Islamic marriage advice and family advice

Tag Archive for ‘Pressure’

Physical Exhaustion and whats the right balance between deen and dunya?

My friends adore me, alhamdulillah and I try to be there for them. But they tire me out. People tire me out. I can’t explain it. Just talking to people tires me out, drains all my energy away. So I am very selective. But I know they like my company. I’ve been told, I’m nice and etc, so alhamdulillah. I’m great in small groups, and just dispensing ideas, and planning advisory positions. Rubbish at service. I don’t know, is this a sign that I’m not being Islamic or is it just my personality or the way Allah swt made me. I don’t know.

Emotionally Abandoned and Depressed

I am a 25yr old female sent to study abroad by my mother. She is a doctor and forced me into doing medicine as well. I have spend the worst time of my life in these past 5 years, met all sorts of selfish people who cheated me and let me down….

Wife is being unreasonable and demanding and I don’t know what to do

For the ease of everyone and to wrap up fast, I’ll write the fast facts:

SUMMER 2008:
I and my wife got married, just the Nikah no reception. The reception (Walima) was supposed to take place when she finishes her education and I go to the US since her entire family (aunts, uncles and all) are living over there because they couldn’t come for the Nikah neither her parents because it was a really fast decision between the parents and both of us.

One month into a forced marriage, I have lost my happiness

I am a woman who has been married for one month and I am not a very happy soul. This marriage is a forced affair and was committed only for my parents sake. Being a Muslim I’m aware of the fact that I’m supposed to keep my husband happy and satisfied. In the process, I’m not happy myself.

Pressured into nikkah with my cousin

I got engaged to my cousin last year (may 2009) and I am very unhappy. I was brought up to believe that my marriage would be my choice and whenever I wanted it to be. Then my mum started pressurizing me about marrying my cousin who is back home but I didn’t want to. (within the period of a month, she tried every tactic to get me to say yes) she kept telling me this is for your happiness and bright future, he is a lovely man and so on.

Depressed from an unwanted divorce

I really love my husband and I don’t want talak from him, but now my in-laws are forcing me to give talak to him through court. I don’t understand what to do but I don’t want to lose my husband as well. I love him a lot & for that I need some dua & wazaif to bring him back in my life again.

Confused – which one should I marry?

I am confused about getting married. It’s a long story but I will try to make it short. I am from Pakistan but brought up in Saudi Arabia. I came to UK from Saudi Arabia to study over six years ago. When I came to UK, I stopped praying as I was on my own first time without my parents and I was quite young. A girl brought me back to my deen. I fell in love with her but when she realized this she had argument with me and stopped talking and completely cut all the contacts. Now 4 years later after she left, I have finished my masters. About a year ago, I met another girl on Muslim matrimonial site.