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My parents say they will kill me if I leave this forced marriage

I am 20 years old my name is fathima I was married in 2009
Only due to emotional backmail my mom blackmaild me and forced me a lot and I got married..

I want to get out of this forced marriage

I am a aussie-paki girl. Last december my parents decide to take us overseas for the 2nd time in my life. When I was there my parents forced me to have nikha with 1 of my cousins, who I don’t even know..

Is it right to dis-obey parents in this case?

Now I tell him that he should still bring forth his proposal to his family but he fears he will be breaking family ties and will be disobeying his mother and Islam says we should not disobey our parents in any way. But then again it is not right for parents to emotionally blackmail their children either.

My husband took another wife without my knowledge and wants me to come back to him.

e have been married for 15 years, have no children due unexplained infertility reasons. My husband always assured me that he loves me and won’t marry again. He carried on talking to me everyday with a promise that he will be back in July but got married in May and I was the last person to know after two months. I have filed a case for my dower, now he is asking me to come back to him because he is able to afford me now. He says if I don’t go, I will get his baddua (bad dua/prayer for someone); my prayers won’t be accepted; I am committing a sin by not talking to him.

I am engaged to be married but my ex-boyfriend is blackmailing me

2 years back I fell in love with a guy who wanted to marry me, we did not intend to have any romantic relationship instead wanted to get married but my family refused but we kept on talking as it was really hard for us to be apart after the attachment…

My husband refuses to accept my wearing a hijab

I decided to wear hijab last Jan 2011 after finally increasing my Eman (reverted 15 yrs ago but wasn’t practicing -read my profile) but my hubby felt it was too soon and wants me to go slowly because he doesn’t want the kids to feel I’m being extreme. His identity and he’s not ready to live as a fully practicing Muslim and that my wearing hijab makes a statement about our level of belief that he’s not ready to publically make. He’s also stated that he will feel differently about me (his affection for me) if I decide to continue wearing it. I told him that what he’s imposing on me is sinful.

I am confused about this proposal that my parents have chosen for me and don’t know what to do?

I am a muslim female. My parents arranged for me to marry. At that time, I thought ok let’s go for it but after getting to know him I don’t really like him. I told my family but they are bothered about the shame on the family and community and still want me to go ahead with it but say they will not force me. I am really depressed as I don’t know what to do? I can’t think; I can’t sleep; I can’t even tell anyone else. I did isthikhara but didn’t get any result; as far as I am aware he got a positive result. Can anyone please help me why am I feeling like this?

We both are married but we still love each other and been intimate together. Please help

Until one day, I decided to marry the girl I just met, thinking that the other one is so far from me and long distance relationship most of the time don’t work. Then she couldn’t believe that I got married; she cried I caused her pain which she carried out for years. Even if she really loves me, she doesn’t like to be my second wife. And sometimes she have the guts to ask for a divorce. Until one day, I received a divorce agreement from her family, asking me to sign the papers. Yesterday, she got married and I told her, just pretend that you have your monthly period to avoid having intercourse and tell him that ramadan is also coming. The main purpose is to avoid confusion later on if who’s the father (if she will able to conceive).

Boyfriend threatens to ruin me and my family

We were good always. Our marriage was about to be fixed few months back but a few things went wrong in my family and they denied marrying me to him for so many reasons. But later I convinced my family but they asked us to wait for valid reasons. He was ready to wait for me as long as my family asks us to wait but now he has changed his decision for reasons which I regard totally illogical…

My fiancé is using nude photos to blackmail me

I made a mistake and committed zinaa with my fiance, and at the time we took a few nude photos together. Now I have stopped and repented, but he is using the photos to blackmail me to marry him right away, against my family’s wishes.