for your letter and be calm salaam again sis
best hme with barakath
11:73 Qaloo ataAAjabeena min amri Allahi rahmatu Allahi wabarakatuhu AAalaykum ahla albayti innahu hameedun majeedun
35:35 Allathee ahallana dara almuqamati min fadlihi la yamassuna feeha nasabun wala yamassuna feeha lughoobun
Brother & Sister Dua 4 me 2
Although it can never hurt to pray and make du'a, a lot of times people have financial problems only because they're very bad at managing money, not necessarily because they don't have enough of them. For instance, it sounds weird to me that you're looking in to buying a house when your husband is not working and therefore has no income to pay for your house for - is it so weird then that you are not getting a house? No job = no money = no house. It's simple math/logics, really.
As sister Amy has written, maybe the house purchase should be something you pursue when your husband gets a job and you two have saved some money up. Just because you can't buy a house right now doesn't mean you can't move out of your parents' house. I honestly don't think they're being mean by asking you to move out of their house, it's very hard and draining, especially for elderly people, to put up with an entire family under their roof, espcially when there're toddlers in it. I get extremely annoyed by my friends' children and my small cousins, too, and they are only around me for a few hours once every 3rd year, if even that...
There s always fight n my house for silly reason.
Pls say me
ummehani, this is not enough information for me to advise you. All I can say is, do your best to stay out of these fights yourself. Be peaceful, do not raise your voice, and do not cast insults. Stay in your room if it helps, or spend more time at school or work, or at Islamic activities, or the library, etc.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salaam. I'm living with my mum also wid husband and two kidz. My father in law sold our hme bcoz the neighbour got murdered and it was dangerous. It was a gift to us wen we got married. My big bro left hme wid his wife and child bcoz he cudnt stay wid my mum who's a widow and sis who's in her 30's is divorced. We do everything 4 dem yet they so ungratful. They only demand things frm us 2 buy this and that 4 dem & take them everywer. We also wanna buy our own hme but the tym is nt right, Allah knows wen. Making so much Sabr. Making dua. Sumtyms its over whelming. Kidz can't even make noise. Wanna go rent sumwer in shaa Allah 4 tym being. Husband and I r working but dnt earn well. Its difficult to pruchase a hme if 1 is working. A lot of cost 4 trasfering frm ur side as well. Allah make it easy on all of us that is going thru sum kind of difficulty. Its a Test frm Allah.
Wa alaikum salaam wa rahmathullahi wa barakathuhu.
Keep trust in Allah and be patience. Pray thahajud prayer and ask dua, Allah will accept your dua.
There is no bad luck or good luck, it is test from Allah,so seek forgiveness, recite astagfirullah more . May Allah grant you success.