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Depressed from an unwanted divorce

I really love my husband and I don’t want talak from him, but now my in-laws are forcing me to give talak to him through court. I don’t understand what to do but I don’t want to lose my husband as well. I love him a lot & for that I need some dua & wazaif to bring him back in my life again.

Can my mother-in-law tell my husband not to spend time with me?

I do not understand why my mother in law hates me in this way! I accepted so far everything calmly up to now but since my husband started warning me with divorce and that i had to go and beg her for forgiveness and bend on my knees and ask them if i can sleep on the stair in front of their house i stopped talking to her because i believed she was much nicer then that and she started all the sudden with the hateful towards me behaviors.

Bullied and belittled by the in-laws I live with

I live in Pakistan. I was married in 2009. My husband is a very nice person. He takes care of me regarding my needs. He has 1 sister and 3 brothers. The problem is that my sister-in-law is married and she is almost 2 years younger than me. As she is the only one daughter or sister in her home so she is treated very specially. As I told earlier that she is married but still she lives in my father-in-laws home (we all live together). Her in-law’s home is nearby, but my mother-in-law prefers her to live here.

Her dad runs a brothel, and I’m concerned about the stigma

There is a wonderful lady (Muslim sister) that I’m in the process of getting married to. We have been together for some time and mashaAllah, i’ve met her parents. They are nice.

The little snag i have at the moment is this – she told me sometime ago that her dad has a brothel. Now I asked her what she felt about that and she said she disapproves.

My in-laws have driven me and my husband apart

One day when i came from work my sister-in-law started saying that i would not make food in the house as our cook had not come for 2 days and she got agitated… when i told her that v can speak and work out things.. but it went invain and she started hitting herself on her face.. and blew things out of proportion… my husband was involved in this and he also supported her saying that i am in fault…and removed other issues that my family does not respect him and in anger he broke the lcd television… he left the house and went for Goa for 4days…. i stayed with my in laws… they would not speak to me

Should I tell my husband about my Ex?

I made the mistake of falling in love with one of my cousins who told me that he cared a lot about me and wanted to marry me. After time passed by, the guy asked my parents for my rishta; however, my parents hated this cousin and they believed that he was not a good guy for me to marry…. the decision was up to me; I put a stone over my heart and feelings and for the sake of my parents’ happiness, I agreed not to marry him. My main concern and dilemma now is what I should tell my future husband about my cousin. I honestly have tried to be a good muslim daughter and respect my parents wishes, but still my life is full with obstacles due to my “ex” even though it occurred long ago. I am so scared and every night I cry myself to sleep worrying and wondering what will happen when I get married and when my cousin tries to cause problems for me.

Why in-laws don’t like widows and divorced women??

Is it in Islam? To hate the daughter in law who is their son’s wife, and not to accept her because she is widowed or divorced, or has a child? What? Why they can do like that? Because of society, because of relatives, and because of culture? How can they do that?

And some husbands also not standing up for their wives.. then who will support their wives? They have respect for the parents, but why don’t the parents have respect for their children?

what can i do if my in laws do not accept our marriage?

I had a love marriage with my husband without his parents’ knowledge. So they did not accept our marriage. They rejected me also because I have kids from my previous marriage.

My husband’s family married him to a second woman and they did not inform her about me. Now my husband lies to his parents and tells them that he left me.

Serious problems between my wife, my parents and my in-laws

My wife wants to stay with me (including my little child) here at Lahore but my family including my parents and a elder brother and his family are living 500 Kms away from Lahore. My family is not in the favour of this due to some financial issues because I am the only one who has to fulfill their financial needs. If my family shifts here then I will be able to give them little amount or half of that I am giving them currently.

Parents in law staying with you

Is it right for parents in law who have their own home, to come and stay with you and your husband and children? My privacy in my own home will be gone. They are good people, but I know that familiarity breeds contempt.