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Assalaamualeikum,

I am 29 yrs old.. married for 6 years with no kids.. mine was a love marriage but approved by family... after my marriage my mother in law started to have a lot of petty issues with me regarding household work.. regarding my parents .. as she felt they never repected her... because my mom did not give my hand in her hand formallyin mairrage... and such issues which were baseless...and she also put these thoughts in my husbands mind...she would not like me going out with my husband...and so my husband also stopped taking me out..i kept letting things go thinking that she did not have a husband.  and this out of frustration and loneliness. I tried my best to do as she would wish. to protect. the harmony of the house.

My sister in law has 2 children..she stays in Dubai..she got married with us...out of 6 years..for almost 4 years she stayed here in Mumbai..i always took her as a sister and stayed with her in the house without any complaint...infact even let her and her husband stay in our bedroom for 40 days after her first pregnancy. Now she delivered another child and will be staying here for almost a year or may be more than that becoz her husband is sharing his house in Dubai. with some bachelors due to financial crisis...

Now one day when i cam from work she started saying that i would not make food in the house as our cook had not come. for 2 days and she got agitated... when i told her that v can speak and work out things.. but . it went invain and she started hitting herself on her face.. and blew things out of proportion... my husband was involved in this and he also supported her saying that i am in fault...and removed other issues that my family does not respect him and in anger he broke the lcd television... he left the house and went for Goa. for 4days.... i stayed with my in laws... they would not speak to me... removed more petty issues to aggrevate the fight... wen i asked my husband to come back he told me he would come back after one more week.. that is the time i went to my momz place. for few days coz.  i thought staying there would worsen things...

After coming back he put acquisitions on me and my family that we have done black magic on them and i am responsible for not having a child... and we would get many women in his life but he would not get another mother and a sister.. he had also told my mother he would divorce me if spoke to his mother..he was not willing to speak to me nor meet me

Forgetting evrything i apologized to his mother and agreed for everything he wished because i wanted to save my marriage..

Since last 6 years i have been giving him watever i am earning.. yesterday he asked me for my last 2 months salary.. when i told him i am putting it another account for saving for a year ... he got very very agitated and humiliated me on the road...

I dont know what to do.. how do i. save my marriage.. i was jus trying to save some money for myself as he leaves me tomorrow.. i would me left with nuthing ... my parents are old and sick..am i wrong i doing that??

He insults my mother but tells me I have to live with her...to which i also agreed...

I need the right guidance... as i want to know that in Islam only mothers are to be respected ... wife does not have any rights??

Why do i have to suffer?? Am i in fault ?? dont i have the right to stay happy??

Please guide me with some solutions... as i am feeling very helpless.